Who's tired of even looking ?

[codycr6]

It seems like it takes such an effort to try to meet people these days...how many of you are to the point of not even looking ? I mean, I browse the online dating stuff, and go to the local (small town) club scene, but I just don't find much that interests me. The funny thing is, when I was a little younger, I dated a ton. I never even had to think of who was next. Now that I am older and a little more settled, I find it hard to meet people with the same mindset as me. It seems that when I was younger, every girl wanted me to settle down from being on the wild side. Now that I actually am more settled and would probably make good husband material (fairly successful, love kids, mature, honest and faithful without fault, and done with the checklists), it's hard to meet anyone who will take me seriously. I know I recently read that people are waiting longer to get married (average age for men is 28, women is 25), but I don't want people think I am my kids grandfather when I am carrying him to gradeschool. In the meantime, being frustrated with the scene, I am throwing myself into advancing my career and making my race car faster. Basically to the point of just leaving it in the hands of "fate," and I have never believed in trusting something else to decide my course.

[TwntyCent]

I think looking is the fun part...although I found someone. But I had fun being single and examinating my dating options.

....but that could never beat being with my girl.

[beatlebabe]

*raises hand*


I've decided that while being single sucks, dating sucks even more.

[Monster]

I have found relatively constantly that it is at the exact moment that we no longer look for something that it finds us.

Case in point: my senior year of high school I declared on three separate occasions, "THAT'S IT! I'M GOING VOLUNTARILY CELIBATE! I GIVE UP!!!" Within 24 hours of each time I made that statement, someone came along and mucked it up.

So get as tired of it as you want, something--someONE one should hope--will find you, so long as you're willing to keep your senses open to it.

[lily]

I have found relatively constantly that it is at the exact moment that we no longer look for something that it finds us.

I've heard that about a bazillion times, and I'm sorry but that cliche needs to be put to rest.

I haven't been 'looking'. I've been too busy with other things... and the right one hasn't "found" me.

codycr6 - I can relate to a lot of what you said. It is hard to meet people with the same mindset... in fact, it's hard to meet nice guys at all, who are straight/unmarried, let alone someone with similar views/mindset.

Yeah, I agree with Beatle. It sucks. But I guess I just have to have more faith that there is someone out there that hasn't crossed my path yet.

[sapience]

Originally posted by Stage Monster
I have found relatively constantly that it is at the exact moment that we no longer look for something that it finds us.

Case in point: my senior year of high school I declared on three separate occasions, "THAT'S IT! I'M GOING VOLUNTARILY CELIBATE! I GIVE UP!!!" Within 24 hours of each time I made that statement, someone came along and mucked it up.

So get as tired of it as you want, something--someONE one should hope--will find you, so long as you're willing to keep your senses open to it.

I did the same thing (well, a variation). The result was a year and a half where I wasn't even interested in guys. I was planning on making it all the way through college (just another year and a half left) but I somehow mucked it up. :-P

[TheGreatMonkey]

I've not actively looked for somebody in some time. Then again, its not like I can go to a club or a bar. And I'm so damn pickey that chances are I'm not going to find any body I'm interested in there anyways...Oy...I need drugs.

[Robin ®]

I'm not looking for anyone right now, either.

Since I'm only recently divorced, I have decided that I need to concentrate on "me." I enjoy the freedom of doing what I want, when I want, and not have to answer to anyone. I figure that when the time is right, I'll meet that "Special Someone," but until then, I'm going to go out there and have fun.

[Foul Temptress]

Originally posted by beatlebabe1972
*raises hand*


I've decided that while being single sucks, dating sucks even more.

AMEN Sister!

[302Riz]

When I stopped looking, I found the love of my life

[ISUPonyBoy]

Originally posted by Stage Monster
I have found relatively constantly that it is at the exact moment that we no longer look for something that it finds us.

It's true. But it is also true that when a girl knows you're taken you are a bazillion times more attractive to her.

John

[igofast]

I don't know that I'll ever get passed the "dating" phase of a relationship. I've accepted this fact, it's not so bad.

[NaNaNaNa]

I absolutely hate dating, it's so stressful!!!

I've pretty much given up on finding a guy. Since I've graduated from college, I've found it really hard to meet cool people. I just don't even know where to go. I don't want to meet anyone at a bar because it's kind of scetch-ball for a girl to do that, but I don't do anything other than work and drink. I don't know what to do anymore.

Whatever, I'll just keep drowning my sorrows in boose.

[codycr6]

Just seems strange, so many people who have good qualities out there, and in this information age it is still hard to get togther. I really do hate the bar scene for meeting people. Going to them with friends or out on a date is one thing, but going trolling is another.

NaNaNa, want me to make a quick flight to Cali and we'll drown our sorrows together? I used to live in Santa Anna...wouldn't mind moving back.

[Guitarophile]

I just don't know how to relate to this kind of complaint. How is it that I, a fat loser brainiac, have never once needed to initiate a relationship or even to ask for a date, yet a day doesn't pass when I don't hear about someone who's sick of looking? Let them come to you! And if they don't come to you, it's because you're still not letting them. Re-evaluate your passivity and try harder to not try so hard. It'll work.

[TexasRed132]

I'm not looking for anything more then fun at the moment And who gets tired of fun?!

[sapience]

me. I can't stand fun for too long. sometimes I need to relax and do something serious.

[TwntyCent]

Why not combine fun and serious?

[TexasRed132]

Originally posted by 20_cent
Why not combine fun and serious?

That could work I suppose...

[beatlebabe]

Fun, serious, both, neither....right about now it'd be nice to date someone with a pulse......but then again, dating sucks, as I have previously stated