Making plans...

[xsivpwr]

Ok... i need some explination here... but before I ask, let me give ya some brief info on me... So far in my life Im a stay at home kinda guy... I want to go out, but I dont really have but a couple friends... and those friends are hermits seldom seeing the light of day..

Im a shy person, I cant just walk up to someone and strike a convo.... When I do go out, im 99% of the time, by myself... Occasionally seeing someone I know... usually just saying hi.. So right now, I see my only way in meeting people is over the internet.... Im tired of being all alone... So I find people in my area by yahoo searches and such.... and I chat with them... for any given length of time...

Heres the problem.... whenever i make plans.... pretty much with anyone... its either "sorry, im busy that day" or "i dont know what im doing that day"

What do ya have to do to make plans with people? I feel like noone wants to be around me at all... Im not that bad of a guy... Im a little depressed every now and then, but thats just cuz im lonely... i usually come out of it when im talkin to people...

Whats wrong with me? What do I have to do to attract some of you fair ladies?

[Kahani]

heh, you sound like me ... well, accept the "fair ladies" part ...

[Monster]

The internet presents an emotional barrier that many people have grown to love, and in many cases need. By suggesting you break thru that barrier and meet in real life is oftentimes too much for a person to handle. They have no trouble thinking of you as a "thing" online, even an online relationship, but to be real, there, right in front of them, in the flesh...that changes things drastically.

Nothing is wrong with you, but my answer to what you "have" to do to attract the fair ladies is just get out there, in the real world, be yourself, and don't be afraid of knowing the answer. Think about it, would you rather not say anything to a woman and wrestle with the thoughts that you might have just let one of the good ones slip through your fingers, or would you prefer to know the answer, even if that answer is "no" sometimes?

But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

[Shelter]

Man the only cure for shyness is confidence. If you just jump in with both feet and approach people the results will be very pleasing to you I would bet man. There is nothing to worry about really. The internet has a bit of a stigma attached to it. Go out in town to places and make sure you feel comfortable there. If you are at a place and feel uncomfortable it is horrible to try and meet people. I once had a shyness problem myself. I learned to overcome it and it was the best thing in the world for me. I wish ya luck man and hope things work out for you.
Tommy

[Jay13]

Just go out and meet people in places where people are looking to meet people. I know it sounds simple, but it really is. Don't use any of those cheesy lines, just walk up and introduce yourself. People on the internet want to talk to and meet people...on the internet. So go out and have fun, it gets easier with practice, I promise.