Todays Thoughts

[FallenAngel]

I’m actually starting to be jealous of people who are married. What’s weird though is I don’t want to be married yet I want the companionship that comes along with marriage. I can’t think of anything better then waking up next to the person you love, kissing them and getting ready for the day. Or coming home after a hard day, sad and having your partner waiting for you with a mug of your favorite tea cause he knows it’ll make you happy.

But sadly I don’t want that everyday! I like my space. But I also feel this is something I should want. I’m 28 years old, I’ll be 29 this September. Aren’t I supposed to be married with 2.5 kids by now? I guess I need to truly fall in love with someone. I think that’s my problem. I’ve been in many relationships but never with anyone that I wanted to be around all the time. I’ve never had a relationship where I’ve woken up and couldn’t wait to see that person. Is that wrong? Is that bad? In truth I don’t even know if I’m capable of that anymore. I’ve grown so much these past few years, but I did it alone. Well sorta. I had guidance from friends, but you know what I mean

I also wonder if I’m too trusting for my own good. I watch a friend of mine have failed relationships because she expects things that I wouldn’t. For example, her last boyfriend was talking to a girl on his cell phone and had been for awhile, and she flipped out because he hadn’t told her. Me, I wouldn’t have cared. My thinking on it is who cares who he talks to. He’s with me. Now if he was cheating then I would care and he’d be kicked the **** out of my life. That’s the other thing that is different with me. She gives lots of chances. Me, depending on the circumstance, you get one chance. One. You cheat on me, you’re done. You hit me, you’re done. I won’t even be friends with you after that. She falls in love easy and gives lots of chances.

In the end she experiences more then I do. But I don’t know who’s better for it.

Ok I went waaaaay off on a tangent this morning. Hooray for meds that make me so calm I can analyze my brain.

[Gibson]

Originally Posted by FallenAngel

I’m actually starting to be jealous of people who are married. What’s weird though is I don’t want to be married yet I want the companionship that comes along with marriage. I can’t think of anything better then waking up next to the person you love, kissing them and getting ready for the day. Or coming home after a hard day, sad and having your partner waiting for you with a mug of your favorite tea cause he knows it’ll make you happy.

I feel the same way. I've been wanting to be married for years oddly enough. If only I didn't have to date to do it

I’m 28 years old, I’ll be 29 this September. Aren’t I supposed to be married with 2.5 kids by now?

Like hell you are 28 is MAYBE the age you should START thinking about having kids...

[FallenAngel]

I guess I’m just basing my reasoning off of my parents. My mom was 19 when she had me.

And you don’t have to date to find someone you want to marry M

[Dr.Doom]

Marrige is overrated. You guys are so young too. I would never consider marrige unless i was at least in my 30's. I have seen so many young people married and it never work out.

[Dr.Doom]

Originally Posted by Gibson

I feel the same way. I've been wanting to be married for years oddly enough. If only I didn't have to date to do it

No offence but why why. Only women want to be married whats wrong with you?

[FallenAngel]

Oh I’ve seen it too. My brother and his wife are getting a divorce. They were both 19 when they got married and had their son. That was 5 years ago and in that time they separated twice and finally this last separation made them realize it just doesn’t work between them. Doesn’t help that she cheated on him twice either.

My mom and my birth father married when she was 19 as well. She was pregnant with me at the time and they were divorced a year later.

[Gibson]

Originally Posted by Dr.Doom

No offence but why why. Only women want to be married whats wrong with you?

I don't want to date, but I want female companionship. Marriage seems to be the route for that

[Dr.Doom]

why be tied down. dating is more fun. You dont want to date but you just want a female. What if she is a bitch how would you know without dating? Just get yourself a mail order bride. Im not married but I know marrige is hard work and its not all that its cracked up to be. You have got to love the ever living sh*t out of each other for it to work. Young people have NO buisness what so ever being married.

[Gibson]

Originally Posted by Dr.Doom

why be tied down. dating is more fun. You dont want to date but you just want a female. What if she is a bitch how would you know without dating? Just get yourself a mail order bride. Im not married but I know marrige is hard work and its not all that its cracked up to be. You have got to love the ever living sh*t out of each other for it to work. Young people have NO buisness what so ever being married.

You'd of course know the person you're marrying first. You'd be bf/gf for a long, long period of time beforehand.
That's the idea, to love "the everliving shit out of each other"