Just a lil' curious here

[enola]

I think I finally put it into a concept I CAN understand, although it seems so very hypocritical even then.

Say I am mad at my husband. I can tell him he is being a prick. He is my husband, I love him, but when he's being a prick, then I say so. Doesn't take the love I have for him when he does something prickish. Same with him getting peeved at me and saying I'm being bitchy.

Now, if a complete stranger or even a friend says to my husband that he is a prick, or they say I am being bitchy, I will be all over that person for daring to call MY husband a prick just as he would be all over that person for saying I am being bitchy.

In short....WE can. THEY can't.

Does that about sum it up?

[Malcolm Wright]

I think I finally put it into a concept I CAN understand, although it seems so very hypocritical even then.

Say I am mad at my husband. I can tell him he is being a prick. He is my husband, I love him, but when he's being a prick, then I say so. Doesn't take the love I have for him when he does something prickish. Same with him getting peeved at me and saying I'm being bitchy.

Now, if a complete stranger or even a friend says to my husband that he is a prick, or they say I am being bitchy, I will be all over that person for daring to call MY husband a prick just as he would be all over that person for saying I am being bitchy.

In short....WE can. THEY can't.

Does that about sum it up?

Yes - that's a good example to illustrate the important of context.
When you tell your husband he's being a prick, the subtext is, you're being a prick but I still love you.
When a stranger tells him he's being a prick, the subtext could be any number of more serious things.

Thanks
M

[enola]

Yes - that's a good example to illustrate the important of context.
When you tell your husband he's being a prick, the subtext is, you're being a prick but I still love you.
When a stranger tells him he's being a prick, the subtext could be any number of more serious things.

Thanks
M

I knew we would eventually have some sort of meeting of the mind.