Often when I hear about a nasty divorce online and sometimes offline with family,friends and co-workers. I hear the same type of gory details about the "other" spouse's behavior. The wives or husbands often sound like monsters, jerks, morons, abusers, drunks and on and on.
The question I often ask is this:
Did he/she change that much or did you fall in love with this awful person?
My husband is the same man I met so long ago. He has the same irritating flaws and the same good stuff that made me fall in love. Even the stuff that annoys me is no surprise because he was that way when we met.
Do spouses actually do these bahavior 180s sometimes?