Up until this June, I had a job that I absolutely loved. I got up every morning looking forward to work, always got to work ontime, hardly called in sick and never took a full weeks vacation while I was at my job.

June 13th I found out I was getting laid off due to a merger and massive cutbacks. Ever since then I have gone through all the emotions. First, it was dissapointment that all the hard work I did was all for nothing. Then it was anger because I felt I didnt deserve to get laid off since I did so much and was well liked. Then came the depression since I was getting married in 3 months and I didnt have a job. Thats what killed me the most. Here I was about to take the biggest step in my life, and I couldnt even support my future wife. What made it worse was that I went on 12 interviews in a month and a half and I didnt get a job. Only one place was kind enough to call me back to tell me that I wasnt hired. All the other places didnt even call me or email me a peep.

I was so stressed out, I lost my appetite completely and lost 30lbs, and lost a decent amount of hair.

It has been hard for me to find another permanent job, the only thing I was able to get was a temporary job which pays OK but its not enough for me to put money away to buy a house. I had a good run for awhile now, all of a sudden it feels like my career is going nowhere. So, now I have been thinking of a career change but I cant quite figure out what I want to go back to school for and what I want to do for the next 25-30 years.

My wife tells me that everything will be OK and will work itself out. Its hard for me to argue with her since shes right a majority of the time. I just feel like I am being left behind since all of my friends have gotten their careers in order and are successful.

School is an option but it is getting increasingly expensive to go anywhere. I dont want to end up back in debt, I dont want to go to school to get a bachelors degree and end up working at McDonalds. Which does happen often around here.

I dont know what to do.

Aviation Management :nice:

pay isn't great, but it's fun work :D You could come here and work

Dont want to move out of NY state until I retire but anything other than IT sounds good.

We've been where you are now. It is hard. Your wife is correct in that something will work out- it always does...the ride isn't fun, but it will work out. If someone told me that I/we would be where we are right now- I'd have laughed my arse off. The one thing I have learned in life thus far- is that expect the unexpected and get ready to for the 'nevers' to happen. Hang in there, you are lucky to have an understanding wife.

I've heard that anyone can get on with Ops at the port authority. One of my buds said the Ops girl he talked to used to work in a toll both :shrug:

We've been where you are now. It is hard. Your wife is correct in that something will work out- it always does...the ride isn't fun, but it will work out. If someone told me that I/we would be where we are right now- I'd have laughed my arse off. The one thing I have learned in life thus far- is that expect the unexpected and get ready to for the 'nevers' to happen. Hang in there, you are lucky to have an understanding wife.

Yea, probably the only thing that went right for me this year was getting married. My wife is awesome and she is understanding and loyal to a fault. For that I love her very much. I want to do well for her. I want to spoil her rotten and I want to enjoy the simple things in life. I dont need to have a huge mansion on the water, or a Benz sitting on 22s in the driveway. At least, I am not in debt and I have a large chunk of change in the bank that I can fall back on if I fall on harder times. But I dont see that happening. So all is not too bad, I suppose.

I guess what bothers me more is that if this merger didnt take place, I would still have my job and would have been on cruise control in a few short years. Everyone knew I pulled my own weight and then some, people knew I got the shaft but there was nothing they could do to help me keep my job. I will never forget the feeling I got when I was told I was getting my walking papers. I nearly cried. My manager had to hold back her emotions. Its hard when you know you worked for the New York Stock Exchange and now you cant get a crappy half way decent job.

Sometimes life forces you to take a path you didn't initially choose. You can keep looking back, or you can make the most of the journey you're on.
It may not be the road to success you envisioned, but it might have a pretty decent view & some great stops along the way.
All in all, the most important things are that you have a loving, caring, supportive partner, your health, and the desire to do great things. That's not such a bad deal.
Life has some cool stuff in store for you, but you have to let things fall into place.

That's either comforting words or a bunch of malarkey. I hope it's the former, because I've had to start over too many times myself.
I hope there's meaning in it all.

Sometimes life forces you to take a path you didn't initially choose. You can keep looking back, or you can make the most of the journey you're on.

I am making the best of my current situation, It might pay off in the end. I wont know for awhile though. I wouldnt look back so much if there wasnt so much uncertainty now.

It may not be the road to success you envisioned, but it might have a pretty decent view & some great stops along the way.
I have made a friend in this current situation, so it isnt too bad.

All in all, the most important things are that you have a loving, caring, supportive partner, your health, and the desire to do great things. That's not such a bad deal.
There isnt a day that goes by that I thank god that I have my wife in my life. Shes the one who has gotten me through all this the past 6 months. Shes been my rock. Ive had my moments where I broke down but she dusted me of and told me to get back on my feet. (I could only handle so much stress at once, my parents werent helping matters either). Before I die, I want to leave my mark. I dont know how Im going to do it, but I will find a way. I am capable of great things, I just need the time and patience to do it.

Life has some cool stuff in store for you, but you have to let things fall into place.
I welcome lifes challenges, what doesnt kill me will only make me stronger. Whatever I have learned in my life I hope to pass on to my children so they can become successful, happy, well grounded individuals.


That's either comforting words or a bunch of malarkey. I hope it's the former, because I've had to start over too many times myself.
I hope there's meaning in it all.

Its comforting. I have grown wiser these past 6 months. Whatever experinces I have gone through I will apply to any future job or situations. I guess in a way I am better off despite of it. Good friends and family can get you through the worst of times and I appreciate it very much..

Did I read in a different thread that you were going to apply for the NYPD?

Did I read in a different thread that you were going to apply for the NYPD?

I already applied to take the test, Im going to take it in January or February of next year. It would be a cool gig to have, to walk the beat somewhere in Manhattan or Brooklyn but the NYPD has a tendency of throwing the rookies into all the bad areas. I dont mind helping people out and I absolutely love NYC. It would be great if I can combine the 2.

My cousin is in the ESU unit of the NYPD and he seems to enjoy it.

For some reason I can see you as a cop. I don't know why. My best friend is a cop and he loves it. Great benefits, an incredible retirement plan, and the sombitch is off like at least 4 days a week. He always calls me at work to piss me off, rubbing it in by cracking open a beer on the phone.

For some reason I can see you as a cop. I don't know why. My best friend is a cop and he loves it. Great benefits, an incredible retirement plan, and the sombitch is off like at least 4 days a week. He always calls me at work to piss me off, rubbing it in by cracking open a beer on the phone.

Its something I have thought about on and off for a few years now. It would be nice not to sit behind a desk all day pounding on a keyboard. The bennies are good and you get to retire after 20 years with half pay. If I wanted to get 4 days off Id probably have to work double shifts 3 days out of the week. Im sure after 5-10 years you wont have to work as hard as a rookie.

Its comforting. I have grown wiser these past 6 months. Whatever experinces I have gone through I will apply to any future job or situations. I guess in a way I am better off despite of it. Good friends and family can get you through the worst of times and I appreciate it very much..

When they say you'll never walk alone, they mean it.
You would be amazed the people one can touch without knowing. Even here at DA, there's many of us who know what you are going through & are hoping for the best. There's many hands to hold you up, don't lose faith!

When they say you'll never walk alone, they mean it.
You would be amazed the people one can touch without knowing. Even here at DA, there's many of us who know what you are going through & are hoping for the best. There's many hands to hold you up, don't lose faith!

I wont forget ;). For awhile, I had lost all hope. Now I feel that good things are around the corner but I just have to stay positive and be patient. Which is hard for me to do. :hmm: But I always think of what my wife has said to me and it always sets me straight. Most of the time I am my worst enemy, I just expect more out of myself.

Im going back to my old job, found out this morning. :) I literally got it back in 10 minutes. My old boss emailed me this morning asking me if I wanted to come back due to 2 people leaving I told him hells yes.

He called me back 10 minutes later asking me if I can start tomorrow. I told him Ill start on tuesday. This is a good way to end a crappy year and a good way to start off the new year. :)

Im going back to my old job, found out this morning. :) I literally got it back in 10 minutes. My old boss emailed me this morning asking me if I wanted to come back due to 2 people leaving I told him hells yes.

He called me back 10 minutes later asking me if I can start tomorrow. I told him Ill start on tuesday. This is a good way to end a crappy year and a good way to start off the new year. :)

Great ****ing news, jerkey-ass!!!!!!!!!!! :nice:

He likes you enough to hire you back. You couldn't ask for more than that.

Take your vacation and sick time. Ease up just enough to let the stress go, but continue to kick ass for the man.

Congrats

what job was that? The one on wall street?

Congratulations!!! I hope you'll still take the NYPD test in January, though !

Congrats! :cool: That sort of thing definitely doesn't happen every day!

Twinkles does have a point, though - don't put "Plan B" totally on the back burner.

Good for you Riz, glad to hear it.

I still have a chance to get a job with Verizon, when they call, I will take it.

See. Everything does work out.