As some of you know from my whine cellar posts, I'm going through a nasty divorce, and have been currently on the market doing a lot of dating.

Well, I've decided to take a long break from dating and women altogether.

The fact is I've found over the past six months or so that I'm a pretty good date. It appears that women seem to find me more attractive and charming than I gave myself credit for. I don't understand it, it must be a girl thing. Anyway, I've been on numerous dates with a ton of them, and pretty much every time I ended up sleeping with them. The thing is, that it doesn't really make me happy. It's nice to get my rocks off with a new girl every week or so, but it's not what I'm really looking for in life. There's a huge difference between making love and screwing.

I'm a father, and I'd rather spend time with my kid than go out with whatever girl pops my way. I'm much happier being a father and spending quality time with my kid than spending my time poking some random chick.

There's always going to be an empty spot in my life, I've come to accept that now. I've decided this is a better way. Being a father helps to fill that void better than any date ever will, and I owe it to my daughter.

Good for you Betty.....!!!

It is interesting to read your testimonial and wonder if you hadn't taken the opportunity "poking some random chick," then would you have as great an appreciation for spending quality time with your daughter (and wife?).

Perhaps we only know how green the grass is on out side of the fence until we climb over it.

Awwwww. You're such a good Daddy. :)



This is probably atleast half of the reason teh wimminz like ya. You're just sweet, plain and simple. :D

...(and wife?)....

If you'd read the beginning of the post a bit more carefully, I'd say it's probably safe to say that's really not going to be an option.

I think you need to give yourself time to heal. Just give yourself time. :)

Good decision Betty!

Your daughter is going to benefit by you not being involved in unhealthy temporary liaisons. But don't assume that you will never have another relationship - you are still in a transition phase. At some point, you may very well meet someone who can be a real partner.

Good decision Betty!

Your daughter is going to benefit by you not being involved in unhealthy temporary liaisons. But don't assume that you will never have another relationship - you are still in a transition phase. At some point, you may very well meet someone who can be a real partner.

I've looked at that logically, but it just isn't realistic around here. I prefer women my own age, late 20's to maybe early 30's because of the maturity factor. Problem is, they're either married, or have serious things wrong with their personality(like my ex wife). The only real option is one of those "professional" types who sacrificed family and social life for carreer and are unmarried at this age. There's a few of those in Palm Springs, but since I'm here turning down higher paying jobs for the chance to stay here at the school teaching Marines as a GS9, I'm the type that's more concerned with job satisfaction than a paycheck. From their standpoint my decision is completely irresponsible, while from mine, it's perfect. I probably wouldn't get along with someone like that.

...The only real option is one of those "professional" types who sacrificed family and social life for career and are unmarried at this age. ....

There is another option within this option. Not for now, of course - for when you're ready. By then, you may be a bit more amenable to it. Bear with me a sec, and read on.

... I'm the type that's more concerned with job satisfaction than a paycheck. ....

If you can raise the upper end of the age bracket a bit, you may find women who are slightly older will be a good fit here.

There's no rush, Betty, a good woman is worth the wait. Nice to see you around more, BTW :nice:

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I've looked at that logically, but it just isn't realistic around here. I prefer women my own age, late 20's to maybe early 30's because of the maturity factor. Problem is, they're either married, or have serious things wrong with their personality(like my ex wife). The only real option is one of those "professional" types who sacrificed family and social life for carreer and are unmarried at this age. There's a few of those in Palm Springs, but since I'm here turning down higher paying jobs for the chance to stay here at the school teaching Marines as a GS9, I'm the type that's more concerned with job satisfaction than a paycheck. From their standpoint my decision is completely irresponsible, while from mine, it's perfect. I probably wouldn't get along with someone like that.


"When you least expect it
You're selected"

You never know when your path will cross someone who really suits you - so just make sure not to have your life cluttered up with a bunch of debris-relationships.

Thats really great post betty...I've always found the best things have just 'happened' and not come from 'dates' I've gone on...but its hard in those interim times. But thats really great that you feel your daughter and being a father better vills that void...

"When you least expect it
You're selected"

You never know when your path will cross someone who really suits you - so just make sure not to have your life cluttered up with a bunch of debris-relationships.


Good advice ! And it sees all of you have good advice ,I'm a bit surprised , even though I knew deep down yall are good .

The part about relationship debree is the best though I think . We get up with a little bit of everyone we lay with on us for life !

I'm just glad Betty doing better . I don't much cae for organized religian of today , but at least they try to live good . maybe Betty could try to find a nice young lady in church .

I agree with what boe said. :)

and Manu!

It's good to see you, Betty!