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02-22-2006, 11:39 AM
Beautiful is telling someone they are worth of sex, or sexually appealing.
If I could call it a mistake, I would say basing one's identity on their sexuality is the greatest; a folly to which there is no recuperation.
They say "if he looks, he's interested." But then again they are used to them watching. If he isn't looking then ok. But it leaves no room for an accidental look or quick examination.
We all live with much anxiety: men want a virgin *****, and women want a sensitive warrior.
Experiencing beauty is like eating fruit: sweet, refreshing, but fleeting and easily forgotten. Wrapping you mind around the concept is just as good as chasing the wind.
not all come in the usual packages. if it is in the "eye of the beholder," then I have found them all.
Do you have poetry? do you have sincerity? how can you possibly expect to woo a woman without these?
I put nothing past hyperbole, or the truth.
I am forced to forget them though they are so distinct. there are just so many-who can have them all.
we see them as symbols, they see themselves as flesh. though at times, they too, marvel at their tools of enticement.
Oh men, how easily we fall in love.
Men are predictable-they want sex all the time. woman are unpredictable-they want both sex and intimacy. they will also not reveal themselves completely because then they would become predictable. once predictable, they can be exploited, namely for sex. their natural ambivalence toward sex is not easily understood by men. sex is the body, and the body is a human's most cherished and precious possesion. exploiting them for their body is the reason why there is mistrust of men.
...and so I told him "go find trust my son. go find trust.":D
03-23-2006, 01:41 PM
...and so I told him, "boy, be comfortable. comfortable and calm. in this way your advances will be well recieved, and you can in turn give them security; there is nothing worse than abuse, and no pain like loss." he then asked "will sureness of identity suffice?" Smiling I told him, "only if the first two are accounted for."
women are looking to be pleasured; they might have searched through many potentials. men will always be pleasured, but it is a woman who will be reviled.
don't feel that you can't look, don't feel that you have to.
I will not be obliged by her overt attempts to grasp my attention.
expect nothing, anticipate nothing.
let them laugh, let them joy. why would you want to spoil them with your sex thristy lust.
they will never know the extent to which we love them. such is life I guess.
the world is throne to which hot chicks sit comfortably, and a floor to which they play. a place also that they disregard as trivial as well.
if they have realized a man's (or an animal's) greatest ambition or goal--if merely by biological privilege--then they should be treated with man's greatest effort. yet that is not what some of them want, and delight in second best...if even that.
we construct to predict and understand. it then becomes to control.
they female body is one of God's triumphs. so much so that until he turns us off, we will marvel.
if history repeats itself, then reinterpretation of documents is the greatest of sorrows.
it is natural for humans to want recognition for their accomplishments. if not given, then they will make for themselves symbols to replace.
interest with out ambition is nothing short of clumsiness, and nothing more than stalking.
03-23-2006, 01:46 PM
03-24-2006, 12:42 AM
the irony in distinguishing oneself as intelligent is forgetting that at one time you were not, and those to whom you feel aren't, are trodding the same path you've recently taken.
04-22-2006, 06:52 AM
This subject was apart of my last test for developmental psyke.
There is such a term "Matching Hypothesis." It's basically the whole "league" argument and it says that you attempt a relationship with someone that you feel is in or around your own physical attractiveness. That you are attracted to a fine girl has nothing to do with it, just that whom you will approach won't be someone that far from your own looks. And according to research, self-esteem will generally dictate whom you feel is in your league, despite the truth (ugly or gorgeous).
Also pretty girls have had many overtures b/c of their looks. Some don't develope certain prosocial skills that might otherwise be encumbent on average girls to learn. This is not an absolute. Further, they interpret every encounter with a member of the opposite sex as another attempt at having a romantic relationship with them, and thus have put on those rose colored glasses.
Some guys are intimidated for a few reasons. My own ideas have more to do with the guy and a few fears that I can identify even within myself. They all are interconnected but I feel all are different.
A fear of rejection. Obvious and common reason is this right here. Being told no has been socialized as a negative, instead of maybe a precautionary boundary. That we take limits as a qualitative bad is what makes a girl's personal choice and preference so damaging to our social being, and is almost interpretted as punitively wrong. This goes into the next fear.
A fear of loss. Guys think they can have any girl. Of course this is unrealistic, but every girl we see that looks good to us we have it in our minds that not only can we have it, but that she is already ours. A little over zealous and self-righteous but a fact nonetheless. However being rejected takes us from our fantasy world back into the real world, and strips us of our ethereal pleasure. We don't want that, and some guys are content with looking, even if they have an intense desire to possess. This goes into the next fear.
A fear of loss of manhood. Go ahead and laugh. The fact is that men have been socialized to achieve. We need to achieve physical possessions, and this is not limited to things you can buy. So then, not only can we have her; no only do we have her; but it is our right to have and so then we SHOULD have her. The "should" part being the most important in that statement. Because social standards say that you are a true man depending on the quality and quantity of the possessions in your ownership. If you do not have is to say you are lacking, or haven't reached the ideal state of manhood. Being told no is the clearest and fastest way to coming to the realization that you don't measure up to societies norms. Conversely, if you have a hot girlfriend, you recieve all kinds of positive reinforcement from males and females alike and of different age groups.
I feel there is an interplay between these three that deter men away from hot chicks.
Also, there is research that says that people, men or women, who seem to be infalliable become undesirable, even if they are gorgeous. People believe that they are "too perfect." They don't measure up or are inadequate are the reasons, so they cognitively rule them out. However showing flashes of approachableness, making yourself temporarily an ass, or doing something that they feel you wouldn't do reopens the feelings towards you should you be in this privilaged class.
Personally, I don't see why girls don't take the first step forward, instead of just parading themselves around a guy hoping to be spotted.=T
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