Question number three.

How often do you and your partner fight? Everyone fights occasionally, or so I'm told. But how much is too much?

My gf and I have a big fight once a week (She will disagree and say they are only discussions). Whatever she calls it, they are rough. We yell and swear (words that have never escaped my lips before, issue forth, quite amazing actually), and talk about breaking up.

She says it's normal. Everyone argues. I think this is what her family was like, brutal honesty and openess. Not mine, we quietly bitched under our breaths and let it go.

I hate arguments. I wish we never argued. Is it possible to never argue?

no way man... every relationship also will have arguments or whatever... so u found it hard??? try to be relax... its normal... but u say once a week... maybe its... quite too much... but no 1 will fight if there is nothing wrong with it... there must be something thats why u ppl fight, so maybe u can try to avoid that... so u gotta be smart in doing something heh... anyways, up to u bro... n also take it easy... small matter man... u still can stand it dont u

that's not a healthy relationship.

My gf and I have a big fight once a week (She will disagree and say they are only discussions). Whatever she calls it, they are rough. We yell and swear (words that have never escaped my lips before, issue forth, quite amazing actually), and talk about breaking up.

She says it's normal. Everyone argues. I think this is what her family was like, brutal honesty and openess. Not mine, we quietly bitched under our breaths and let it go.


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That's not normal. Your relationship will not succeed.

Man I'd take about two weeks of that crap then I'd be out the door. Life is too short to spend it miserable with someone.

Been dating my current gf for 5 1/2 months (been in an official relationship for 2 1/2 of them). We haven't fought once yet.

The trick is that as soon as something bothers one of us, we talk about it calmly and openly with th other person. We don't wait for it to fester inside of us and become some rotting, seething pit of personal hatred. There's none of that two-week-old shit brought up in our discussions, unless it's relevant but wasn't before.

Man I'd take about two weeks of that crap then I'd be out the door. Life is too short to spend it miserable with someone.

Ditto.

If this has become a common occurence, and it was part of how she was raised, then it's not likely to stop unless you make it stop. I dunno, if she's that important to you, you could suggest seeing a couples therapist to find better, healthier ways of "arguing." Or at least ask her if, when she's angry, she could take a few minutes to calm down before discussing it. Because this really doesn't sound healthy, especially if it's making you unhappy. Like Myst said, it isn't worth it if you're gonna be miserable.

I dont think you should be arguing that much. I mean disagreeing is one thing but it sounds like yall are fighting pretty intensely.

I have never had a yelling, swearing fight with my boyfriend, we've been together for a little over 2 1/2 years. I just think it's wrong to fight with someone like that, I don't consider it normal in a relationship at all.

Well, on the other end of the spectrum, I can't imagine having a relationship in which there weren't heated arguments. Not on a daily basis, but having different ideas, and being agressive in defending them - that's just hot. I want passion in every room of the house. Otherwise, it's just wishy-washy, and I've lost interest. =/ Maybe there's something wrong with me? :p