Alright here's the deal.... my ex who i havent seen in person in over a year came on to msn today and began asking me questions... then when she found out i was on reading week she suggested i come over today at 3pm....

Now we've been talking over the phone/msn sporadically this past year or so... sometimes she acts kinda uncivil with me and tells lies, other times she acts really nice to me and goes on an apology rant on all the things that happened after our break up...

My question is... should i interpret this invitation as a genuine act of friendship, an act of desperation brought on by Valentine's day.... or should i just assume she's pulling my leg to see how gullible i can be?

I still care about her... but on the other hand most of my friends are tellling me to stay away from her... should i go over and play the friendship card or should i just cut her off from my life and move on?

Seeing her won't hurt. The girl is likely insane, insecure and immature but nothing says anything has to happen between you two. The only real question is if you would like to see her. If you would like to, then go hang out.

Maybe it's your V.D day bootie call. enjoy.

When in doubt, don't - unless you have a lot of spare emotional capital to waste.

sometimes she acts kinda uncivil with me and tells lies
Why would you continue to have any relationship with her at all? Cut ties.

It depends. Post a picture.

Seeing her won't hurt. The girl is likely insane, insecure and immature but nothing says anything has to happen between you two. The only real question is if you would like to see her. If you would like to, then go hang out.

insecure and a little demented (like me) but at least she has the excuse of having had a really tough childhood and generally f* uped life...

When in doubt, don't - unless you have a lot of spare emotional capital to waste.

I've been through a lot these past weeks... dealing with Amy shouldn't be too strenuos in comparison....

Why would you continue to have any relationship with her at all? Cut ties.

cause beneath that self defensive hostility and unopeness she has with most people lies a really sweet and genuine personality that i used to love... she has been through hell yet she has survived it rather well might i add..

So? She's an ex and doesn't treat you well. Move on.

It depends. Post a picture.


sorry i have no pics of her... what i can tell you is that she's blond, blue eyed, got an athletic build, she's 4"11... and she used to be a hardcore diver

...sometimes she acts kinda uncivil with me and tells lies, other times she acts really nice to me and goes on an apology rant on all the things that happened after our break up...

Why bother with this crap? I'd listen to your friends.

Well if she is as bad as you make her out to be I'm going to have to suggest not hanging out with her. Only if you can deal with it and not be personally affected would I suggest it. There are a lot of better women out there to spend your time on.

Trust your friends.

I learned this lesson the hard way. ESPECIALLY when dealing with ex-girlfriends, you need to trust your friends. When your emotions have overridden your brain, you should rely on those who know you better than you know yourself in those moments.

This, of course, is assuming you have worthwhile friends and are not associating with losers.

surely if you still care about her and I assume you are single judging by the fact that its valentines day we are tlking bout then maybe you should go round and see her. If she wants more and you don't then stop her and if she jsut wants friendship then you could do that to. You say shes a had a hard life so far and you cared about her well then surely this is your chance to be there for her - then again if really do want to move on then accepting ambigous requests prob isnt the best idea you could always jsut ask her straight out- is it friends you want or more then you will bother be clear. YOu don't make it clear - do you want to get back with her ?

Trust your friends.

I learned this lesson the hard way. ESPECIALLY when dealing with ex-girlfriends, you need to trust your friends. When your emotions have overridden your brain, you should rely on those who know you better than you know yourself in those moments.

This, of course, is assuming you have worthwhile friends and are not associating with losers.


One thing is for sure... i couldn't ask for better friends :) I'm sensationally lucky when it comes to that department...

Thank you everyone for your input! I ended up going over and we talked for a half hour or so.... but i didn't get why she wanted me to come yesterday of all days when she was busy with an essay...

And Afraid (sorry it wouldn't let me multiquote for some reason) but i have no intentions of getting back with my ex... i want a friendship at most...

its ok to have a friendship... but make sure u know whats good for u, make sure u know how to control your self... n make clear of your self... nvr let anything blind your eye, stay alert!!!

run, dont walk, run

Well its good you went over there, you wont wonder about things now. You know you want to be friends and if she wants something else/more then you have to cut ties off but if she just wants friendship, there is no harm in that.