Oh where to begin. I've got a list of questions I need help on, but this would be a good start.

My girlfriend. Wonderful woman that she is. Has a problem with me remaining friends with my ex's. She also has a problem with my female friends as well.

I can kind of understand her issue with my ex's. I'm sure it would be a little unsettling for her to have me all alone with someone that I was intimate with. Although, the thought of her with an ex doesn't really bother me that much. I trust that she would not do anything I should be worried about. I wish she would do the same.

As far as my female friends. I think this is ridiculous. They are friends, they are female, so what.

I can give up being friends with my ex's, I suppose. Although they are only friends now, just friends, not like I would do anything with them. I'm with her, I wish you would understand that, stop being so jealous. I love you not them. I'm not going to cheat on you.....uhm...back to earth Munky. Anyhoo.

What is you opinion? Is that what is supposed to happen? Do you let your ex's go? Do you let your friends go, ones that you've known since childhood? I dunno.

Let me know.

I always hear of this being a problem. Someone will be able to throw in some insight. I cannot as I've only ever had one ex and she is definately not my friend anymore.
I would think that she should trust you, but coming from her side I know that'd be tough. I think the only thing you can do is remain friends with them and maybe incorporate your girlfriend into your normal friends things? :shrug:

I bet she trusts YOU, but she doesn't trust THEM. I think that's the major issue that she's having :shrug:

if your gf really cant take it then how... u gotta choose 1...... either friendship or gf.... bu i dun think it will go that far isnt it.. just try not to c your ex so often... half year later i think everything should be alright

Maybe it's because women realize the truth about men, which is that we are only as faithful as our options.
She doesn't want you to have options other than her.

Oh where to begin. I've got a list of questions I need help on, but this would be a good start.

My girlfriend. Wonderful woman that she is. Has a problem with me remaining friends with my ex's. She also has a problem with my female friends as well.

I can kind of understand her issue with my ex's. I'm sure it would be a little unsettling for her to have me all alone with someone that I was intimate with. Although, the thought of her with an ex doesn't really bother me that much. I trust that she would not do anything I should be worried about. I wish she would do the same.

As far as my female friends. I think this is ridiculous. They are friends, they are female, so what.

I can give up being friends with my ex's, I suppose. Although they are only friends now, just friends, not like I would do anything with them. I'm with her, I wish you would understand that, stop being so jealous. I love you not them. I'm not going to cheat on you.....uhm...back to earth Munky. Anyhoo.

What is you opinion? Is that what is supposed to happen? Do you let your ex's go? Do you let your friends go, ones that you've known since childhood? I dunno.

Let me know.

Hey Man, I can kind of relate to this, but from the female's perspective.

My husband and I met about 6 years ago when I was around 26. I am fortunate to have a lot of friends, and about 30% of them are male. I consider my friends my family, so telling me to give them up wouldn't have flown too far. But he never did. I just told him the scoop, and he could either trust me, or not :shrug:
As far as remaining friend's with your ex.... If you can do it, then I say go for it. My ex and I tried it, but his new girlfriend was insanely jealous of me :rolleyes: I guess I would be too if every time he ran into me he talked and talked and forgot she was even there :hmm:
My point is, I would have loved to have remained friends with this man. Hell, I wish we were friends today. You need to be honest with your new girl, and tell her that she can trust you.

How old are you, btw?

In order to maintain the friendships with your exes and have your girlfriend be comfortable, they have to be nice to her and hopefully make friends with her so she can trust them.

My husband has a lot of ex girlfriends that he is still friends with and one in particular was pure evil to me, after years of being consumed by hating her I finally decided to suck up to her and try to be friends. We are very very different people and I suspect she still doesn't like me but at least we are civil to each other on the surface and can have a conversation. I email her now and then to keep up with pleasantries but it's hard to sincerely consider someone a friend when you suspect they look down on you.

Another one of his ex girlfriends is sweet as honey to my face but whenever I wasn't around she tried to convince him to leave me that our relationship was no good, etc, and do the same thing to me about him when he wasn't around. Once we caught onto it we didn't spend so much time with her anymore even though she was one of the only people we knew iin Seattle. Then when we finally got married, she hasn't spoken to us since. So whatever.

And there are others that I've never gotten to know real well but they are always very pleasant when we do interact so I like and trust them just fine.

If one of your exes is a serious bitch to your girlfriend you just have to decide where your loyalties lie. At the very least you should demand that they be nice to her even if they aren't friends. Ideally they would be friends.

It takes two to tango. It doesn't matter whether your ex's want to hook up with you again, or whether your female friends want to turn it into something more. If YOU are faithful, then your girlfriend has nothing to worry about.

So there's only one possible explanation for why she wants you to stop seeing them. She doesn't trust you. Now there's two explanations for why she doesn't trust you. Either A. you're not trustworthy, or B. she's a cheater.

If you're not trustworthy, she might be trying to force you to be faithful by forcing you not to see any other female, ever. That's rediculous, because if you're a cheater, you can cheat nomatter what. But she doesn't want to accept that, so she pretends that she can control you.

If she's a cheater, she might be "projecting" her own tendancies onto you. Cheaters tend to expect everyone else to cheat, too. The least trusting people are always the least trustworthy. So because she's cheated in the past, she expects you to cheat now, and she thinks she can stop you by telling you not to hang out with your female friends.

Either way, her lack of trust is a sure sign that there's a serious problem with the relationship.

Oh where to begin. I've got a list of questions I need help on, but this would be a good start.

My girlfriend. Wonderful woman that she is. Has a problem with me remaining friends with my ex's. She also has a problem with my female friends as well.

I can kind of understand her issue with my ex's. I'm sure it would be a little unsettling for her to have me all alone with someone that I was intimate with. Although, the thought of her with an ex doesn't really bother me that much. I trust that she would not do anything I should be worried about. I wish she would do the same.

As far as my female friends. I think this is ridiculous. They are friends, they are female, so what.

I can give up being friends with my ex's, I suppose. Although they are only friends now, just friends, not like I would do anything with them. I'm with her, I wish you would understand that, stop being so jealous. I love you not them. I'm not going to cheat on you.....uhm...back to earth Munky. Anyhoo.

What is you opinion? Is that what is supposed to happen? Do you let your ex's go? Do you let your friends go, ones that you've known since childhood? I dunno.

Let me know.
Girls always do that because they are jealous!

What are you talking about don't give up your friends for anyone. G/f's come and go friends last forever.. My friend had the same problem if there is no Trust there is no relationship... Sorry

What are you talking about don't give up your friends for anyone. G/f's come and go friends last forever.. My friend had the same problem if there is no Trust there is no relationship... Sorry

Ditto. Bros before ho's homie. :p That's a code to live by. Seriously though, if your friends are that disposable to you, well, that's really lame. There are tons of women out there, but your friends are your friends man. My boys and me have been together for way too long, and they are way too important, for me to ever think of ditching them. I guess it all comes down to who's more important to you, I guess. :shrug:

And yeah, you gotta have trust in a relationship, or it's doomed man.

Jealously has no place in a relationship

My girlfriend. Wonderful woman that she is. Has a problem with me remaining friends with my ex's. She also has a problem with my female friends as well.

So you don't have a problem with her hangin' with her X's and male friends? That would make you among the 0.00001% of the male population that shares your position.

Sorry to break it to you bud, but ya can't have your cake and eat it too.

Girls always do that because they are jealous!

Seriously? Is everyone jealous? Is that just natural? I know couples who have friends and there's no problem there.

Maybe it's because women realize the truth about men, which is that we are only as faithful as our options.
She doesn't want you to have options other than her.

I have wondered about that. I guess alot of men will cheat given the opportunity. I have options everywhere and I haven't and won't. You can't spend all your time worrying about if your spouse will cheat. Trust has to come in somewhere.

Hey Man, I can kind of relate to this, but from the female's perspective.

My husband and I met about 6 years ago when I was around 26. I am fortunate to have a lot of friends, and about 30% of them are male. I consider my friends my family, so telling me to give them up wouldn't have flown too far. But he never did. I just told him the scoop, and he could either trust me, or not :shrug:
As far as remaining friend's with your ex.... If you can do it, then I say go for it. My ex and I tried it, but his new girlfriend was insanely jealous of me :rolleyes: I guess I would be too if every time he ran into me he talked and talked and forgot she was even there :hmm:
My point is, I would have loved to have remained friends with this man. Hell, I wish we were friends today. You need to be honest with your new girl, and tell her that she can trust you.

How old are you, btw?

I new she was a jealous person, but I had thought that would change once she got to know my friends and accepted that I was with her and her alone. I'm 36, she's 32.

It takes two to tango. It doesn't matter whether your ex's want to hook up with you again, or whether your female friends want to turn it into something more. If YOU are faithful, then your girlfriend has nothing to worry about.

So there's only one possible explanation for why she wants you to stop seeing them. She doesn't trust you. Now there's two explanations for why she doesn't trust you. Either A. you're not trustworthy, or B. she's a cheater.

If you're not trustworthy, she might be trying to force you to be faithful by forcing you not to see any other female, ever. That's rediculous, because if you're a cheater, you can cheat nomatter what. But she doesn't want to accept that, so she pretends that she can control you.

If she's a cheater, she might be "projecting" her own tendancies onto you. Cheaters tend to expect everyone else to cheat, too. The least trusting people are always the least trustworthy. So because she's cheated in the past, she expects you to cheat now, and she thinks she can stop you by telling you not to hang out with your female friends.

Either way, her lack of trust is a sure sign that there's a serious problem with the relationship.

I have this fear that the reason she worrys so much about it is because she can't trust herself, and expects me to act the same way. But there is more to the story, I made a huge mistake. Knowing how jealous she is, I agreed to stop talking to my friends, while still talking to one behind her back. I got caught in one lie, and ended up confessing to the one about my friend too. Should i have lied...no, should I have confessed...I'm not so sure. I've vowed to not lie again, so my honesty now causes alot of problems. How much truth can a relationship take. Which kind of reminds me of another question.

So you don't have a problem with her hangin' with her X's and male friends? That would make you among the 0.00001% of the male population that shares your position.

Sorry to break it to you bud, but ya can't have your cake and eat it too.

Is this true? I find it hard to believe everyone is that jealous. Maybe I'm wrong. I don't know.