would you ever date someone who was pregnant or who had kids?

Would you ever be in an actual relationship with her (meaning you might consider marriage at some point) or wouwld it just be for fun, nothing serious?

How would you go about getting along with the kid(s) (if they were older)?

I think I would, but I would have a hard time with the inevitable relationship between my partner and the other parent. As with any other relationship it would totally depend on the person. I love kids.

would you ever date someone who was pregnant ...
Probably. It would depend on whether or not we hit it off. If we didn't, I'd just date her for the pregnancy-fetish sex.
... or who had kids?
Sure.
Would you ever be in an actual relationship with her (meaning you might consider marriage at some point) or wouwld it just be for fun, nothing serious?
Either, depending on what she wanted and how well we hit it off. Same as dating any other woman.
How would you go about getting along with the kid(s) (if they were older)?
If they liked me and I liked them getting along would be no problem. If one party didn't like the other avoidance of each other would be best. If they were openly hostile toward me I wouldn't bother dating the woman.

Pregnant? Probably not-she's still got the issue with the father...
It's inevitable though probably that a man who gets married at my age will have to deal with someone else's kids...

Probably not at this point in my life, as I get older I probably would though.

No kids! Nothing at all against women who are pregnant or who have kids, but if I wanted kids, I've have some with my wife.

I take that as a personal offense!
;) :D

At this point in my life, hell no.

At a later point, probably still hell no.

Ummm, is she being careful to not have stretch marks after the pregnancy? ;)

Explorer

Ummm, is she being careful to not have stretch marks after the pregnancy? ;)

Explorer

Gee, I'd really like to smack you in the head with a skillet right now. :nonono:

*hands Bear a skillet* :mad:

Thanks; Swings and connects and the crowd goes wild!

get him! :mad:

*scrubs away evidence*

oops, I think you missed a piece of brain over there in the corner. Really, don't worry; no one will miss him.

You!! Looking in this thread!!

YOU DIDN"T SEE ANYTHING!! :mad:

:eek:

You!! Looking in this thread!!

YOU DIDN"T SEE ANYTHING!! :mad:
Yes ma'am. :D

*prepares cement shoes for anyone daring to spill the beans*

Wow, That was as smooth as silk!!

A woman with an absolutely flawless body always comes with a Rice sized Ego-give me the dad blamed stretch marks!!

A woman with an absolutely flawless body always comes with a Rice sized Ego-give me the dad blamed stretch marks!!
:nice:


:D

Damaged goods. Im not interested in other peoples baggage - they'd have to be pretty damn special.

would you ever date someone who was pregnant or who had kids?

Would you ever be in an actual relationship with her (meaning you might consider marriage at some point) or wouwld it just be for fun, nothing serious?

How would you go about getting along with the kid(s) (if they were older)?

Dating a pregnant woman would be too weird. :eek7:

At my age, it gets harder and harder to find a single woman without kids. I would prefer somebody who didn't have them, I mean, it's hard enough trying to impress a woman with no kids, but with those with kids I'd have to impress not just her but try to make a good impression as a potential father and I just haven't had the experience and you sometimes deal with that "you're not my real dad" attitude.

But again, at my age, I have to be open to all possibilities, with child or not.

Friends are great and all, but I so desire to find a wife. :(

My Dad did it--of course, I was only two and he didn't have much trouble since I fell in love with him right away. :D :D :D

I think that if I really loved the man, then I wouldn't mind taking on the stepmom role (especially since I love kids). :)

my dad saved mine and my moms life. i was 3 when they met (my mom was a total drug addict at this point).. 4 when they got married (dad helped her pay for rehab)... and my dad is the best father i could have ever asked for so thank god there are ppl out there like him who dont mind dating a girl with a child
and for that hes my hero...

Dating is one thing, marriage is another. I would do it, but she'd have to be an amazing woman, and I'd probably have to like their kids and vice versa.

my dad saved mine and my moms life. i was 3 when they met (my mom was a total drug addict at this point).. 4 when they got married (dad helped her pay for rehab)... and my dad is the best father i could have ever asked for so thank god there are ppl out there like him who dont mind dating a girl with a child and for that hes my hero...

That's awesome. :nice:

Dating is one thing, marriage is another. I would do it, but she'd have to be an amazing woman, and I'd probably have to like their kids and vice versa.

:yeahthat:

do you guys think that if there IS a marriage between 2 people, one of which already had kids, that the marriage will be stronger than the average marriage? (assuming that he/she wasn't the cause of her fist marriage's divorce. ie: his/her partner died)

I married a woman with two kids, and we had two of our own as well.

If you truly love a person, and they have kids, you naturally accept the kids, because they're a part of that person.

My youngest son's father had custody of his son when we met. He moved in, and in the end, I waited 6 months to throw the nasty man out because I just couldn't stand the idea of my life without that little boy. That said, what I've seen lately is that men seem less willing to date me because of my boys

If you truly love a person, and they have kids, you naturally accept the kids, because they're a part of that person.

:nice:

It'd be nice if it worked that way. :shrug:

One man I dated - the first after my separation actually...broke up with me after meeting my kids.
They had been with their father for a few weeks, and this was the first time they had met. All my son talked about was his Dad, and all the wonderful things his Dad was.
I think it scared the shit out of this guy. I really don't blame him...parenthood isn't for everyone, and step-parenting isn't for everyone either...

What a shitheel. :rolleyes:

kids are protective of their mum and dad even if separated. They can be little shits to an outsider.

That's okay CP, one has to sort the wheat from the chaff.

kids are protective of their mum and dad even if separated. They can be little shits to an outsider.

That's true...once my kids realized their Dad wasn't the man they thought he was, the games stopped.

do you guys think that if there IS a marriage between 2 people, one of which already had kids, that the marriage will be stronger than the average marriage? (assuming that he/she wasn't the cause of her fist marriage's divorce. ie: his/her partner died)
thats a good point i should have considered.. my biological dad was murdered before my parents got married so that may have set my dads mind at ease.. since he was the only dad ive ever known

Well, I probably wouldn't date a woman who was pregnant. But you never know what the future holds, so I'll defer judgement for now.

As to whether or not I'd date someone who had kids, I would. But I'd ask not to meet the kids unless we were really serious about each other. Not like "Hey kids, I'm gonna marry this lady you've never met before," but once we adults had established that our relationship is very likely headed towards "rest-of-our-lives" status.

Reason being is that I've seen way too many kids who've had "mommies," "daddies," "uncles" and "aunts" come and go in their formative years, people who they grow attached to, or at least become accustomed to, and then their parents break up with these people, and the kids never see 'em again. I wouldn't do that to any kid. They should have a stable childhood, know that "family" means people who will always be there. I'm not saying singles with children shouldn't date, but that they should be hyper-aware of what they are exposing their children to.

I was kinda dating a guy who had a son. We'd been friends for years, so I'd met his son, and we became really tight. I love that kid, with a huge chunk of my heart, and it really pisses me off that his dad's such an immature jerk. I'd love to be able to spend more time with that little alien booger brain. <3

what is this... some kind of survey??? anyway, if u love ther person so much, then ill say why not... but of cuz beside this we need to think the side effect like kids, age n any other stuff.... i dun think any advice will be good... d best thing is ask your self... since u asking this, it show that this is a major problem... dun ask any ppl, ask your self... think about it... only your self can give u answer... just imagine it... can u get alon with d kids, will u date with some1 who r pregnant n got kids... listen to your heart... only you can tell the true answer

Well, I probably wouldn't date a woman who was pregnant. But you never know what the future holds, so I'll defer judgement for now.

As to whether or not I'd date someone who had kids, I would. But I'd ask not to meet the kids unless we were really serious about each other. Not like "Hey kids, I'm gonna marry this lady you've never met before," but once we adults had established that our relationship is very likely headed towards "rest-of-our-lives" status.

Reason being is that I've seen way too many kids who've had "mommies," "daddies," "uncles" and "aunts" come and go in their formative years, people who they grow attached to, or at least become accustomed to, and then their parents break up with these people, and the kids never see 'em again. I wouldn't do that to any kid. They should have a stable childhood, know that "family" means people who will always be there. I'm not saying singles with children shouldn't date, but that they should be hyper-aware of what they are exposing their children to.

I was kinda dating a guy who had a son. We'd been friends for years, so I'd met his son, and we became really tight. I love that kid, with a huge chunk of my heart, and it really pisses me off that his dad's such an immature jerk. I'd love to be able to spend more time with that little alien booger brain. <3

Those are good points. My mom had a few long term boyfriends and I was always very uncomfortable around them (not just because of their coke use and abusive natures) because I didn't know where they fit in to my world. Unstable to say the least.

I always wanted a family, until late in my twenties. I had decided that I was too selfish, and didn't want to have to deal with kids. Then I met my gf. She has two little 5 yr old girls. Twins.

It took me a long time to figure out if I wanted her enough to become a dad. A looooonnnnnggggg time. There's alot involved. What if they didn't like me. What if I didn't like them. What if they got attached to me, and their mother and I broke up. Big decision.

I thought she was worth it. I love the girls. They are absolutely wonderful. Hard to remember what my life was like before them.

But now my gf and I are having problems and I know if we break up, I'll never see the girls again.