affect the eventual outcome of a relationship?

I mean, if you met someone one way as compared to a "normal" way, does it make you more certain of things?

It can. If you mess arounbd with a married woman, there's a high probability she'll mess around on you down the road, because you know that she's already capable of it. That's one example, and obviously applies to men as well.

If you meet someone in a bar, there's a high probability that you may be getting involved with someone who may have a drinking problem. On the other hand, these things may not matter at all, but it's usually a good idea to ask the right questions and observe very carefully.

If you meet someone at church, they may want to drag you church for the rest of your life. The list goes on and on. Use your imagination.

True, very true.

I was more asking about how you meet people, like through friends or by doing the single's scene or online or something like that more. Do you think that different feelings arise more quickly through some methods than others? Or if its pretty much a person you're going to date, you're going to date them?

True, very true.

I was more asking about how you meet people, like through friends or by doing the single's scene or online or something like that more. Do you think that different feelings arise more quickly through some methods than others? Or if its pretty much a person you're going to date, you're going to date them?


It's hard to say. Love can't be predicted, and usually comes out of left field, when we least expect it. There also isn't much middle ground when it comes to love. You're either in love, or you're not. When you are, and when it's right, you'll know it, regardless of where and how you meet someone.

People can "grow" to love each other, and sometimes that happens between people who would never have dreamed of being together. I've been there.

Certainly can, though there isn't any certainty to it. Having a relationship born of infidelity is a good indication that you'll eventually be left for someone else, though that doesn't have to be the case. I have to say based on personal experience I am entirely convinced that romances that begin passionately quickly burn out and end in disaster.

Such sound advice...

Are you sure you're a heartless conservative? =p


I think I'm just questioning how and where to meet girls now. You know, just getting out of the entire college scene where it was so easy to meet girls, but it seemed the relationships were relatively shallow (ok, ok, I met most of them through my fraternity), and now I feel like I have to almost actively go out and find them.

Its not like I don't know about a lot of dating pitfalls, its just I think I need some added prespectives. I find myself meeting girls lately through means I would have never even considered before, and in situations that I never really thought I'd be in. I think its just the natural cold-feet of trying to get back into it again, and a certain situation that is quite puzzling to me.

I never dated anyone I didn't meet through mutual friends, it seemed like the way to go to me, and it worked out great!

Dude, I've tapped the well dry of friends-of-friends, thus this thread.

I think it boils down to the fact that I have a very negative opinion towards other methods of meeting someone. But, I need to utilize those methods now.

Well I will introduce you to my brother next month, perhaps that will open a few avenues, if you guys get along.

Yeah, I haven't been very social lately, and with school and work and still being in my parents home that doesn't seem like it will change very much until the summer when I move out and schools done with and work is quits. Wow, come to think of it all of my commitments come to a screeching halt at the same time, haha.

But I think I just need to be more open to different avenues, different approaches to it all. I think I've been too negative about meeting girls through other means. How many times can I say that in one thread? hahaha

Basically, I'm asking people if they've gone from mostly dating through friends and pretty direct social interaction to dating through online dating, meeting people through group-activities, just hitting the bar scene hard, and if they have what their experiences with it has been.

I graduated college a few years ago, and I remember it hit me like a ton of bricks: all of a sudden, I couldn't find any girls to date! At school, there were always dozens of girls around at the parties and whatnot. Then all of a sudden I'm going to work every day, and coming home to an empty apartment every night. It's a lot harder to meet women that way.

But there's still hope. It's impossible to "tap out" the well of friends-of-friends. You just have to spend more time with your friends, then make friends with their friends, then spend time with them, and meet their friends, and so on. Throw a party, and tell your friends to invite whoever they want.

And start doing stuff, like join a poll league, or join the local Republicans :) It's a great way to meet like-minded chicks :nice:

So I guess you, too, have a negative view of the other ways of "finding love" huh? I mean yeah, what you're saying is right and I'm just bitching about it, but did you ever pursue other ways of meeting girls? Did they turn out negative for you?

It's hard to say. Love can't be predicted, and usually comes out of left field, when we least expect it. There also isn't much middle ground when it comes to love. You're either in love, or you're not. When you are, and when it's right, you'll know it, regardless of where and how you meet someone.

People can "grow" to love each other, and sometimes that happens between people who would never have dreamed of being together. I've been there.

I pretty much agree with this...I don't think it's plausible to 'find love'. Love has a way of finding you when you least expect it although it's pretty easy to find someone to hook up with. And ya, I think it's possible to hook up and fall in love although that type of relationship is high risk.

If you're not in love and with someone because of whatever, you're comfortable and within the window of opportunity to fall in love. You might fall in love with mr/miss convenient but a lot of people find someone else and breakup saying something like, I'm sorry, I don't love you anymore, I met someone and he's/she's the one.

I think you should focus on yourself. Find a comfortable place, sit back, and enjoy your life. Que sera, sera, what will be, will be.

I was just looking for some ass and everyone's getting all serious, geez...

Seriously, I agree with you guys. I think I phrased my question wrong somehow though. Or maybe I'm looking at things backassward.

If you just want some ass, what is all this relationship talk?

Get down to the bar & get some hiney!

I've never once been set up by friends with a girl.

The last time it was tried, I wound up hooking up with the target girl's friend instead. :p

I just meet people really easily, and have no problem walking up to a complete stranger and saying hi.

God...

Rice- "Hello, wall, are you there?"

Wall- "____"

Rice- "Wall, are you even listening to me?"

Wall- "____"

Rice- "Its like talking to a wall."

Wall- "____"

Rice- "At least we agree on something."

Aha. I think we may have found the root of your problem.

You're completely insane. Talking to walls is never a sign of sound mind.

Next thing you know, you'll be switching political parties, moving to Florida, and buying lots of strange bumper stickers.

Please, we all knew I was totally bonkers long ago.

it doesnt matter at the same time. whether its a blind date or love at first site it al depends on the people.

Love has a way of finding you when you least expect it

But is it really love you're finding? Isn't a part of love the act of falling in love? Doesn't how you interact and get to know that person... doesn't that effect the eventual outcome? I don't know how to fall in love besides a very set, prescribed way. Is this a fault of mine? Do I need to expand my horizons?

I think you should focus on yourself. Find a comfortable place, sit back, and enjoy your life. Que sera, sera, what will be, will be.

That's the thing, since my break-up that's what I've been doing, focusing on me, me, me. But now I feel like the wounds are closed and healed, my "center" has come back into alignment, and I'm enjoying the aspects of my life that I have now. But now [austin powers]I'm randy, baby, yeah![/austin powers]

But is it really love you're finding? Isn't a part of love the act of falling in love? Doesn't how you interact and get to know that person... doesn't that effect the eventual outcome? I don't know how to fall in love besides a very set, prescribed way. Is this a fault of mine? Do I need to expand my horizons?

It's hard to argue with you..And admittingly, sometimes it's hard to distinguish the difference between love, lust, and infatuation. But it's like if it's someone special, you just know it. But It's not like I'm an expert on love or relationships...haha



That's the thing, since my break-up that's what I've been doing, focusing on me, me, me. But now I feel like the wounds are closed and healed, my "center" has come back into alignment, and I'm enjoying the aspects of my life that I have now. But now [austin powers]I'm randy, baby, yeah![/austin powers]

It's all good then :D

It's hard to argue with you..And admittingly, sometimes it's hard to distinguish the difference between love, lust, and infatuation. But it's like if it's someone special, you just know it. But It's not like I'm an expert on love or relationships...haha

Of course its hard to argue with me, I'm a geeenius!

And I think you're the first person to respond who's kind of gotten what I was trying to say with the entire differentiation between love, lust and infatuation. Don't certain ways of meeting people breed certain different things? I mean, of course you can meet your true love at a bar, but its more than likely its going to be a lust thing. And if you meet someone through your parents, you're probably not just going to knock boots with them and leave it at that.

I don't know, I think you have some sound advice on the subject matter....

Love is pheromones.

Love is all-encompassing. Love is worthy. Love is perfection. Love is many, many things, and each person finds their own definition of it. The trick is to find someone who has pretty much the same definition as you do.

Of course its hard to argue with me, I'm a geeenius!

oh yeah :D It was late, I was tired....haha


Don't certain ways of meeting people breed certain different things? I mean, of course you can meet your true love at a bar, but its more than likely its going to be a lust thing. And if you meet someone through your parents, you're probably not just going to knock boots with them and leave it at that.

Gawd I so hate when my parents interfere with my love life..its like mother, stop it. And oddly enough, They haven't liked any of the guys I've fallen for. They hated Cody with a passion..Partially because he talked me into dropping out of school and moving to Corpus...partially because he was older than me..but mostly, just because ...

I dunno...but some good signs that you might be in love are....

if you have to reword your emails to her..

If you've forgotten about your ex.

You find yourself thinking about her when you're out with friends..

Her flaws are cute

Things just click...you don't understand it

You find yourself thinking of her instead of tryng to pick up hotties

Gawd I so hate when my parents interfere with my love life..its like mother, stop it. And oddly enough, They haven't liked any of the guys I've fallen for. They hated Cody with a passion..Partially because he talked me into dropping out of school and moving to Corpus...partially because he was older than me..but mostly, just because ...

Don't worry, I'm sure your parents will love me. I'll bring them a fondu set when I visit. They do like fondu, right? Plus, you've already graduated, so I can't talk you out of quitting school, the worst I can do is convince you to quit your job and help me collect bottles and cans off the street! I'm in like Flynn!

I dunno...but some good signs that you might be in love are....

if you have to reword your emails to her..

If you've forgotten about your ex.

You find yourself thinking about her when you're out with friends..

Her flaws are cute

Things just click...you don't understand it

You find yourself thinking of her instead of tryng to pick up hotties

Ummm, is there something about your orientation that you haven't told any of us about yet?

:p That list reminds me of a girl I know....

No, I don't think so, RR. It appears she simply switched the pronouns as a guide for you.

hahahaha

gee, thanks for pointing that out for me!

Anytime. Happy to be of assistance. :)

And I think she did more than switch the pronouns... I think she was trying to tell me something.

Don't worry, I'm sure your parents will love me. I'll bring them a fondu set when I visit. They do like fondu, right? Plus, you've already graduated, so I can't talk you out of quitting school, the worst I can do is convince you to quit your job and help me collect bottles and cans off the street! I'm in like Flynn!



Ummm, is there something about your orientation that you haven't told any of us about yet?

:p That list reminds me of a girl I know....

lol at Fondu set.. You promised you'd polish up on your a**-kissing haha

Hey, nothing says "I'm kissing up to you" quite like dipping bread in cheese.

And I think she did more than switch the pronouns... I think she was trying to tell me something.

Oooh, could be! Let's hope so!

I'm rooting for you! :nice:

Hey, nothing says "I'm kissing up to you" quite like dipping bread in cheese.

lol though to borrow a line from one of your favorite movies...




<DD>Hollister: Mr. Lewis? How's it going so far? <DD>Edward: Pretty well, I think. I think we need some major sucking up. <DD>Hollister: Very well, sir. You're… not only handsome, but a powerful man. I could see the second you walked in here, you were someone to reckon with… <DD>Edward: Hollister. <DD>Hollister: Yes, sir? <DD>Edward: Not me. Her<DD>

</DD>

Hahaha! Actually got me to smile with that one. Probably the best line out of that movie, for sure.

Another one of my favorite lines from that movie....

Vivian: I appreciate this whole seduction thing you've got going on here, but let me give you a tip: I'm a sure thing.

So I was at work just the other night and a pretty good looking girl kept eye-balling me. Anyway she eventually approached me, first to get her drinks in which she was flirting but I didn't think anything of it. Then she came up later and sat down at my rail and when I asked what she wanted she said she just wanted to watch me make drinks (for some reason my "ability" to pour three and four bottles at a time was impressive). She was making comments about how she bets she can make me nervous and things like that. Anyway she was clearly very much into me and eventually asked if I was single. I got her number from her and she said she expected a phone call.

I'm going to call her, I work the next couple of days (Friday & Saturday) but I think I'll call her on Sunday. Does this sound like a good idea to everyone else? We'll see if she shows up tonight or tomorrow. I have to admit I'm always a little weary of a girl that tries to pick up a bartender.

None the less having a girl that I felt was better looking than my ex come give me her number without my doing anything was very flattering. I feel good about it.

Awesome! That prostitute we all chipped in for did her job and didn't just take off with the cash....

j/k bro, my advice to you?

hit it and quit it

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