Does anyone have any tips?

Get back together again?

porn and alcohol.

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Never go out in the first place :|

don't break up. works for me :)

lmao........... i know its soooooooo frustrating this new feature Babs!!

break ups are for future make ups............ life goes on and you will survive.

Buy a new video game? (shrugs)

porn and alcohol.



Too impersonal.

Strip clubs are the answer. You get your porn, your alcohol and much needed social interaction.

whisky and hookers.

I cry, write, and pretend nothing is wrong.

stalk them.

porn and alcohol.

BTW DA admins, love this new feature ---> This forum requires that you wait 60 seconds between posts. Please try again in 2 seconds.
what new feature? We've always had flood control on :shrug:

what new feature? We've always had flood control on :shrug:

Right, but telling us how many more seconds we have until we can post again is new. I like it.

Right, but telling us how many more seconds we have until we can post again is new. I like it.
it drives me nuts!!!!!!! :mad:

Your ex's house + you + gasoline + matches = You :)






:|

I cry, write, and pretend nothing is wrong.

That's what I did when I got dumped by my ex , Marc, back in '98. I was devastated. :( If it weren't for Dawn talking to me for 6 hrs on the phone and driving up the next morning..... :|

Seriously, time. Time is the only thing that helps a break up. Heck, I still think of him now, and I'm married!! If your like me when you love, you give it your all - and you may always love that person, which is ok, the heart can make room for all types of love. :)

Focus on other things: work, exercise, friends, family, hobbies, etc. IOW, connect with the world around you and minimize the time available for obsessing and regretting.

Make love to a sock puppet.

Make love to a sock puppet.

:eek7:

Bad friction. You can get like... carpet burn or something.

That's what I did when I got dumped by my ex , Marc, back in '98. I was devastated. :( If it weren't for Dawn talking to me for 6 hrs on the phone and driving up the next morning..... :|

Seriously, time. Time is the only thing that helps a break up. Heck, I still think of him now, and I'm married!! If your like me when you love, you give it your all - and you may always love that person, which is ok, the heart can make room for all types of love. :)

:nice:

And a bit of advice, don't talk about them to your friends 24/7, they will likely tell you to shut the hell up. I'm talking from experience here, I told that to my friend on Monday and she is starting to talk to me again only this morning. Thank god not about her ex-bf!?!

It's been awhile since I've had occasion to say this, but I still stand by it.

Write some bad poetry and get over it.

How about stop being a teenager?

As cliche as it is, time heals all wounds. It just takes awhile.

Things you can do are not dwell on it. But that doesn't mean you can't acknowledge your heart break (you should, in fact). But try to go out and do some fun things with your other friends. Just realize that it isn't the end of the world and the sun will still come up tomorrow.

Focus on other things: work, exercise, friends, family, hobbies, etc. IOW, connect with the world around you and minimize the time available for obsessing and regretting.


I agree most with Bo's advice... that's pretty much what i did last school year when my ex dumped me... In the event you still keep in touch with your ex or even when you meet them a while later you want to show that you survived and despite what they did to you, things are going well for you. To know that you're not coping could very well empower them or make them feel better about themselves... or they might feel really sorry for you (depends on how nice they are)...

So in a nutshell you have to find a way to channel your frustration, your sadness and regrets and use them to be more productive and motivated. It's amazing what it can do for you when you do find a way to channel it... it took me a long time but it's improved my endurance, my strength and i've grown stronger emotionally...

One of my close friends spends all his time at the gym when he's newly single. He'll drop 10-20 lbs. and tone up real fast. I've seen him do it twice.

Kinda funny, really. :p

Does anyone have any tips?

you just have to try to focus on other things, exercise is a great stress/anger reliever...and eventually you'll heal and move on

How about stop being a teenager?
Um, people? I think I have the best solution.

I must agree. :)

I cry, write, and pretend nothing is wrong.

:werd:

stalk them.

lol :D

How do I get over a break-up...

Well.. it involves spandex, a viking sword, 16 doves, and roller skates.

Um, people? I think I have the best solution.

:mad:

there is nothing wrong with being a teen. :)

And aren't you supposed to be telling kids they shouldn't try and grow up too fast??? :|

How do I get over a break-up...

Well.. it involves spandex, a viking sword, 16 doves, and roller skates.
lol
:mad:

there is nothing wrong with being a teen. :)

And aren't you supposed to be telling kids they shouldn't try and grow up too fast??? :|
There's nothing wrong with being a teen, but this is the sort of question that only a teen would ask. I think once you're around 18-21 just about everyone starts realizing that no matter how much you loved someone, there's always life after break-up and even if it is hard, it's not the sort of thing that you go around asking "How do I get over this, it really hurts!"

lol

There's nothing wrong with being a teen, but this is the sort of question that only a teen would ask. I think once you're around 18-21 just about everyone starts realizing that no matter how much you loved someone, there's always life after break-up and even if it is hard, it's not the sort of thing that you go around asking "How do I get over this, it really hurts!"

It's the expierence, not the age. :p The first time someone goes through a rough break up they have a lot more trouble coping with it than say the 10th time.

There is something to be said for the hormonal rages induced by pubescent teens, though.

And being only a few years removed from that, I can tell you that experience be damned, teens are volatile.

Aaaaaand there's my point.

I remember breakups as a teen and it was so much worse then it is now.

never mind.. growls at ZacK! :P

When I was younger, I thought the same thing about age. How it was irrelevant, and that "old souls" could cope just as well, blah blah blah.

Y'know what? The more I grow up and become an "adult," the more I realize how juvenile I was at earlier ages.

There is something to be said for age.

:) My baby zach all grown up.

:D

(hee)

I don't know...I got over my first break up fairly quickly. I was still only 12, though....

He was so ghey...he broke up with me through email. :P I cried, beat myself up over it like a madwoman (I was acting like I killed someone, or something), went to my friend's house and got over it within the week. I didn't even tell my mom until she wouldn't stop badgering me about when my next "little date" was. :p:shrug:

My baby zach all grown up.
He is? :eek7: He sure doesn't act like it.....



(j/k, Xach....you know I love ya. :p )

God, I'm lucky I bypassed all this :nice:

I don't know...I got over my first break up fairly quickly.
You're 12.

this thread makes me sad. :(

You're 12.
I WAS 12. I'm 13 now. :mad:


:p

It is ridiculous to talk about "break-ups" until we define what a relationship is.

If I meet a chick's parents if they are alive, attend events suchs as weddings and holidays with her, engaging in sex regularly and exclusively with her, and do this for several months, I would consider it a relationship. Any stoppage, particularly of the sex, would constitute a "break-up." But of course, this does not mean that it is over since there are occasions when the sexual activity is re-established with the same chick. :) But the risk for STD's is increased at that point. :(

It is ridiculous to talk about "break-ups" until we define what a relationship is.

If I meet a chick's parents if they are alive, attend events suchs as weddings and holidays with her, engaging in sex regularly and exclusively with her, and do this for several months, I would consider it a relationship. Any stoppage, particularly of the sex, would constitute a "break-up." But of course, this does not mean that it is over since there are occasions when the sexual activity is re-established with the same chick. :) But the risk for STD's is increased at that point. :(

:confused:

I think what U R saying is: Relationship = Disease free sex for 90 days?

If so, then why 90 days? Why not 60 or 120? :eek3:

Well, Samson, you want to select a disease free chick to begin with. The problem is after a break-up, there will most likely have been intruders. :eek: :( So you have to be careful when and if you get back together and re-establish the relationship. But there is a certain miminum amount of time that is needed until there is indeed an actual relationship. That is what is tricky about long term relationships. The more time and energy invested, and the more memories that are accumulated, the more difficult a break-up will be however casual the relationship was treated at the time. And as you know, with a real relationship, there is never really a complete break-up.

Well, Samson, you want to select a disease free chick to begin with. The problem is after a break-up, there will most likely have been intruders. :eek: :( So you have to be careful when and if you get back together and re-establish the relationship. But there is a certain miminum amount of time that is needed until there is indeed an actual relationship. That is what is tricky about long term relationships. The more time and energy invested, and the more memories that are accumulated, the more difficult a break-up will be however casual the relationship was treated at the time. And as you know, with a real relationship, there is never really a complete break-up.

So essentially, for you, at least after the Disease Questionaire has been completed, and references have all checked out, 90 days is the "break even point." Sixty days don't give you enough time to confirm that diseases are not still incubating, and 120 days are enough that you may be infected.

Yes Snouter, this seems like a perfectly sane approach to maintaining your health.