Me and my husband separated for three years and now we are back together , while we were separated I got pregnant for someone else. He told me he wants to work things out but he treats me really bad sometimes. This relationship is hurting for me and I know it will be hurting for my child.:confused: Any suggestions?

The answer is obvious.

...and you know what it is.

Why is he angry we both did our thing---If men could have babies he would probably have a host of bay bay's

I'm not even going to read this post.

If you have to ask whether or not to leave him, then you should leave him.

That's like asking all of your friends if they think you seek validation from them. :|

Why is he angry... probably because he doesn't want to raise someone elses child. Rightfully so.

I suggest beer and a BJ. Guys love that stuff.

what was the purpose of him coming back into my life if he didn't want to raise someone else kid ,the kid was already born...........he was at the hospital:mad:

I duno..ask him! :)

he treats me really bad sometimes. This relationship is hurting for me and I know it will be hurting for my child.

Why would you stay with someone who treats you badly and hurts you, and why would you even entertain the thought of staying with someone who will cause pain for your child? :eek: :eek: :eek:

You need to focus on your and your child's future, not your past.

leave him!!! Right NOW! :eek3:

Me and my husband separated for three years and now we are back together , while we were separated I got pregnant for someone else. He told me he wants to work things out but he treats me really bad sometimes. This relationship is hurting for me and I know it will be hurting for my child.:confused: Any suggestions?

yes ..leave him..no ifs ands or buts about it..leave because if he's been violent with you, eventually he'll move on to your child..especially if it's not his kid, that in itself may even fuel his temper even more..

I suggest beer and a BJ. Guys love that stuff.


You know, that's really the truth; a pair of clean socks, a hot meal, control of the remote and a blow job. All y'all are happy. I'd have to fire-bomb the house to get rid of you.

...I got pregnant for someone else...

Interesting Freudian slip. So you let some stranger impregnate you to get back at the ex-husband? If you have the name and address of the guy who impregnated you, just give the kid to him and start from scratch with the ex-husband or maybe a new guy. :shrug:

Interesting Freudian slip. So you let some stranger impregnate you to get back at the ex-husband? If you have the name and address of the guy who impregnated you, just give the kid to him and start from scratch with the ex-husband or maybe a new guy. :shrug:

yeah, it's really just that easy to give a kid away.

yeah, it's really just that easy to give a kid away.
Kids are like animals, to some people. When you can't take care of them anymore, you put them in a paper bag and throw them out your car window. :shrug:



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As it should be. :)

*puts on flame suit*

Yeah, I said it.

You know, that's really the truth; a pair of clean socks, a hot meal, control of the remote and a blow job. All y'all are happy.
If more women were willing to make small sacrafices such as these the divorce rate in America would decrease by 85%. :D

what was the purpose of him coming back into my life if he didn't want to raise someone else kid ,the kid was already born...........he was at the hospital:mad:



Why did you want him back in your life? Are you afraid to be alone? Where IS the child's father?

Where IS the child's father?
Prison. :p

Is touching the glass considered too intimate if the father really doesn't know the kid??

Kids are like animals, to some people. When you can't take care of them anymore, you put them in a paper bag and throw them out your car window. :shrug:



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That’s not as effective as one might think. We did that to my sister when she was about 3 and she still found her way home. She wasn’t even mad about the whole thing either. She just ran through the door screaming "DO IT AGAIN DO IT AGAIN!!!”
:rolleyes:

You know, that's really the truth; a pair of clean socks, a hot meal, control of the remote and a blow job. All y'all are happy. I'd have to fire-bomb the house to get rid of you.
Come on you can do better than that. And Iresent that remark. Even a blow job is not a bad thing for usn to recieve,But! don't judge all of us by one bad apple and we will return the favor. The bottom line is she should leave the abuse. I feel like wise it will carry over to the child. But please don't characterize all by ones doing!!!

You know, that's really the truth; a pair of clean socks, a hot meal, control of the remote and a blow job. All y'all are happy. I'd have to fire-bomb the house to get rid of you.

I could even go without the clean socks and be happy.:nice:

Come on you can do better than that. And Iresent that remark. Even a blow job is not a bad thing for usn to recieve,But! don't judge all of us by one bad apple and we will return the favor. The bottom line is she should leave the abuse. I feel like wise it will carry over to the child. But please don't characterize all by ones doing!!!

Oh sweetie, I wasn't commenting on her situation in particular. Of course she should leave him; we established that in the second post.

I was commenting on men, in general and all y'all are easy. Hell, Samson even said he would forgo the clean socks! :D

What I'd like to know is what happened to the other guy? Was he a fling? Does she want/care for this child? Is she able to support herself and the child without a man around? This is a poor excuse to go back to an abuser, but a trap many women fall into. She knows what she is into if she goes back with this guy, and I feel she's sort of making excuses for him already. It's been three years...she has moved on, and is now responsible for another life! If she has any qualms at all about the baby's welfare, she should definitely NOT go back with him.

And that's my two cents.:hmm:

Why would you stay with someone who treats you badly and hurts you, and why would you even entertain the thought of staying with someone who will cause pain for your child? :eek: :eek: :eek:

You need to focus on your and your child's future, not your past.

I think this question has already been answered, hopefully without a doubt. But just to chime in at the bell, I think Tally said it perfectly. You have to put your child first. And that means keeping them out of harm's way. Even if this guy never lays a hand on your child, any harm he does to you, physical, emotional, mental - will affect your child negatively. You want your son or daughter (did you ever even refer to your child as anything but "the kid"? =/) to grow up seeing you miserable? Can you imagine what that will do to them in the long run?

Yeah, for the sake of your offspring, don't let anyone come between you and what's best for your kids.

Thanks to all of those who heard me and thanks to all of those who has not had a blow job. I decided to leave and not look back. I ask for your advice because I was considering sticking it out because he's not always bad and i know that he's just really hurt and doesn't know how to handle the pain and treating me bad was just his way of saying " I hurt " but treating someone bad just because you do not know how discuss or handle your pain is unacceptable and abusive. I love me because I can feel and understand who I am---this also has taught me the art of respecting others. Thanks for your sharing:)

Good for you. People should pursue their own happiness, not settle for anything less.

Just for future reference, if your relationship is so bad that you feel the need to join a discussion forum and ask perfect strangers for advice on what you should do, maybe you should be seeking healthier relationships.

Not that we're unwilling to offer our advice--whether it's asked for or not--but you may have some other issues with your relationship besides just what you're posting about.

Just a thought.

Good for you jossette,I hope you dont look back unless it is REALLY and TRULY necessary.
Look forward to the future with your child.
Bye.