I was thinking of ways to "spice it up" a little with my hubby...and I considered taking him to a strip club. I'd consider us both pretty innocent and shy, and neither of us had ever been so it'd be something new we'd experience together.
Two questions:
1)Is this even a good idea? My friends said I'd have to watch certain things I may not be comfortable seeing, that guys simply cannot hide and cannot help...

2)How does this work? What's the difference between a girl who "works the floor" or a table dancer or someone who gives lap dances....
Do we pay her or keep a tab? When we go in to we choose our own seating, or do they put us somewhere? Where to we want to sit? Gimme info, and pretend (for it is true) that I know nothing!

Oh...and I guess a 3rd one for the ladies...what do I wear?

wear whatever you want, as for your husband tight jeans are a definite no-no, and so are light-weight pants like warm-ups and if he wants to be considerate to the girls the pants won't have a zipper

How does it work? Like this....

You pay a door charge to get in, girls should be free. Once inside, there are 2 areas where you can sit; the tip row/bar or the lounge area. If you sit in the lounge area no one should bother you and you can just observe. Some seedy joints will have the dancers hit you up for tips, but they're not mandatory. If you sit right next to the stage, that's the tip bar and there its mandatory to leave a dollar, more if you like the girl or if you're richy rich. As for lap dances, every club is laid out differently but you'll usually be taken back to a semi-private area. Ask, and I'm sure they'll let you watch your husband get a dance. Tipping for a lapdance is kind of up to you, its not totally expected but kind of. Keep your hands to yourself during the dance, unless the dancer places them somewhere or you ask her and she says you can touch her, basically follow her lead.

As for whether or not its a good idea, let me describe a stripclub to you like this: A dozen or more women wearing close to nothing, walking around asking men if they'd like a dance, which is basically dryhumping. I mean, some of these girls will reach into a guy's pants, and all of them end up gyrating mercilessly on the guy for 3 minutes at a time. Plus, the entire time this is going on, there's a revolving troop of girls totally naked and dancing on stage, swinging on a pole and spreading their legs to show their "goods" to entice the men sitting at the bar to drop a couple of extra dollars on stage.

I personally don't think its a good idea, but I have no clue as to what you and your husband are like

Dances are expensive :nonono:

My boyfriend and I have a VERY open relationship when it comes to these things so I would definitely say go, but you know before you go you should both talk about it and promise that if EITHER of you feels even slightly uncomfortable or regretful when you go, you'll both leave and do something else fun instead.

I dont think this is a good idea. I think you should let him go with some guy friends. Does he even like strip clubs? Is he comfortable going to a strip club for the first time with his wife?

I know that my bf and I could go to a strip club together and I wouldnt feel like he was paying MORE attention to the girls than to me, and I would definitely not be comfortable with him getting a lapdance. But I've been to strip clubs on my own, and so has he. The first-first time i was red-cheeked and just felt like i didnt know where to look. I was a lot more comfortable the second time.

I dont think you guys going together for the first time is a good idea. Why dont you do the stripping/lap dance thing for him, I'm sure he'll enjoy that more than ogling other women right in front of you. (..unless you like that sort of thing)

wear whatever you want, as for your husband tight jeans are a definite no-no, and so are light-weight pants like warm-ups and if he wants to be considerate to the girls the pants won't have a zipper.



Yes, such decorum is strictly enforced, because the girls certainly don't want to see or feel any shameful erections, as such diminishes the respectability of their performance. They also frown on kilts, Velcro flies, lobster bibs, police uniforms, and strings attached to dollar bills.

Also, NEVER tip the dancers by throwing coins.

And after the lap dance, be sure and take advantage of the complimentary Febreeze spritz.

Maybe you could start by watching a couple of pron movies?

Or, you could strip/lapdance for him. He'd probably appreciate that more?

Make him give you a lapdance. It's only fair.

Or you get get a lap dance for him to watch ;) For some reason guys seem to enjoy this, and most dancers will have no problem with it :)

hugs

lilnymph

I think you should. It sounds like you two need to add a little something extra into your love lives. Sometimes a little bit of jealousy is an aphrodisiac.

As for what to expect, clubs differ. Try to read some reviews online and go to a more classy joint. Just go and expect anything, it’ll add to the fun of it. Something like this shouldn’t be overly planned or researched, just go and have fun with whatever comes up.

Bit of warning, though, every stripper is going to ask both of you if you want lap dances. Unless you are loaded you'll have to turn some of them down. So make sure you pay attention to the ones you really find attractive.

Or you get get a lap dance for him to watch ;) For some reason guys seem to enjoy this, and most dancers will have no problem with it :)

hugs

lilnymph

leave it to lil to suggest a girl-on-girl dance.....

=p

Why the devil would a wife NEED to take a husband to a strip club?

I say do the dancing for him yourself. Why would you feel the need to take him somewhere else to see half naked women when he has one at home?

Just have a sexy party.

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LOL@ Amber. Love that skit. :)

ok, ok....maybe I jumped ahead of myself. A strip club sounds like a bit to much for us in the way of finding something "new". And yes, I have danced for him (yes, he liked it), and yes he has danced for me too (umm....not so much, but kudos to him for trying ;) ), and yes we "tried" to watch a porno together....again not so much. And if we didn't like the porn, we'll probably not like the strip club, right? Sigh....I'll have to think of something else now. Thx, everyone, for your help!

ménage a trois

ménage a trois
Yea, right

I went to a strip club once with my boyfriend, we stayed for maybe an hour, had a few drinks and both got a short lap dance. I'm not dying to go again but it was a fun time. I didn't feel threatened or jealous, in fact it made me feel a little better because I knew that those girls were all just working, but I was the one that got to go home with him and actually have some fun, :P

If neither of you has ever been to a strip club I'm not sure if it's the best idea to go together. If it's nothing like you expect the experience may do the opposite of bringing you together and spicing things up. Perhaps if you go seperately the first time then you could judge whether or not you think it would benefit you to go together.

EDIT - Sorry I didn't realize you had already replied to everyone's suggestions. I think if you didn't enjoy watching the porno together you probably wouldn't like the strip club experience, it's basically the same visual stimulus.

Other suggestions to spice things up? Try something totally different that he would never expect, maybe video taping yourselves or it could also be something as simple as a new position or a place you've never had sex before. And aside from the actual sex you can change up your forplay too, try using some foods like chocolate sauce, honey, whipped cream, strawberries, etc. (warning - this gets messy!)

do you and your hubby ever go into sex stores? The kind that sell lubes and toys, and silly gifts, lingerie and whatever? Those stores are great for making you feel more comfortable about being a little wilder. You see what things are just silly, and what sort of things makes you actually think, 'hhmm.'
(at the very least ya gotta buy some lube from that company Wet.)

Wips and Chains

:drool: :drool:

leave it to lil to suggest a girl-on-girl dance.....

=p

hehe I try ;)

and its surprisingly popular don't you know.

hugs

lilnymph

I dont think taking him to a strip club is such a good idea but who am I say.

hehe I try ;)

and its surprisingly popular don't you know.

hugs

lilnymph


you try to place mental images of a cheerleader getting a lapdance from a stripper into our heads?

that's just evil....

you try to place mental images of a cheerleader getting a lapdance from a stripper into our heads?

that's just evil....

RR stop the name calling Lilnymph is sweet and wonderful.!!:mad: .............

so, are we gonna here about the details here or not:|

I imagine there's gotta be some body oils involved.