Thoughts? Experiances? Moral outrage at the mear thought?

Maybe it works for some people, but I personally don't think it's possible. I think inevitably, a favorite would be picked among the partners and would wind up as a couple. I think it's just natural to pick one partner, at least for me. I would never be able to split my loyalty equally between 2 different men. It seems like a recipe for disaster.

Maybe it works for some people, but I personally don't think it's possible. I think inevitably, a favorite would be picked among the partners and would wind up as a couple. I think it's just natural to pick one partner, at least for me. I would never be able to split my loyalty equally between 2 different men. It seems like a recipe for disaster.
In the ideal situation, each person has at least one other partner, a foursome, or some other multiple, works best. If all the relatioships center around a single person then I think yes, that would be a disaster waiting to happen. It's also called bigamy, not polyamoury.

it lacks simplicity

It can only work so long as emotional attachment is consciously governed by the willpower of those involved. True polyamorism, especially when introduced after the onset of a committed relationship, will condemn to destruction any emotional bond already formed between two people.

It can only work so long as emotional attachment is consciously governed by the willpower of those involved. True polyamorism, especially when introduced after the onset of a committed relationship, will condemn to destruction any emotional bond already formed between two people.
True...

I cannot think of allowing a woman I love to sleep with someone else. I guess I am not mature enough for that sort of thing.

It's not some sort of moral outrage for me, I just know that I don't get a gold star on my chart for playing well and sharing with others. And I want my own carpet square at naptime.

What if someone else wants your carpet square?

;)

True...

I cannot think of allowing a woman I love to sleep with someone else. I guess I am not mature enough for that sort of thing.

Let me ask you this though. Would you be ok if it were you sleeping with multiple women, if your wife were ok with it? Or would you feel it was wrong in any case?

Even at only 21, I already learned that lesson: Even if a woman says she's okay with it, she's not really.

It's either all or nothing in those cases.

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EVIL DOUBLE POST!

What if someone else wants your carpet square?

;)

I'll share with you, but not with you and that little blond girl with the pony-tail. (yeah, I'm selfish that way.) :D

I don't like blondes, so no worries there.

Okay, well then, not with you and that little redhead with the spray of freckles across her nose! I'm serious, I don't get a gold star for sharing.

I know that some folks do, and more power to them and all, but it's not me. Not after the conversation in which we both agree that there will be no one else.

Until that conversation happens, well, I will assume that you will do as you like, as will I.

It can only work so long as emotional attachment is consciously governed by the willpower of those involved. True polyamorism, especially when introduced after the onset of a committed relationship, will condemn to destruction any emotional bond already formed between two people.


SM is really Dr Ruth Westheimer
http://a820.g.akamai.net/f/820/822/1d/i.ivillage.com/LS/experts/drruth2[1].jpg

For me, if/when I get married, that's it, just the one. If I'm serious enough to exchange vows, I'm completely committed to that one man. But I'll be honest with any guy I'm seeing, in that, unless we've both decided to be completely monogamous, they shouldn't assume that I am. Not a player, just a browser.

By the way, it's only polygamy if multiple marriages are involved. "Polyamorous" is defined as having multiple and simultaneous "loving or sexual relationships."

it is possible to be in love with two or more people at the same time, and it's very human to feel for multiple people in that certain way, especially if one of them gives you something the other can't. like an orgasm.

no, kidding, don't ban me.

but seriously, it's even easier just to sleep around with anyone you're sexually attracted to, even though the term "sleep around" has such a negative cannotation, you know what i mean.

monster was right in that the true difficulty is not choosing polyamourism, but dealing with the consquences emotionally. contrary to popular belief, it is very difficult to sleep with someone and not develop an affection for them that makes you give a little piece of your heart away. which is why so many people only feel safe in one monogamous relationship at a time.

it is possible to be in love with two or more people at the same time, and it's very human to feel for multiple people in that certain way, especially if one of them gives you something the other can't. like an orgasm.

no, kidding, don't ban me.

but seriously, it's even easier just to sleep around with anyone you're sexually attracted to, even though the term "sleep around" has such a negative cannotation, you know what i mean.

monster was right in that the true difficulty is not choosing polyamourism, but dealing with the consquences emotionally. contrary to popular belief, it is very difficult to sleep with someone and not develop an affection for them that makes you give a little piece of your heart away. which is why so many people only feel safe in one monogamous relationship at a time.



I can agree here as I am going through my own term with this to a sense, even though neither of mine are sexual yet one should be. I also have a thread going so stop in and give me your thoughts.