But I see what I see.
Well, I was doing my thing as the nice guy again, and apparently I have made someone fall for me. I didn't see it coming, and I don't want it. I like her. She's nice and beautiful and sweet and all of these other good things, but I would rather have her infatuated with me. I know that I am not going to be able to tell her the truth. The truth will hurt her and she'll run away. That's usually the best course of action, but she'll run into the arms of someone who only wants to take her virtue. She is my friend and I care about her too much to let that happen. Well, we'll see what happens. Hopefully she'll just bore of me.

Be honest; tell her that you love her and care for her as a friend. You simply don't see her that way; she's more like a sibling, is she not?

But I see what I see.
Well, I was doing my thing as the nice guy again, and apparently I have made someone fall for me. I didn't see it coming, and I don't want it. I like her. She's nice and beautiful and sweet and all of these other good things, but I would rather have her infatuated with me. (#1) I know that I am not going to be able to tell her the truth. The truth will hurt her and she'll run away. (# 2) That's usually the best course of action, but she'll run into the arms of someone who only wants to take her virtue. She is my friend and I care about her too much to let that happen. Well, we'll see what happens. Hopefully she'll just bore of me.

Okay, let's break this down: #1; "I would rather have her infatuated with me..." Why? Why would you prefer to have someone fantasizing about you fron a distance? Is that less risky for you?

# 2. "She'll run away". Why would you assume that she'll choose to remove herself from her life? Maybe she can make that transition from prospective knocking boots partner to friend with out a whole bucket load of trouble, and you did say that you really liked her, right?

And then we come to the whole virtue, we'll see what happens, thing, (I'm gonna lump it all together because You might just see what happens when her virtue floats on down the river.....I don't know, I don't know this girl or your situation, but maybe you should focus on whether or not you like her, (and honey, really, if we're taking an idependent vote, my vote there would be, yes.) and if you do like her, then don't you feel that you owe it to yourself to check it out and see?

Maybe it'll be nothing or maybe it'll be fabulous, but don't you think that you owe it to yourself to see?

Telling the truth now will hurt less than telling the truth later after months of living a lie.

It doesn't matter anymore.

She has fallen for me to a degree that I cannot feel for another. I cannot let anyone get that close to me. I don't know why, but I've never let anyone in enough to really truly know me. I am going to be in a relationship in which the person I am with cares infinitely more about me than I could ever feel for her. That seems unfair to her in my eyes. This is also why I feel so guilty whenever I let this happen.
I really need to stop sending out signals when I'm just trying to be nice and be the friend. Rather, I need to realize that I am doing just that.

Does anyone else find this thread a little humorous and a little nauseating at the same time?

I have to admit that made me laugh.

It doesn't matter anymore.

She has fallen for me to a degree that I cannot feel for another. I cannot let anyone get that close to me. I don't know why, but I've never let anyone in enough to really truly know me. I am going to be in a relationship in which the person I am with cares infinitely more about me than I could ever feel for her. That seems unfair to her in my eyes. This is also why I feel so guilty whenever I let this happen.
I really need to stop sending out signals when I'm just trying to be nice and be the friend. Rather, I need to realize that I am doing just that.

Honey, this is an issue that you have to address. I do understand the theory that people can't hurt you if you don't let them in, but, man, it's a very lonely way to live, and I just can't see you pulling it off.

As compassionate and cognizant as you are, I can not see you actually finding satisfaction in a life that completely excludes all other human beings.

PM me if you want and I'll psychoanalyze you in private, but man, really, you must address this issue. You'll never have a successful interpersonal relationship until you do

When woman throw themselves at your feet, be careful not to trip.