Hi all.

I think already know the answer, but maybe I'am looking for some hope here.

Six months ago I met someone, flirt, talk, screwed-up and fell in love.
We have not and are not sleeping together, she lives 500 miles away.
She is seeing someone, I knew/guessed, and she later admitted she doesn't love him. As for hm I know he is broken and can't love anyone just yet.
He clings to her like a life raft, and we know what happens to life rafts.
Three weeks ago we were talking and she repeated a little phrase
I had used. Bascically telling me she had fallen in love with me.
I think/know she is very scared of being hurt and may have bailed.
I have called twice but she has not returned calls. The problem is, the messages were left with her irresponsible brother, and she works in a remote area. But there are cell phones and she has my number. Should I keep trying or just give-up.

Sorry this seems very long post.

I guess I would say exactly who irresponsible is this brother? If you really think he's not telling her you called, I would still try a few more times. If you talk to her, and still feel she thinks it's over, any further contact would be creepy stalking behavior. creepy is definitly something to avoid.

Well if you believe she does love you, try like hell to get ahold of her. To striaghten things out. If you think shes just bailed on you for another guy, it might be hard to get over it at frist, but youd need to move on.

Hi all.

I think already know the answer, but maybe I'am looking for some hope here.

Six months ago I met someone, flirt, talk, screwed-up and fell in love.
We have not and are not sleeping together, she lives 500 miles away.
She is seeing someone, I knew/guessed, and she later admitted she doesn't love him. As for hm I know he is broken and can't love anyone just yet.
He clings to her like a life raft, and we know what happens to life rafts.
Three weeks ago we were talking and she repeated a little phrase
I had used. Bascically telling me she had fallen in love with me.
I think/know she is very scared of being hurt and may have bailed.
I have called twice but she has not returned calls. The problem is, the messages were left with her irresponsible brother, and she works in a remote area. But there are cell phones and she has my number. Should I keep trying or just give-up.

Sorry this seems very long post.

No, no, no........I love this kinda stuff...it illustrates so clearly our capability to turn what we want to be into "reality" and the confusion that ensues.

Here goes:

#1. If she was so much "in love" with you, then you'd have to beat her off with a stick, regardless of her brother, whoever she's seeing, or whatever. The fact that she hasn't called means she's either in a coma, or not interested.

#2.He clings to her like a life raft, and we know what happens to life rafts. Yeah; they end up marrying their occupants.

#3. Three weeks ago we were talking and she repeated a little phrase I had used. Bascically telling me she had fallen in love with me. Really? Did she click her heals together thrice and wish she was back in Kansas? Dude, pull yourself together.

If you've perused this forum much since you've been here, you've likely already come across Snouter's "ladder theory".

I suspect it will find its way into this thread too before long.

;)