Today my 10 year old son came home very upset.

2 girls on the bus (one in his class, the other a year younger) asked him if he has sex with his little sister, who's 7. They said that he'll get her pregnant & that she's the only girl he'll ever have sex with. So I called the principal, who said "Oh I know the girls mother, and she'll be very upset. We'll talk to them."

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If my son had said that to a girl, he'd probably get more than talked to :mad: He'd probably get charged with harrassment & suspended.

Argh. I am so upset :mad:

Parents: How would you handle this???

that is so not a question that 9 and 10 year old girls to should be asking. is this kind of behavior normal? if not, where in the hell would they come up with a question like that? and if so, those children know a lot more than i did at that age

I'd have done the same. Kids say stuff that they hear from adults.

At that age I wouldn't worry too much about it beatle.

I'd have done the same. Kids say stuff that they hear from adults.

At that age I wouldn't worry too much about it beatle.
Yeah, I tend to agree. From an adult's perspective it sounds really bad, but I don't think it's as damaging as we might first expect.

I dont know, I would keep an eye on it. When I was 10, I was sexualy harrassed by a 12-year-old. I was already pretty developed in the top area (if you know what I mean). The guy and I are playing in the woods that are in my backyard, and he asks if he could....well, TOUCH them. Of course I said "No way!" until he threatend (sp?) to tell a bunch of other people I did let him....but if I let him, he would keep his mouth shut.
It dosent sound too bad, but I was pretty shaken up. I spent 2 days laying in bed crying, not telling my mom why, until finally she dragged it out of me. After she called his parents, he never came near me again O.o So hopefuly the phone call will help.

This stuff is awful. Even if the kid appears to have forgotten all about it later, they never really do, it lays in the back of the mind and influences every realtionship, their attitude and everyday life when they're older. I know some frustrated people whose troubles began as innocent jokes like that. It doesn't necesarilly turn out as bad, but I think these things should be disscused between children and parents.

i think the fact that your son was comfortable enough to talk to YOU about it says that you're doing things right in the parenting category.

Today my 10 year old son came home very upset.

2 girls on the bus (one in his class, the other a year younger) asked him if he has sex with his little sister, who's 7. They said that he'll get her pregnant & that she's the only girl he'll ever have sex with. So I called the principal, who said "Oh I know the girls mother, and she'll be very upset. We'll talk to them."

:|

If my son had said that to a girl, he'd probably get more than talked to :mad: He'd probably get charged with harrassment & suspended.

Argh. I am so upset :mad:

Parents: How would you handle this???
report it anon.

Parents: How would you handle this???

I also have a 10 year old son and I understand that this is disturbing to yourself and to your son. Believe you've done exactly the right thing. Clearly his classmate seems to have issues. :(

Make this what is called a "teachable moment." He will encounter these kinds of situations for the rest of his life. Tell him that it isn't his fault that others are this way, and that the appropriate response is modeled in your own actions: report it as abuse.

The principal should conviene all parties and write a "bullying contract" that will document his effort to stop this behavior and the consequences should it reoccure. IMHO, the consequences should extend to the classmates parents, but that's another thread.