How is your relationship with your step children???

Did you find it easier or more difficult to bond with them than you thought???

How do you get along with the other biological parent???


For the other side:

How did you adjust to the relationship & problems between your partner & your kids???

Hmm. Well, that doesn't pertain to me but my dad did get remarried to my now stepmother some years back, when I was younger and more of a rebel. We didn't get along at all for a while. It took several years before we started to get along.

Now we get along really well, she's a wonderful grandmother to my children.

How is your relationship with your step children???

It was great while it lasted. I was only married to that one for two years.

Did you find it easier or more difficult to bond with them than you thought???

Easier, maybe cause she was a girl.

How do you get along with the other biological parent???

We didn't get along. She was very jealous of me.

For the other side:

How did you adjust to the relationship & problems between your partner & your kids???

None. They got along great while it lasted. Seven years on that one.

How is your relationship with your step children???

Did you find it easier or more difficult to bond with them than you thought???



You know, its funny, a little of both. My step-son is 5 now. I've been in his life since he was about 18 months old. I want to be sure that I'm not overstepping his mother, but I want him to understand that I'm his parent also. I love him, but sometimes I'm afraid of the physical aspect of loving a child (hugging, kissing, etc.) because my relationship with his mother is not all that great, and I'm literally afraid to touch the child for fear that his mother will have me charged with molesting him or something. You'd have to know the history to understand that. I do believe that he loves me, he's referred to me as his 'middle mommy' (out of the mouthes of babes, huh), so he doesn't quite understand the dynamic of the relationship, but there's definitely a connection.




How do you get along with the other biological parent???



Sadly, I don't. When I first relocated to this area (to my own place I might add, hubby and I met on the internet.) a mutual friend mention to her that he and I were considering marriage. His ex then embarked on a campaign to break us up. She tried coming on to him. She tried getting the mutual friend to align with her in having me charged with neglect on my own child (My daughter was 16 at the time), which of course, the friend told her she was crazy. Then she tried taking us to court to take my husband's child away. All of her attempts failed, but as you can imagine, there's no way now that I could ever put any trust or faith in this women. I just make sure that I never talk about her in the presence of the child, and if she does get mentioned, I keep it short and sweet.



For the other side:

How did you adjust to the relationship & problems between your partner & your kids???

So far things have been going pretty good. I don't know what will happen when he gets a little older and begins to understand more about divorce and relationships and such. One thing in our favor is that it was his mother who broke up the marriage (had an affair) so there's really no blame to put on daddy and me, because we never even met until after the divorce.

Thanks for the input everyone :)

I guess I'm wondering how much is too much in this issue.

My ex husband's fiancee insists the kids call her Mom. The kids have told me they don't want to, and I feel they shouldn't have to if they're not comfortable. It's like she's pushing too hard in my eyes, but I also know I'm biased.

On the other hand, the kids (well my son more so) didn't get along with Vader. He was the opposite; he didn't try much to establish a relationship with the kids. Part of it was the awkwardness he felt (he was never really around kids in his life until me), part of it was he didn't want kids (something he decided later in our relationship) and part of was that my son isn't always the easiest kid to handle, and their personalities just didn't gel.

I'm hoping thing go better in my current relationship :) I think they will though (my daughter already wants to marry him :p )

Finding that balance is hard....:hmm: