When is enough enough?

Is is gloating to talk prideful about your kids to other parents if they have done some special acheivment or something like that?

When does it cross the line?

I gotta tell you, I'm so proud of my daughter today but I don't want to come off the wrong way. I just want to tell people because I'm so proud of her.


My personal opinion is that telling you all wouldn't be over the top but then if I kept repeating it or did it in some kind of comparison to other kids parents or something to that effect, would indeed be crossing the line.

What say you?
Do I divulge why I'm so proud of my kid or should I just keep it to me and my family and relatives?

Tell us PB :)

A parent has every right to be proud of their child's achievements :nice:

i think the "my kid is an honor roll student" bumperstickers are annoying and gloating IMO. having a kid that does well in school is its own reward, be happy you're blessed to have a kid that smart and elave it at that. i understand why they put the sticker on their car but still, give it a break.

the once in a while "hey i'm proud of my kid" and telling whoever why and elaving it at that is cool i guess. just depends how often you do it.

Yeah, I'd agree with the bumper sticker thing..

Well, we had our parent/teacher thing today and her teacher stated that Mandy and her best friend are "by far the smartest 2 kids in the school". Her friend is also a year older than her and they are at the same level.
Granted, her school is a Montesorri school with only 4-5-6 year olds.

Mandy just turned 5 last month and is well into, even past in some regards, the first grade cirriculum. It's pretty amazing, some of the stuff she brings home that she's done.

Anyways, it was nice to hear. It made me and the wife very proud.

Now the difficulty will be finding a challenging enough school to get her into for next year.

That is all. I will speak of it no more.

Oh, I do highly reccomend Montessori Schools btw.

hmmm my family was really let down with me. i had tons of potential, i did well in testing in all kinds of subjects yet i never really applied myself.

they loved the fact i did well on all kinds of tests i was given but seriously pissed by the fact i didnt do anything with myself. personally i thought it was annoying they would be so proud of my test scores, guess thats why i kept screwing around in school, the proud parent thing bugged me a lot.

so i have mixed emotions about the whole deal really.

Yeah, I fall in that category for several years. Lots of smarts, didn't apply myself. Personally, I think a couple BIG moves, attributed to some of this. Fortunately, my father instilled the proper perspective in me before it became too late. LOL. He was very tough. If I got a B, the question was "why didn't you get an A?" If I got a C, look out...."average?" "You aren't average, thats unacceptable"....that sort of thing.

Of course, over the years I understand why and I appreciate it.

Coming from a family where my grandmother was beaten for going to school because she was expected to work on the farm, to where my dad became the first one to go to college and become a physician, it was beyond them how us younger ones could take so much for granted, which we did. Back in their days, you HAD to do your best to survive, that just wasn't true with future generations.

i got that too "why not an A?". i appreciate it in some ways for being pushed, dragged and pulled into doing better.

but this mostly came from a man who dropped out of high school yet managed to bust his hump everyday and managed to go from literally the projects to a man who OWNED his own house and lived a nice middle class lifestyle, modest as can be, even frugal and cheap but he didnt get to where he was by being a person who spent lavishly on **** he didnt need. i deeply appreciate what he did for us but i dont push myself because i dont feel a need to, i have everything i need, its not settling for second best IMO, i am exactly where i want to be. even he's not disappointed, he realizes where i'm coming from and doesnt raise hell with me for it. as long as i'm happy, he's happy. he just wanted to make sure i understood the importance of an education and a need to learn something everyday.

as long as i'm happy, he's happy. he just wanted to make sure i understood the importance of an education and a need to learn something everyday.

Bingo. I think every parent eventually realizes that as well.

You can't forget that bragging about your kids probably makes them feel good too. That's what I always think when I see those bumper stickers; if my kid brought one home from school what would I say? "Sorry son, but that would look pretty gay on my El Camino."

But I have to admit I like the other sticker :"your kid might be an honor student, but you're a f-ing moron"

btw Pb, you should be proud of your girl, she sounds very bright.

I've gotta say, when ALL SOMEONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT is their kids, it becomes damn annoying and I tend to avoid that person. Don't get me wrong, I like hearing about people's kids and the stories their parents tell, but there are other things to talk about. I know a couple of women that, no matter what kind of conversation you have with them, the conversation always comes back to their kids. It is annoying.

I dont think the bumpersticker thing is out of line..
Not that I will probably ever put a bumper sticker on my car..

I think the bupersticker thing is there for the kids, not the parent or anyone else.
It is there to let the kids know how proud you are.. proud enough to want to tell the world about it..
and hopefuly that will encourage the kid to keep it up.

if my kid brought one home from school what would I say? "Sorry son, but that would look pretty gay on my El Camino."

That's true..
*Sigh*
Hopefuly my kids only get one bumpersticker and I can put it on the van and leave it off my mazda.
;)

That's true..
*Sigh*
Hopefuly my kids only get one bumpersticker and I can put it on the van and leave it off my mazda.
;)

"Daddy, how come you put my Honor sticker on your crappy old mystery machine instead of your pimped-out G-Ride?"

"Cuz your sticker is gay, son. It's gay to be on the honor roll."

wow another out of context response....not a surprise. :not:

wow another out of context response....not a surprise. :not:

Wow, you managed to post a reply in under three long paragraphs. Well done!

You get the big thumbs UP :nice:

Im sure DHM is smart enough to know I was kidding.
If My kid got a sticker I'd put it on my pimped out g-ride.

Im sure DHM is smart enough to know I was kidding.
If My kid got a sticker I'd put it on my pimped out g-ride.

Actually I thought you were serious, but I still thought it was funny. Sticker or no sticker, if that's the only thing our kids have to worry about then we're doing our jobs :nice:

Sticker or no sticker, if that's the only thing our kids have to worry about then we're doing our jobs

Indeed.

for a project that is being done in a class of mine (the project is about whehter the absense of many intangible assets render the balance sheet a misleading document) but any way a topic touched that my group discussed today was that sure probably one person's parents think their child is the best in the class and then the other person in the group think there child is the best in the class because they aren't subjective.

i really hate it when my mother gloats about my achievements to other people. i don't take compliments and praise well plus it doesn't sit well and i get embarrased .

i really hate it when my mother gloats about my achievements to other people. i don't take compliments and praise well plus it doesn't sit well and i get embarrased .

talk to her. catch her sometime when shes in a good mood and there are no distractions and bring the subject up.

I dont think the bumpersticker thing is out of line..
Not that I will probably ever put a bumper sticker on my car..

I think the bupersticker thing is there for the kids, not the parent or anyone else.
It is there to let the kids know how proud you are.. proud enough to want to tell the world about it..
and hopefuly that will encourage the kid to keep it up.

I agree. I'm never offended by the stickers and it's inconcievable to me how anyone could be. It's important to brag publically on your kids and often and especially in front of them. It builds good ego strength and gives them confidence in themselves as adults later on.

Congradts PB on your child's accomplishments. You are right to be proud. And thanks for sharing the good news.

Thanks Anarky. :) :nice: