Working in a bar, you see all sorts of unique things..
Most of all I can see perfectly happy couple go from giggling and smiling, to out right fist fight after a few drinks.. I have also noticed 99% it is due to jealousy..

Is it the Alcohol increasing the Jealousy?

How does Alcohol relate to failure in relationships..?

Anyone been through this...



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"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for"
-Joseph Addison

I would have to vouch for alcohol as improving my life drastically across the board. Booze helps me become far more sociable and intensifies my enjoyment of life, doing most anything while buzzed is better than doing it sober.

When im drunk id rather sing or dance than fight. Or better yet: DANCE PIT!

I am aware there are certain people who develop alcohol dependency but I fathom this is usually because they have other problems in life or for some reason are very unhappy. Generally if you are violent underneath alcohol will bring it out it seems. Perhaps these violent drunks are just seeking physicall human contact but are either too afraid to do it in a loving way, or dont know how, or maybe they just have a small penis and feel the need to over compensate.

Given the choice of being drunk or sober, id rather be drunk. SIKI SAKI SIKI SAKI HOI HOI HOI!

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"He could not plead want of employment, nor incapacity of getting his bread in an honest way, but frankly own'd it was to get rid of the disagreeable superiority of some masters he was acquainted with and the love of novelty and change."

William Defoe on Bartholomew Roberts career of piracy

I really dont think alcohol increases jealousy, on occasions where i might be jealous alcohol usually sooths me.

Though i have found that constantly being falling down drunk with your significant other can impede sexual activity, which in combination with other factors in my case did eventually end the relationship.

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"He could not plead want of employment, nor incapacity of getting his bread in an honest way, but frankly own'd it was to get rid of the disagreeable superiority of some masters he was acquainted with and the love of novelty and change."

William Defoe on Bartholomew Roberts career of piracy

alcohol can alter the mind in a few ways. Im betting that many couple feel uncomfortable, and maybe have doubts about the relationship. And when they both have some drinks, and say some stupid crap, they feel those doubts even more.

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what do I type here?

Does anyone else find it ironic that the first quote is in the same post as the other two? LOL.....just an observation
I am aware there are certain people who develop alcohol dependency.....
Booze helps me become far more sociable and intensifies my enjoyment of life, doing most anything while buzzed is better than doing it sober.
Given the choice of being drunk or sober, id rather be drunk.


My opinion? Alcohol is a mask for many people. It enables a lot to hide from reality.....some of these people think that is a good thing....I personally don't.
My ex-wife decided she would rather hide from problems we had by hanging her head in a bottle in stead of facing reality and working to make changes....and to be honest, I actually would order her drinks towards the end just to try and make her "happy".

I'm kind of bias against Alcohol and other "drugs"....so I may not be the most objective person to this topic.
I just don't see to many "positives" to getting drunk....

Is it the Alcohol increasing the Jealousy?
I think it screws up any since of logic...so of coarse Jealousy or any other insecurities I would think would come out a bit more than it would normally
How does Alcohol relate to failure in relationships..?
See what I said above about my circumstance.....


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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

Alcohol doesn't intensify jealousy. It simply lowers the inhibition levels so people actually DO something about it. On the same argument, it probably lowered the OTHER peoples' inhibitions low enough to provoke jealousy.

Odds are, the feelings were there before the first drink.

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Minister of Spanking

"I AM the lyrical Jesse James."

one of my stepsisters is in a relationship with an acholic and its really sad.she is totally in love with him and the bottle always comes before her.he also doesnt think he has a problem and he can "quit whenever he wants to".
he is also very jealous for example not wanting her to wear tank tops or stuff that. she is also a hawaiian dancer,so when she wears the whole grass skirt coconut bra getup that is another source for jealousy.shes really pretty though and i dont think its fair that she never gets to wear fun stuff because her boyfriend wants her dressed in a mechanic jumpsuit so no guys can check her out.

I was in a long term relationship with a guy who couldn't/wouldn't admit that he was an alcoholic. For a long time, I didn't want to admit he had a problem either. Our biggest fights happened when he was wasted for two reasons: 1)he became beligerant and selfish, and 2)he lost his ability to censor his words. One night he told me that he'd rather sit in his room and stare at his wall forever instead of seeing me again. I was stupid and kept forgiving him and taking him back for awhile, but now he's long gone out of my life and I'm so much better off for it. So even though alcohol never really made him more jealous, it made him say/do things he'd never say or do otherwise. It was bad.

I think alcohol doest = jealousy but it is basically what everyone here has said.

It makes people lose inhibitions, become more 'true' to their feelings. If someone harbors jealousy, they will show it when they get drunk. Just as if a woman is a flirt...she will be an even bigger flirt while drunk...

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Manu Narayan

OK, also working in a bar this is what I've observed. 1. In a bar situation, there is much more oppurtunity for jealousy. People in a bar check eavh other out. Its what they do. If your significant other thinks you are being checked out to much, the Green Monster appears. 2. Alcohol removes inhibitions and filters. Any insecurities that can be rationalized away when sober can quickly become overwhelming whan drunk. Then with inhibitions removed, you say things you wouldn't normally say, hurt people you wouldn't normally hurt, accuse peole of things you wouldn't even suspect them of when you're sober. Alcohol just brings the true you to the surface. If you are an insecure person, alcohol will reveal that. If you are a horny slut, alcohol will magnify that. "If the eyes are windows to the soul, alcohol is Windex."

Originally posted by jwreck
OK, also working in a bar this is what I've observed. 1. In a bar situation, there is much more oppurtunity for jealousy. People in a bar check eavh other out. Its what they do. If your significant other thinks you are being checked out to much, the Green Monster appears. 2. Alcohol removes inhibitions and filters. Any insecurities that can be rationalized away when sober can quickly become overwhelming whan drunk. Then with inhibitions removed, you say things you wouldn't normally say, hurt people you wouldn't normally hurt, accuse peole of things you wouldn't even suspect them of when you're sober. Alcohol just brings the true you to the surface. If you are an insecure person, alcohol will reveal that. If you are a horny slut, alcohol will magnify that. "If the eyes are windows to the soul, alcohol is Windex."

Very wise, indeed! And I'm going to use that Windex quote, too!