How would you tell tell the difference between loving someone and being in love with them? Keeping in mind most of us have blind affection for those we love.....do you tell by thinking of them as a friend? How much time spent apart? etc.

My friends were talking about this the other day and I wondered if you were going to come to the same conclusions as us...

Rayne

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"When Im good, im very very good, but when Im bad Im better" Mae West

"Why would we be looking at that weird eye?" Garth Algar

In love is "fun" . . . love isn't.

In love is dying to see them while they're away. LOVE is undrestanding the real COST of being away.

In love is happiness. Love is JOY.

In love is Whitney Houston hitting some big high scream with 29 different octaves at the end of the song. Love is drummer and the bass player keeping the beat for the entire song.

In love is something you can't understand. Love is something you DO understand.

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Minister of Spanking

"I AM the lyrical Jesse James."

Originally posted by D Durden:
In love is "fun" . . . love isn't.

In love is dying to see them while they're away. LOVE is undrestanding the real COST of being away.

In love is happiness. Love is JOY.

In love is Whitney Houston hitting some big high scream with 29 different octaves at the end of the song. Love is drummer and the bass player keeping the beat for the entire song.

In love is something you can't understand. Love is something you DO understand.



So do you love your wife/so or are you in love with them?

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"Ultimately all hominids came from Africa, and therefore everyone in America should simply check the box next to 'African-American.' My maternal grandmother was German and my maternal grandfather was Greek. The next time I fill out one of those forms I am going to check 'Other' and write in the truth about my racial and cultural heritage: 'African-Greek-German-American.' And proud of it."

-- Michael Shermer

I don't LOVE my EXXXXXX-wife http://discussanything.com/Ubb/wink.gif. Hehehehe . . . I WAS in love with her . . . for a long time. I THINK I loved her . . . at one time. But, her personality and other traits made it impossible to sustain any kind of significant feeling. Now, I love her in the sense that she is my son's mother. I would and will protect her and provide (to some extent) for her in the name of my son. If it weren't for him, I could live with never seeing her again.

As for my current girlfriend, I LOVE her. Period. It wasn't a "decision", per se, but the feelings are understandable and, dare I say, rational. I understand why I feel the way I feel, and that simply makes things stronger.

"In love" makes for a great time, and it makes for even better movies. It's fun and exciting and all those wonderful things. It's like a Porsche. Oh, it IS fun . . . but it may or may NOT be the car of a lifetime.

To build a LIFETIME, you'd better have something more than just butterflies in your stomach and that yearning to see the other person. That doesn't go away over time, but it DOES diminish. You'd better have something like LOVE and similar interests there to shore up the relationship. Sex is GREAT, but having a similar hobby or two is, honestly, even more healthy for the relationship. And sex ISN'T a hobby! If you do it right, it's WORK baby . . .

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Minister of Spanking

"I AM the lyrical Jesse James."

Originally posted by D Durden:
I don't LOVE my EXXXXXX-wife http://discussanything.com/Ubb/wink.gif. Hehehehe . . . I WAS in love with her . . . for a long time. I THINK I loved her . . . at one time. But, her personality and other traits made it impossible to sustain any kind of significant feeling. Now, I love her in the sense that she is my son's mother. I would and will protect her and provide (to some extent) for her in the name of my son. If it weren't for him, I could live with never seeing her again.

As for my current girlfriend, I LOVE her. Period. It wasn't a "decision", per se, but the feelings are understandable and, dare I say, rational. I understand why I feel the way I feel, and that simply makes things stronger.

"In love" makes for a great time, and it makes for even better movies. It's fun and exciting and all those wonderful things. It's like a Porsche. Oh, it IS fun . . . but it may or may NOT be the car of a lifetime.

To build a LIFETIME, you'd better have something more than just butterflies in your stomach and that yearning to see the other person. That doesn't go away over time, but it DOES diminish. You'd better have something like LOVE and similar interests there to shore up the relationship. Sex is GREAT, but having a similar hobby or two is, honestly, even more healthy for the relationship. And sex ISN'T a hobby! If you do it right, it's WORK baby . . .


Hmm... I love Fred. He's my bud. At the same time, sometimes I get all giddy just to know he's around. I think that's "in love". Sometimes he pisses me off and I don't go stark raving mad, so I love him as a person and friend?

We can spend a whole weekend just bullshitting and watching movies. That takes more than 'in love', that takes some kind of childhood friendship, I think.

I don't know if that makes sense.

Sometimes you need to toss in lust as a side ingredient, to break away from the everyday crap you face, IMO.
?? Who knows.

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"Ultimately all hominids came from Africa, and therefore everyone in America should simply check the box next to 'African-American.' My maternal grandmother was German and my maternal grandfather was Greek. The next time I fill out one of those forms I am going to check 'Other' and write in the truth about my racial and cultural heritage: 'African-Greek-German-American.' And proud of it."

-- Michael Shermer

[This message has been edited by buggy (edited 10-16-2001).]

Love, lust, in love, and "in love with the idea of love"

You feel something, and there are many grays, extremes, and varieties. Perhaps you can only feel a certain type of love while you are young. And with age and experince, love changes.

But it can be amazing, or it can be over-rated. It has little logic, and is rooted in human biology.