It's a part of the overall subject of marriage, so I guess I'll throw it in.

It's relevent to me particularly, since I'm going through one right now.


So, let's have some thoughts from people on the flip side of marriage...

When is it right to walk out on your marriage & get that divorce?

Is divorce too easy to get nowadays?

Any personal experiences to share?



My personal experiences are somewhat known to anybody who's been around DA for a while. I stayed in a BAD marriage for almost 14 years. I did so because I believe marriage is a serious commitment & you don't run out on somebody just because times have gotten a little rough. Sadly over the last year plus when I really was ready to get out, I'd also been beaten down enough by life in general that I lacked enough faith in myself to escape. That's another story though.

To continue & relate the story to the topic... Divorce is NOT fun, even if escaping a hideous marriage. It's expensive, even for a quick no-fault divorce. It's emotionally exhausting to the point of being brutal too. You also often find yourself replaying your whole relationship & askingyourself over & over what you could/should have done different at various points to make it work. Personally when not doing that, I tend to reflect on how much time I lost in my life trying to make it work. An ironic case of polar opposites.

I've heard others relate that it makes them feel like a failure on various levels too. Mainly as a man/woman and/or partner. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with that. It seems to be more common for the person getting divorced rather than the one who actually filed as I did.

Then there's children to think of too. Thank God I'm not in THAT boat. Having to deal with losing my kids most of the time or wrenching them from their other parent (mother in my case were I to have any kids) would tear me up.

my wife says we can't use the "D" word :)

my wife calls me the d word - daddy :)

Originally posted by Kraw
my wife says we can't use the "D" word :)


Well... That means one of two things...

A) Better keep things going good with her then, OR...

B) You just gonna have to drag the body out onto the Bayou(sp?) and feed it to dem thare gators so the police ain't got no evidence :eek: :D ;) :nice:





No, really... I AM Jedi & not Sith. LOL

Why'd you marry her in the first place?

I was divorced once in my life.


The time to get out of your marriage? When your partner is out all night and comes home drunk.

When you are at a party and some drunk guy points to your wife and starts telling you how his roomate is screwing her (appearantly unaware that you are her husband... this really happened to me by the way)

When your own daughter tells you that your wife is sleeping in the same room with some strange guy while you were out or at work all night.

I think thats a good time to be looking for a divorce.

Otherwise I am opposed to divorce.

Originally posted by Kraw
my wife says we can't use the "D" word :)
I always use the D word. In my first marriage I was scared to death but now a days I don't care.

I use it all the time...being divorced I don't give it a second thought.

I doubt if I'd get married again....hell if your happy living together screw the damn formalities .....

Me personally, we shouldn't have gotten married in the first place we had major problems even just living together....but we went ahead and did it..... why? I dunno maybe we thought marriage would fix things..obviously they didn't...

A good time to leave a marriage..hmm let's see ....I'd say... when all the glass in the house is broken from being thrown at each other, when you have a black eye , and he has a broken nose from being slammed into the coffee table......those are sure signs that your marriage probably won't work out......

If we ask ourselves is it too easy to get a divorce...

we have to ask ourselves...is it too easy to get married?....

those both are moot points in my mind.

I don't know, Scott. All she had to do was get me drunk to marry her.

She had to threaten me with armed militia to get the divorce:p Talk about someone who got sensitive...geesh.

But its over now. It's not something I ever expected, but it usually isn't for one of the parties involved.

Atleast in marriage the act is usually mutual.

I think an appropriate time to walk out is when your husband is spending all the money on alcohol instead of feeding his kids. While I have never been married, hence never divorced, I did get the pleasure of experiencing my parents divorce when I was 12-14. Yes, it took them almost 3 years to get divorced.

I'm sorry to hear that. l'miss. My youngest was about your age when our divorce started.

I like to challenge the system and didn't get an attorney friend to represent me (like she did). The divorce was granted by the county clerk in less than 10 months from when she started it.

Talk about government in action:p

Actually, she almost had it timed perfectly to our..I think...22nd anniversary.


I'm terrible with dates. One of the things that got me in trouble:D

my wife calls me the d word - daddy


ewwwww.
i hope no woman EVER calls me daddy.

well. except my daughter. ;)