What is your biggest turn-off?

I think I might have just found mine. I saw this nice looking girl at work, went up, started talking to her. First words out of her mouth, I couldn't understand. Something like "yo, why you be fronten all up in here with yo thang up, g" I was like wtf? she started talking to some other girl, couldn't understand a word.. she was ghetto..

so that's a big turn off for me.. I actually want a girl who isn't full of herself..

It used to be trendy GAP girls, then I fell in love with a trendy GAP girl. It used to be smoking, then I fell in love with a smoker. Now it would probably have to be severe mental retardation. *knock on wood*

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"He'd watched her sleep with her fists clenched, tormented by nightmares of gleaming, blond archangels, implacable in their armor, as dogmatic as the God who made them march in time." ~Arturo Pérez-Reverte

hmmmm....
Women with Tattoos....not saying that I couldn't love a women with a tattoo....but that is just a turn off for me at first site.

Women who talk like sailors....profanity does not bother me, but when the vast majority of your adjectives consist of trash....dunno...just don't like it.

Women who are still stuck in that "party girly" phase...I know how to have fun.....but I don't need alcohol and a bunch of people to do it either.

Women with full beards.....nothing else to explain on this one.....

Women with facial piercing....just not into that whole thing....I dunno....

Attitude....you can be drop dead georgious, but if your attitude sucks...you ain't so pretty to me....

Women who are in my age group that still try to act like they are in High School....nothing wrong with remembering things...but trying to relive them....come on...get over it...

Smoking does not bother me....up until two weeks ago, I was smoking 2-2.5 packs a day....so who am I to say it is a turn off....

That should be about it....it's all I can think of anyways....I'll add to the list if anything comes to me....

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

Originally posted by Je$ter:
hmmmm....
Women who talk like sailors....profanity does not bother me, but when the vast majority of your adjectives consist of trash....dunno...just don't like it.

Women who are still stuck in that "party girly" phase...I know how to have fun.....but I don't need alcohol and a bunch of people to do it either.


I hear ya bro, those two really piss me off.. girls that are like that should wear a hat that says "don't me because <blank>".. it's only fair to us..

Damn, Je$ter, right up until that beard thing, I thought you were talkin' about my girl! Of course, she's 19, so I don't fault her the "party girly" phase. She's got a really level head when outside of the presence of alcohol and pot.

So...none of you guys are turned off by severe mental retardation?

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"He'd watched her sleep with her fists clenched, tormented by nightmares of gleaming, blond archangels, implacable in their armor, as dogmatic as the God who made them march in time." ~Arturo Pérez-Reverte

severe mental retardation? hmm.. yeah, probably.. but it all depends on personality..

yes, you must stay away from bearded wemon.. they are really men.. so I have heard..

and the only thing worse than a party girl, is a girl that wants to be a party girl, that is too fugly to be one..

SMOKING!!

Hate it Hate it Hate it....... YUCK!!!!

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"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for"
-Joseph Addison

Spitting is a big turn off. I used to sit outside of my friend Joe's house with 3 or 4 boys and by the time we all finished our cigerettes, they had spit enough to create a pool that would drown a small animal! I understand sometimes you have to but I don't think you have to do the whole big loogy(sp) spit every 30 seconds!

What is your biggest turn-off?

In no certain order:

- smoking
- drug use
- alcohol use
- short hair
- stupidity
- insecurity

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You can sleep in your racecar, but you can't race your house!

Shyness
Smoking
Men who wont even ATTEMPT dancing....its cute when they give it a try and cant...very sweet.
Not getting my sarcastic jokes
Youth in men......I like 'em 25+ (about 10 years older is good)

Thats in no particular order

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"When Im good, im very very good, but when Im bad Im better" Mae West

"Why would we be looking at that weird eye?" Garth Algar

Spitting is a big turn off

Yea, I'm a guy and don't understand that one....

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

What is it with guys not liking short hair?It's JUST hair...it grows back! What if a girl had a 3rd nipple but long hair; would you date her as opposed to a girl with shirt hair and the normal 2 nipples?

yeah I hear ya, what is wrong with short hair, some girls (not all) look better with short hair..

and long hair can get annoying actually.. I won't go into which cases.. but it just does, like riding with windows down in the car.. hair everywhere

I have only seen a hand full of women I thought looked GOOD with short hair. And short hair to me is anything between mid neck and the jaw line....


What is it with guys not liking short hair?It's JUST hair...it grows back! What if a girl had a 3rd nipple but long hair; would you date her as opposed to a girl with shirt hair and the normal 2 nipples?

I don't know if this is a good analogy....the nipple thing is something that woman could not control (unless she surgically removed it)...but the hair is more of a choice.
And by no means am I saying that I wouldn't date a woman with short hair.....but on first appearance...most of the time women with short hair do not catch my eye....

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

My hair is short...You dogging on me...

/me strikes Jester "Chris" Shady from potential prospects.. :P

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"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for"
-Joseph Addison

[This message has been edited by Princess (edited 09-21-2001).]

well....shit....

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

Hey Princess...*bzzzzzzz*

*chases her around the thread with an electric razor*

But seriously, folks. Hair really doesn't matter all that much. Oh hey, and Princess, I've decided: I'll do it if she does. =)

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"He'd watched her sleep with her fists clenched, tormented by nightmares of gleaming, blond archangels, implacable in their armor, as dogmatic as the God who made them march in time." ~Arturo Pérez-Reverte

Whiney people. Waaaaaaaaaa.

Complainers with no plan of action. "I'm poor, I'm broke, but I'm too good to work at Jack In The Box."

Arrogant people.



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"Ultimately all hominids came from Africa, and therefore everyone in America should simply check the box next to 'African-American.' My maternal grandmother was German and my maternal grandfather was Greek. The next time I fill out one of those forms I am going to check 'Other' and write in the truth about my racial and cultural heritage: 'African-Greek-German-American.' And proud of it."

-- Michael Shermer

Originally posted by buggy:
Whiney people. Waaaaaaaaaa.

Complainers with no plan of action. "I'm poor, I'm broke, but I'm too good to work at Jack In The Box."

Arrogant people.



I am with you girl...

You know the big talkers.. "I am going to do this, and that.." Well. get off your lazy a$$ and just do it.."

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"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for"
-Joseph Addison

someone who isn't outgoing...stuck up..and won't laugh at my goofyness! http://discussanything.com/Ubb/smile.gif


on a side note?...are you 15 RAY, and you want a 25 year old?!?...i'm, confused

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lets see...
First off, I hate bitches. I do not like to hear bitching.
I can stand short hair, but do not preferr it. Its one more step closer to being butch.
I dont like hairy or deep voiced girls.
No fat chicks. A little chub is ok, but thats it.
I like honesty, and not just in theory.
She should be horny, like sex, and not be shy about it. Oral goes either way. http://discussanything.com/Ubb/tongue.gif

Originally posted by Princess:
I am with you girl...

You know the big talkers.. "I am going to do this, and that.." Well. get off your lazy a$$ and just do it.."


Yes! I also like enjoy silence... so talking too much sucks. http://discussanything.com/Ubb/smile.gif

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"Ultimately all hominids came from Africa, and therefore everyone in America should simply check the box next to 'African-American.' My maternal grandmother was German and my maternal grandfather was Greek. The next time I fill out one of those forms I am going to check 'Other' and write in the truth about my racial and cultural heritage: 'African-Greek-German-American.' And proud of it."

-- Michael Shermer

[This message has been edited by buggy (edited 09-23-2001).]

*******s...argh

Hehehe no Scott, Im 20 (well will be on Friday WOOHOO). I just meant that 25 is around the starting age for partners with me....my current boyfriend/manfriend? is 10 years older.



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"When Im good, im very very good, but when Im bad Im better" Mae West

"Why would we be looking at that weird eye?" Garth Algar

Originally posted by Nic:
In no certain order:

- smoking
- drug use
- alcohol use
- short hair
- stupidity
- insecurity

Wow, that fits me like a T-shirt. But not a tight one. It wouldn't be tight because I'm fat. No.

Hmmmm . . . turn offs? Sexually or relationship?

Sexually, tats and smoking get you booted pretty quickly . . . unless the tat is something like "WARNING: Gag reflex missing" tattooed on her tongue or something. I could appreciate the invitation . . . uh, I mean warning. Otherwise, I think God did a wonderful job with the female form. We don't need and advertisment for Budweiser messing up the obstacle course, you know?

Swearing is not attractive. I curse enough for 2 . . . I don't need your help, sweetheart.

Arrogance is completely out for a relationship . . . but is REALLY sexy, especially those "if a guy tried anything with me, I'd kick his ass" girls. Funny, those girls are always 5'2" and 94 pounds with the muscle mass of a small clam. It's fun making them sweat after you get their arms pinned and say "okay, now kick my ass, please . . . but can you do it without this bra?" LOL! Relationship bad . . . "Me Tarzan, you Jane" sex, good.

OVER piercing is not attractive. Ears - expected. Navel - VERY nice. Tongue - hehehehehe . . . if a woman has a pierced tongue, she'll probably . . . Nose - SOMETIMES looks acceptable. Nipples - ouch. Lip - chips my teeth on a good kisser. Buttcheeks - I'm sorry your mommy didn't hold you enough when you were a baby, but please find another way to attract attention.

Shallow/cold is sexy but not good for a relationship. All it does is preclude any guilt I may have in stealing money out of her purse and doing her roommate on the way out in the morning . . . AND telling all my friends her roommate was better . . . only later finding out she lives with her mother . . . DOOOOOOOH!!!

Boring clothes. They don't paint Mustang Cobra's beige for a reason.

Ugly shoes. My God ladies, you go to the gym for 2 hours a day to get legs like a gazelle and then you wear Frankenstein shoes. They don't make mudders and lift kits for Mustang Cobras FOR A REASON.

Big feet and hands . . . sorry, it's just a personal thing I have.

Here's one that will stir people up . . . lol! Materialistic women: sexually turn off . . . relationship . . . well, not so bad. At least you know what you're getting into. Bargaining a new dress and shoes for a weekend's worth of "oral pleasure" is not a bad deal. A co-worker friend of mine worked a deal with his wife that got her to lose 20 pounds and fit back into some belly-dancer costume he met her in (Halloween party) along with "rights and privileges" for a year. All it cost him was a new Ford Expedition. I saw her in the outfit . . . he got a great deal. I heard she told him (after 6 months) that if she'd had known it was going to be this much work, she'd have insisted on the Eddie Bauer edition! LOL! Honestly, she dropped the 20 pounds along with another 5 AFTER they got the truck . . . you do the logic.

Slobs. Use the same reason for cursing. I'm slobby enough for 2.

Short hair NORMALLY is a turn-off for me. To me, it's a lot like import cars. Short hair is either "feh" or "Oh my God . . . I must have her". There isn't much in-between for me.

Goddess mentality i.e. "you're so lucky to be with me . . ." Maybe I am, but I don't want to hear it, especially from a girl that I heard fart once.

Trendy women. I don't shop at the Gap. I wear clothes I like and are durable. My criteria for clothes are that they are hot/cool enough, not boring, and big enough to pack a full-sized 1911A1 with a couple of clips underneath. I don't want to be judged as "un-bedable" because I don't have a $200 Tommy shirt on. When you have teenage women tearing at your clothes like I do, you simply can't afford to replace expensive items like that . . . that's my story, and I'm sticking to it!

On the other hand, there IS something fun about "messing up" a really trendy or fashion-concious girl during sex. It's a good gage on how much they enjoyed the trip. If they have to go have a perm re-done after being with you, odds are, we're related somehow . . . LMAO!!

"Beyond" Bitches. A bitch isn't a turn-off because you don't have to feel guilty in the morning. A "beyond bitch" is an order of magnitude worse. She's so bad that you wouldn't have sex with her in any capacity in fear that she MAY extract some sort of pleasure from it.

If I sound like a pig, then you've obviously read my post correctly. I am a straight male which makes likens me to the little mud-dwellers. I am, however, honest about my feelings, and I think that most guys will (albeit secretly) find some common ground.

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Minister of Spanking

"I AM the lyrical Jesse James."

Turn offs, In no particular order...

-Smoking
-Soccermomosis
-Tough/Bitchy in a rude way
-Severe lack of self-confidence or esteem, (a minor lack is no big deal, but if a woman needs constant & persistant re-assuring its no good)
-Bragosis (Its okay to be proud of something, but to brag about everything is bad)
-Antirespectfulness (Accepting respect but never giving it back)
-Tatoos
-Lack of Personal Hygine
-Boring Clothes (Constantly wearing boring clothes seems like a way of expressing a lack of self-confidence. Just because your not a model doesnt mean you can't wear a nice skirt, albiet there are exceptions to everything but you get my point)

What exactly constitutes "boring" clothes? The colours? The shape? The fact they went out of fashion in 1906?

Rayne

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"When Im good, im very very good, but when Im bad Im better" Mae West

"Why would we be looking at that weird eye?" Garth Algar

[This message has been edited by Raynewitch (edited 10-03-2001).]

By 'Boring Clothes' I'm reffering to wearing loose fiting conservative clothing, e.g. Pants & Shirt... Essentialy if its not tight, trendy, revealing, sexy, or a business suit it has a high probablity of being 'Boring'.

It may have more to do with how the clothes are worn on the woman, then the clothes themselves.

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"I have often regretted my speech, never my silence." - Xenocrates

Hmmm well my favourite clothing is my good ol' flares, they get called boing. But if I was to let my bf dress me he would have me in a miniskirt and my red hatlerneck shirt or a freaking teeny weeny sundress all year round!

There are reasons women wear "boring" clothes.....comfort being one. I cant really imagine myself teetering around the vegie section of the shops in a pair of stilletos and a micro boob tube, though come to think of it I have seen it done. Not that I own a boob tube....that would be nigh on impossible, *sigh*.

Plus I wear REALLY boring things to peeve the bf off hehehehe.....nothing like a good old pair of Mary Janes to make him pout.

Rayne (the evil side)

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"When Im good, im very very good, but when Im bad Im better" Mae West

"Why would we be looking at that weird eye?" Garth Algar

LOL

You knew exactly what I meant the whole time...

Turn offs for me in no real order:

Fat slobs (yuck)
Rude humour (read: Adam Sandler)
Bad breath (you know the kind you can smell from 5 feet away)
Sloppy drunks (ya never know what they are gonna say or do)
Spit tabacco (shudder)

Drunkeness is a big turnoff, I feel that when two ppl are together they shoul remember and enjoy it. Not dull their senses to it.

Capri Pants..... 'nuff said, I hate those damn things. Shorts or pants lady.

Uber-long hair, if she's got hair past/to her ass :not: I like short hair, but not butch cuts...I'm talking "THAT GIRL", or "Mary Tyler Moore" short hair.

Passiveness is kind of a turnoff too, I like a girl who knows what she wants to do, and does it.

There are other things too but those are prolly the major ones.

Trashy tattoos and tongue rings. :icky: :(

John

Unibrow
Any kind of drug use
Bad teeth
Doesn't like cats
Fancy, Mary-boys who spend more time in the mirror then I do
Doesn't change his own oil

There are a few things that will really turn me off from a guy:

"pretty boys" - I guess it's a stereotypical thing but still...

Having said that, a total lack of personal hygien is worse- How difficult is it to throw some clothes in the wash and hop in the shower? Also in this category falls body odor and bad breath

Fighting (with strangers) - seriously, if you and your buddy have an issue and need to duke it out, fine, but when we're out at a bar or some other venue and you get into it with a stranger for whatever reason, you lose my respect, just not cool

Pessimists - I'm an optimist and I just don't want to deal with your bitching, complaining, woe-is-me attitude, stop being such a downer

People with no sense of humor

People who are close minded

People who are totally self absorbed

People who don't like kids

People who gawk at the opposite sex while with their SO's...this REALLY turns me off :eek:

- People who don't like me. If they don't like me, it tends to be a big turnoff.

- People with no sense of humor. I can find humor in anything, and a person who won't find at least most of it funny is going to have a big problem with me.

- Attitude. Bitch, ghetto, ego, prima donna (thus why I'll never date an actress), you name it. If she's got a bad attitude, she's off the list

- Idiocy. If I'm attracted to a girl, it's gotta take me three minutes or more to get below her neck. You can tell just from talking if she's bright or not, and a lot of my personality hinges on her being bright enough to catch a lot of my jokes, etc. Also, I need to be able to talk with her, for hours on end, without feeling like it's all going way over her head.

- Complete insensitivity. Whether it be just discourteousness or going out of her way to be mean, if she's not even slightly sensitive to other people, it's going to be a problem. I'm an empath, it doesn't work so well when I'm sensing other people's dislike for her, cuz I pick up on it.

- Lemming. I cannot date somebody who will follow blindly just because she is told to. She's gotta have the guts to question anything and everything, esp. me. I don't want a "yes dear" relationship, I want a girl who can look me in the eye and say, "No, **** you, you're wrong."

- Play-it-safe types. If she's not willing to take a chance, then we'll be at a standstill the whole time. I like pushing limits, pissing people off sometimes (:D), things like that, nothing that would get me put on the FBI's Most Wanted list, but...y'know...fun stuff. I want somebody I can defy social norms with.

- Party Girls. You wanna go out and get drunk, fine. You wanna go party, fine. You ONLY wanna go out and party and get drunk, and we have a problem. I can go to those kind of parties, but I also like the kinds that "adults" have. You know, the kinds with jazz playing in the background and where everybody's talking intelligently amongst themselves. Those are fun too.

- Psychos/obsessive girls. Dated too many of 'em in the past, not going back to it. Ever.

People who think they know everything and are closed minded to hearing anything to the contrary.

People who get upset over words then don't want to talk about it.

People who say they are you friends then stop being there over nothing.

People who don't want advice but talk about the same thing ad-infinitem.

Bisexual women. I am not sharing you get over it.

People who think it's ok for them to be as sarcastic and playful as they want and then get all pissy when I do it back.

People who won't look me in the eyes.

People who hang out with me in hopes that I'm going to pay for whatever it is, and don't even say thanks when/if it happens.

People who look for excuses to not like someone.

People who think they are "all that."

People who think they are above average intelligence and really don't know the difference between intelligence and smart. Hint: Smart people know from repetition of others. Intelligent people can figure it out by themselves. IE Smart=books, streets Intelligent=being able to use mind creatively.

People who correct my spelling. I don't care if I did I would have looked it up.

People who are only into themselves.

People who never give you a chance to be their friend.

People who are rude.

Women who get mad when you open the door for them but let you pay for dinner without a thought.

Ill keep it simple...

Smoking
lack of intellegence
whining
lack of sense of humor
so damn uptight, that if you shove a hot coal up her ass, it will turn into a diamond. :D

Nice Bueller quote there, Riz.

Originally posted by Stage Monster
Nice Bueller quote there, Riz.

Thanks Xach, couldnt pass up the oppritunity :D

Biggest Turnoff = (besides fat roles and utter stupidity) an inability to admit when they are wrong.


Your wrong bisssaaaach!!!!!!!!!!!

Prudes. I hate prudes. If a girl gets offended by even a mildly dirty joke, then cya.

Lack of a sense of humor in general.

Prissiness. I can't stand the type of gal that goes into crying fits if she gets a speck of dust on her blouse. I like to play wrestle 'n' stuff as well. Prissy gals don't like that kind of thing.

Stupidity/ignorance/shallowness. A gal has to have at least a passing grasp of world affairs and politics. Any gal that gets aggrevated when I put the channel on CNN or Fox News can kiss my arse.

Refusal to ever voice her opinion/general submissiveness. Don't be afraid to let me know what you think or give me a kick in the balls if I deserve it (just make sure I deserve it first :p).

Compulsive liars.

Compulsive conversation interrupters.

Self centeredness.

Gals that can spend three hours in a shoe store.

-Dumb behaviour, in the I-see-everything-you-say-in-a-discussion-that-is-not-my-opinion-as-an-insult-kinda-way

-Ugly laughing. It is rare, but yeah...

-Lack of humor or

-Complete lack of sarcasm / ability to not understand sarcasm at all

-Lack of sensitivity

that's pretty much all I can think of now... oh wait, also:

-Unibrows :p

People who leave the DA Chat room when I enter.

people who talk to themselves
people with no sense of humor and a stick up their butt
bad smelling people
gross teeth
narrow mindedness
material people
rich people who dont share or think they are better than other people who arent rich
inability to be spontaneous
trying to hard
lying
excessive drunkeness
smoking
prissy people
people not willing to get their hands dirty
people that arent at all into nature

The biggest turn off is a guy that has an ego the size of a small country and thinks that he is God's gift to women everywhere. GET OVER YOURSELF!!

Other big turn offs are guys that are close-minded and don't listen (among many others).

racism

no listening skills

impatience

bad hygiene. No BO around me please!