OK, here us on for ya....

Have any of you been burned in past relationships to the point where your trust in people has really been hindered? I mean, not that I just flat out don't trust people....but I know I had this wall around me to begin with where only a select few made it in...but now, well...lets just say the walls have gotten very thick.

I know I will be in another "relationship" with someone one day...but I just don't want to put that person threw hell from the damage someone else has caused....ya know?

If you have any experiance, or info you don't mind sharing....lets hear it.

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

Jes....

You KNOW me!

Okay...here goes: I had/have that wall, and the longer you leave it up, the harder it is to knock it down. That wall will breed lots of negative traits that will be VERY difficult for a future 'interest' to manage. (ask Dave about that) DON'T let this happen! It's not good for you and it's not good for your future happiness. I'm NOT saying to let yourself be 'gullible'. You've gotten your experience, and I'm sure you can 'spot' negative traits/signs pretty quickly now. Just don't shy away from 'potential' because you're afraid of getting hurt again, you might miss out on something wonderful. I almost did!

Yea, I know you http://discussanything.com/Ubb/biggrin.gif

Freaken AIM is geeked up here at work....
Anyways...whats funny is I sit and read your post, and I know all this...and I don't WANT to do this....but I just find myself with really, alot of bitterness and anger. I really don't want to treat anyone crappy, but I don't know....maybe it is just a phase I'm going threw....I hope so anyways...

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

Before I got married I was in a soso 5 year relationship in which I caught my gf cheating on me at the end. It was the worst feeling in the world! I swore that I would never be a fool again. I Met my wife soon after and didnt really have a hard time falling in love with her from the start! However, NOTHING will ever surprize me again and I will NEVER fully trust her to the point that I will think she or anyone is incapable of betraying you.

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Spelling is for kids! I think you got the point!

Hey, it's okay not to trust completely. That's what got me into trouble in the first place. She trusted me completely and quite trying. I trusted her completely and "let" her run around like a 19 year old sorority girl. Trust was one of our PROBLEMS.

You should be able to trust your mate not to actively pursue an affair and to turn down any offers. Possibly even MORE important is that your partner not put themselves into any situations that would offer up lots of opportunities.

I'm pretty trustworthy, but, since I'm in a relationship with Lisa, I WON'T be accepting any jobs designing/developing sex toys for a website called "JustForBiTwinSisters.com" no more than she's going to start singing in a men's club called "La Petite Fetishi".

To me, I trust people a whole lot more when the opportunity to "transgress" isn't favorable. I mean, everyone has their limits.

imo, complete trust is just plain stupid. I trust my family and gf to a certain point, but will never completely trust them, or myself for that matter.... there's just too many unclear things about the human mind/brain, and there's always the possibility of bad stuff happening. Trust is important and good, but don't overdo it...

please do note I came out as highly paranoid/schizoid/schizotypical in that personality test http://discussanything.com/Ubb/biggrin.gif

please do note I came out as highly paranoid/schizoid/schizotypical in that personality test
Hey now...I told you that test wasn't right, didn't we....

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I do what ever my Rice Krispys tell me to...

I trust a few guys that I work with, my dad, and my brohers completely....that's it.

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Well I dont carry baggage, nobody should. But keep on your toes, they could be messed up or a betraying person. But dont make every little thing into the same situation as you had with a past person. I leave crazy bitches that do that. Its not worth the hassle.

CT . . . baby, on THAT we can agree . . . well put!

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From what i've seen in Past relationships (3) Trust has been a loose term.. I'm currently 23 when my last relationship ending when i was 18. The reason for that is that my GF cheated on me.. with 30 different guys.. In fact.. she cheated on all of them(us)

The last one hurt.. But it didn't stop me.. I learned that trust wasn't something to be taken lightly anymore. So far in any attempt to start a new relationship since then i've found that I can't fully trust any of the women i've met... W/ the exception of all my female friends that i've met before and after that time.. None of my female friends started off as a "potential" or "chase" They were casual aquaintences that grew into a friendship.

As for Future relationships.. Who knows.. I only hope that I can find someone who I can trust..

Advice Welcome


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"I'm loved by some, hated by many, envied by most, yet wanted by plenty."

Hiz . . . temper trust with avoiding temptation. To me, that's the best way to handle it.

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Go ahead and call Cosmo "Chief" and Bill is "Fearless Leader" . . . I'm HAPPILY "Minister of Spanking"!!

Famous Last Words:
Socrates - "I drank WHAT?"