hillie16
12-11-2001, 05:50 PM
Remember I've posted about the ex I missed so much, that I was with while me and the wife were seperated for a year? Well maybe you should get the whole story.
In May of 99 I married my wife. We were completely happy, and everything was great. for about the first two months. Then she started hangin around this guy at the bar i sang in....began talking to him on the phone and everything. It got to the point were we would walk in, find a table, and she would go hang with him all night and I would be by myself all night. She started nitpicking everything I did, and bitching about everything, no matter how inconsequential (sp?) Any way, on Feb 15, 2000 (Yes the day after Valentines day) a week before we were supposed to move into our new apartment (we were living with her parents) I came home from work and all my stuff is packed. She makes me leave, saying she needs space, whatever. I believe to this day that she wanted this other guy, which she still denies. She still doesn't know how much he came to me (Iwas very good friends with him) and complained about how she was up his arse all the time. Now she has given several stories as to her reasons for leaving...her dad brainwashed her into it, she had issues because of past things in her life that made her panic because we were so close, or whatever. I begged and pleaded and made myself look like an ass for 2 1/2 months trying to get her to come back to me. She kept coming into the bar I sang in...(I was going there before she was even 21...it was the ONLY place I went. It was like it was MY place you know?) And I would sing to her and she would ignore me or whatever. So eventually she tells me she wants a divorce...but she doesn't wanna do it for a while because she wants to stay covered by my health insurance. So I just say whatever. During all of this I'm becoming everything I hate. I'm a jerk to everyone I know...I'm drinking all the time. Then one night, my friends Becky and Dwayne, go out to this bar, and I meet this beautiful girl there,Tammi, who is already friends with Becky. I like her but she seems to be WAYYYYY outta my league. Anyway a whole bunch of us went back to her place. I ended up talking to her all night, and over time we end up together. We have EVERYTHING in common, and everythng is PERFECT. We are so great together in EVERY way. We both stopped drinking, and I even started liking myself again. Then, after we are together for 6 months....and the wife decides she wants me to come back. Now I'm confused as hell. I love this girl I'm with, but I'm married to the wife, I made this commitment, and I do still love her...I end up breaking up with Tammi...going back and forth between the two. I didn't know it was possible to love two people at once. I ended up moving in with the wife and trying things with her. Then I find out while we where split up she was sleeping with a mutual friend of ours, who was her sisters FORMER FIANCE!! After we got together this "friend" went around bragging to everyone in the places I hang out in that he screwed my wife, and tellin everyone he screwed a cops wife. The whole time I am thinking about how much I miss Tammi, and how every argument I have with the wife is one I wouldn't have with Tammi, because me and the wife have NOTHING in common anymore. I even ended up sneaking away to see Tammi. I had never cheated on anyone before....so again I'm becoming something I hate. Well, I got caught...and they are both mad at me, and I panic and beg the wife to come back and we get back together....and still I'm missing Tammi. So the night before Thanksgiving, the wife gets into my e-mail and sees an e-mail between me and Tammi and flips out giving me the boot again. I wasn't seeing or talkng to her, just e-mailed...and Tammi had just come back from Niagara Falls with her new boyfriend...we weren't going to see each other like that anymore. But the wife doesn't care about that. So the next night I go to a Jam night at a bar with my friend who is an awesome guitarist, and I'm singin there that night. I walk into the bar section to get a beer and lo and behold there is Tammi and her boyfriend sitting at the bar. I can't even look it hurts so much. Tammi comes out to the band area and asks if I'm okay and says she is sorry because she didn't know I would be there and she knows it hurts me. I tell her don't worry about it, and pretty much try to get her to go back into the bar cuz I don't wanna cause problems for her and her boyfriend. Any way she came out and talked to me again and he got pissed and broke up with her there on the spot. She was thrilled LOL. We got back together that night. We have been back together now for a while...and I wish I had never left. I am so happy know I don't know how I did it (leaving). I am so much happier, and life is great right now. I know it will bother me a little bit when I have to sign the papers...but i know where I belong now...and It's right where I am. Anyway that's why I haven't been on lately lol.
In May of 99 I married my wife. We were completely happy, and everything was great. for about the first two months. Then she started hangin around this guy at the bar i sang in....began talking to him on the phone and everything. It got to the point were we would walk in, find a table, and she would go hang with him all night and I would be by myself all night. She started nitpicking everything I did, and bitching about everything, no matter how inconsequential (sp?) Any way, on Feb 15, 2000 (Yes the day after Valentines day) a week before we were supposed to move into our new apartment (we were living with her parents) I came home from work and all my stuff is packed. She makes me leave, saying she needs space, whatever. I believe to this day that she wanted this other guy, which she still denies. She still doesn't know how much he came to me (Iwas very good friends with him) and complained about how she was up his arse all the time. Now she has given several stories as to her reasons for leaving...her dad brainwashed her into it, she had issues because of past things in her life that made her panic because we were so close, or whatever. I begged and pleaded and made myself look like an ass for 2 1/2 months trying to get her to come back to me. She kept coming into the bar I sang in...(I was going there before she was even 21...it was the ONLY place I went. It was like it was MY place you know?) And I would sing to her and she would ignore me or whatever. So eventually she tells me she wants a divorce...but she doesn't wanna do it for a while because she wants to stay covered by my health insurance. So I just say whatever. During all of this I'm becoming everything I hate. I'm a jerk to everyone I know...I'm drinking all the time. Then one night, my friends Becky and Dwayne, go out to this bar, and I meet this beautiful girl there,Tammi, who is already friends with Becky. I like her but she seems to be WAYYYYY outta my league. Anyway a whole bunch of us went back to her place. I ended up talking to her all night, and over time we end up together. We have EVERYTHING in common, and everythng is PERFECT. We are so great together in EVERY way. We both stopped drinking, and I even started liking myself again. Then, after we are together for 6 months....and the wife decides she wants me to come back. Now I'm confused as hell. I love this girl I'm with, but I'm married to the wife, I made this commitment, and I do still love her...I end up breaking up with Tammi...going back and forth between the two. I didn't know it was possible to love two people at once. I ended up moving in with the wife and trying things with her. Then I find out while we where split up she was sleeping with a mutual friend of ours, who was her sisters FORMER FIANCE!! After we got together this "friend" went around bragging to everyone in the places I hang out in that he screwed my wife, and tellin everyone he screwed a cops wife. The whole time I am thinking about how much I miss Tammi, and how every argument I have with the wife is one I wouldn't have with Tammi, because me and the wife have NOTHING in common anymore. I even ended up sneaking away to see Tammi. I had never cheated on anyone before....so again I'm becoming something I hate. Well, I got caught...and they are both mad at me, and I panic and beg the wife to come back and we get back together....and still I'm missing Tammi. So the night before Thanksgiving, the wife gets into my e-mail and sees an e-mail between me and Tammi and flips out giving me the boot again. I wasn't seeing or talkng to her, just e-mailed...and Tammi had just come back from Niagara Falls with her new boyfriend...we weren't going to see each other like that anymore. But the wife doesn't care about that. So the next night I go to a Jam night at a bar with my friend who is an awesome guitarist, and I'm singin there that night. I walk into the bar section to get a beer and lo and behold there is Tammi and her boyfriend sitting at the bar. I can't even look it hurts so much. Tammi comes out to the band area and asks if I'm okay and says she is sorry because she didn't know I would be there and she knows it hurts me. I tell her don't worry about it, and pretty much try to get her to go back into the bar cuz I don't wanna cause problems for her and her boyfriend. Any way she came out and talked to me again and he got pissed and broke up with her there on the spot. She was thrilled LOL. We got back together that night. We have been back together now for a while...and I wish I had never left. I am so happy know I don't know how I did it (leaving). I am so much happier, and life is great right now. I know it will bother me a little bit when I have to sign the papers...but i know where I belong now...and It's right where I am. Anyway that's why I haven't been on lately lol.