My best girlfriends and I have always stood by the saying "bro's before ho's", and it has lasted the test of time....through Primary School, and High School til now. But there is now a gentleman on the scene, with whom a couple have fallen for....now when we all go out theres a little competition and jealousy there.....

We dont want to stop going out together but its driving a little wedge between my friends....one of them has tried to hold her feelings for the sake of my other friend, but it didnt work....

Is there anyway to work this so we can all still go out together without my friends killing each other?????????????????

Rayne

Is the guy interested in either of the girls?

Well, given as she's posted the story, I'll answer Heather's question. From what she's told me, the guy seems pretty interested in Rayne, but not as much so with her friend. The friend has had a major crush on the guy for a long time though.

Given that, I've personally advised Rayne to stick by her stated philosophy here. Boyfriends come & go, but a lifelong friend is a VERY rare thing indeed and not worth throwing away over a guy, ANY guy... I've personally seen & heard of stories where the closest of friends become bitter enemies over this exact thing.

Back me up here people... Rayne's a good friend of mine & I don't want to see her go thru the hurt this will likely cause:(

Gotta agree with Shadowhawk here. B/f $ g/f will come and go. Hell, for some husbands & wives come and go. TRUE friends are very far and few in-between and are worth keeping.

i'm gonna say i agree too

i have been through it and i look back and say to myself "ugh that guy is incredibly disgusting looking and he smelled bad, he had no manners. what made me like him?" all the while i'm still not talking to my friend that i fought with b/c of him and it makes me sad and miss her terribly. there is no going back once it happens so its better that you don't get yourself caught in that.

until the friend gets over him, which she should when she realizes its never gonna happen, he should be off limits

hope that made sense

With my friends and I it has mostly been that way. That doesn't mean that we don't compete when there is a woman around, hell it is the Alpha male thing to do!

BUT, it does mean in the end we totally realize who matters...

Ryane- in your case shouldn't it be hos before bros :P

I agree with the fellas on this. My friends and I always had this, and I usually only had one or two close chums at a time in my life. If this is a great friend and you have been chums for a long time, why risk it for some fella who may just be trying to score? Not saying he is, but is your friend worth it?

Sex is fun and all that, but it isn't worth losing a best friend over.

Listen to the Mom!! :D

*sigh* . . . dissention among the conservatives . . . sorry guys.

That bro's before ho's stuff is fine in high school and all, but, uh, it sucks ass as an adult. I had some great guy friends . . . close . . . heck, been shot and stabbed with, but they faded and blew with the breeze as we got 27-30.

I'm going to tell you this as the truth . . . find a partner and build a life with them. Find one that is your friend AND your lover, and never choose another over them. You can build a life around love, but you really can't around friendship . . . not a lifelong supporting kind, anyway.

If you're older, go after love. Friends will get flakey eventually. They all seem to.

Originally posted by D Durden
*sigh* . . . dissention among the conservatives . . . sorry guys.

That bro's before ho's stuff is fine in high school and all, but, uh, it sucks ass as an adult. I had some great guy friends . . . close . . . heck, been shot and stabbed with, but they faded and blew with the breeze as we got 27-30.

I'm going to tell you this as the truth . . . find a partner and build a life with them. Find one that is your friend AND your lover, and never choose another over them. You can build a life around love, but you really can't around friendship . . . not a lifelong supporting kind, anyway.

If you're older, go after love. Friends will get flakey eventually. They all seem to.

Dave Dave..Missing the whole point here.. We are not talking about once you have developed a relationship we are talking about young girls here having crushes, wanting to date a guy not marry him.

I havent been there, so I cant say, so far I have not had to deal with this situations.

Friends are flaky..Hell Marriages can be just as flaky as friends.

This would be a flaw of girls that many seem to overlook: the competition. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and relationships only last so long anyhow.

For some reason, girls search for a perfect man, and idealize him. Now your group of friends are sure this is the jackpot, and fight over it.

How many guys do you ignore, or not give a chance? Too busy searching for perfection, instead of some fun.

I definitely wouldn't want you to lose a life-long friend over this but...

If your friend is not going to pursue this guy, and you like him, then I think it's selfish of your friend to prevent you from going after him. This whole, "If I can't have him, nobody can have him" mentality isn't fair to the rest of the world. Besides that, if she really prevents you from exploring your romantic options with this guy, I think that has the potential of driving a wedge between the two of you as well because you'll start resenting her.

I don't think you should ever date your friend's major ex-boyfried or girlfriend, and you should never move in on her current man. But if she has no intention of pursuing this guy, I think that makes him fair play.

By the way, instead of saying "hos before bros", my friends say "chicks before d*cks".

Originally posted by Allegra
By the way, instead of saying "hos before bros", my friends say "chicks before d*cks".

Hehehehe . . . I'm all for that . . . you ladies start without me . . . . I've got to make myself a drink first . . . and get that camera ready . . .

:D:D:D

Originally posted by D Durden


Hehehehe . . . I'm all for that . . . you ladies start without me . . . . I've got to make myself a drink first . . . and get that camera ready . . .

:D:D:D

LOL! I can't believe that we've never thought about it in that context. But hey, enough of those drinks that youre talking about and I guess anything's possible! ;)

Originally posted by D Durden
Hehehehe . . . I'm all for that . . . you ladies start without me . . . . I've got to make myself a drink first . . . and get that camera ready . . .

:D:D:D
Ahh, Dave's good ol' rapist wit.

Originally posted by slayr420

Ahh, Dave's good ol' rapist wit.

Hey!!! I resemble that remark.

Remember Slayr, you can't rape the willing :D:D:D!

And, the only difference between sex and rape is salesmanship.