Do relationship generally work given "One more try"? I dont want stats or anything like that, but in your experiences.....is it worth the pain and suffering to go another round to "see if it works"?

Rayne

HELL NO


but if both parties are up for it, and want it to work out, it may take more effort, but it can work..

you just have to find the reason you broke up, fix it, and make sure it won't happen again..

It depends on how you define 'generally work.' Do ya mean the long run? Hell MOST relationships don't work in the long run. But can a lot of relationships work for a nice period if given one more try? I think a good share of them can...

But don't expect it to last...

Second chance..well everyone deserves one..After that..Forget it..

'Fool me once, shame on you, Fool me twice shame on me..'

I believe it depends on the situation of the initial "break up" (or whatever). I mean, even with everything I went threw with my ex-wife.....I probably would have still tried to work it out if she had not gotten involved with someone else before the divorce was final..... After I learned that....I really just want her out of my life completely and it would truly take an act of God for me to ever walk down that road again....

Round 4, baby, and still throwing punches. =)

with me i say a guy gets two chances..the first time until whoever breaks ups with the other first. i say there is a chance to get back together because it could have been a mistake or a needed break whatever the circumstances but if i break up with that same person for the second time there is something wrong with the relationship that is not gonna change over night so there is no reason to waste each others time getting back together, breaking up, getting back together, breaking up until you are both exhausted.

How bad was the breakup? That's the big question.

See, some people "break up" because Jim was working on his car and forgot to call little Susie at 10:00 like he said. Other people break up because Jim came over instead of calling and caught little Susie in bed with Jim's brother. Both are water under the bridge, but one of them has significantly more flow . . . you know? :D

I don't think a second try is EVER as good as the first. All that scar tissue DOES get in the way, and, regardless of what you WANT to believe, you'll be looking for the other one to screw up a LOT harder . . . and you'll be less willing to accept alternatives if you perceive they do.

You have to ask yourself "how bad was the breakup" . . . then make a good decision. Yeah . . . it's just THAT simple! LOL!

I personally wouldn't waste the time, effort, and eventually pain of a "one more try" relationship.

My only "one last try" was bad...I'm not sure that's it's a good idea unless both people are really into it. If one person is even a little unsure about the whole thing it has the potential to blow up in your face. Then it's worse than it was before.

I'd have to generally agree with most of the advice that's been given so far... Often they don't work, but if you can get to the core issues of what caused the initial near break-up, fix those at least o a certain extent, and then be REALLY committed about making it work, then there's a VERY good chance it can work.

So, the only real question to ask (I guess), is how committed are both parties to making it work?

Do you think a relationship should be based on "another try"? If you two are not compatable, it shows itself, and time will not improve it, just show it more clearly.