my best friend is madly in love with this girl he has been chasing for months.. anyways, she is still in love with her ex that treated her very bad.. my friend is still hoping one day that she will leave him for good and go with him.. he doesn't know that she is still seeing him.. anyways.. I found out threw kaley about this.. b/c the girl and kaley are friends..

so my question is.. should I tell him.. b/c he goes around all happy b/c he thinks he is getting closer to her liking him.. I just don't want for him to get hurt..

and I swear.. this is my friend.. it's not me..

I dont think it will hurt to mention to the friend that she is still seeing her ex.. I mean what harm is that. Your friend needs to know if she is not available so he does not pursue a lost cause so to speak.

I dont know all the details though, your friend may not care and stick around anyways.

crap.. I just realized.. I can't spell..

anyways, yeah I am going to talk to him a bit tuesday.. b/c I would want someone to tell me.. and I think he needs to know the truth..

Yea...I would want someone to tell me....hell, it will sting a bit....but not as bad as if he gets his hopes all up and then it blows up in his face....

Oh, this is simple. Tell your friend to beat the crap out of the girl, tell her what kind of idiot she is, and then walk off. Be sure he goes home, though, 'cause she's going to call him for a date. :D :D :D

Dude, your friend is "in love" with a girl who likes to be dumped on. His problem ISN'T that she still seeing the loser. His problem is that she still even WANTS to keep seeing the loser.

File her name under "R" for RAZY, and target a new chick. It's simply not worth it.

Heh...

If someone would have told me when I was in situations like this it would have saved me from false hopes...

Dude, no question. Gotta tell him. Its the right thing to do.

Durden is right. Your friend is a nice guy, and has no chance with her. Either he changes, or he just waits around for her for the next year.

change or wait? is that how we are suppose to get a girl?

the trick that I have found but far from mastered is to make them want you.. play hard to get kinda.. but still be obtainable if they work hard enough.. a girl thinks if she works hard enough for you, your obviously worth it

Originally posted by Wedge4876
change or wait? is that how we are suppose to get a girl?


You can wait around, I'll be out hunting. Oh, and as far as "change" goes, don't bother. As soon as you "become" someone else, they'll bitch about "I just don't know you, anymore . . . " Listen, find some nice 27+ year old woman who KNOWS what's up and be happy the rest of your life.

the trick that I have found but far from mastered is to make them want you.. play hard to get kinda.. but still be obtainable if they work hard enough.. a girl thinks if she works hard enough for you, your obviously worth it

My God . . . you HAVE been listening. My "trick" to getting girls was to be me . . . all the time . . . basically no surprises. I don't have any hidden baggage, I don't have a terrible childhood, and I don't have anything that weirds me out. I AM the Mustang II of men . . . basically, here's EVERYTHING you need to know right in front of you. Now, get in, and let's go. There will be NO surprises . . . hehehehe . . . well, except for THAT!

*sigh* But, since you're dealing with younger girls, yeah, you have to "play". And that really sucks, too, because it makes NO SENSE AT ALL to me to base choosing a life partner around game-like perception and maneuvers.

Then again, I guess that's why the divorce rate is 60+ percent, you know?

the problem is everytime i meet a girl that is in her mid 20s she is already taken.. there has to be a few good ones left.. I guess they are looking for the good, down to earth guy.. and if I am not him.. they are off to someone else..

it's kinda fun playing games with younger girls, I usually end up winning in the end.. and if not, big deal, it's just a game..

Originally posted by D Durden
I AM the Mustang II of men . . . basically, here's EVERYTHING you need to know right in front of you. Now, get in, and let's go. There will be NO surprises . . . hehehehe . . . well, except for THAT!

Ah yes, good point. Show confidence. :)

Originally posted by Wedge4876
the problem is everytime i meet a girl that is in her mid 20s she is already taken.. there has to be a few good ones left.. I guess they are looking for the good, down to earth guy.. and if I am not him.. they are off to someone else..

That's because some poor schlup like me who's been screwed with no reach-around has bagged them off to our cave. If you come across $1000 sitting on the ground and a good woman 20 feet away, pick up the good woman first. You can always print more money.

it's kinda fun playing games with younger girls, I usually end up winning in the end.. and if not, big deal, it's just a game..

Define "win", please? And, if you "win" every time, what are you bitching about? At your age, bagging the majority of the young girls you "play" should be enough to occupy your time . . .

if I wasn't too shy to meet them than yeah.. it would occupy my time :D

well an update on the situation.. I told my friend last night.. and he had no clue about it.. he isn't going to go jumping in her face about it, he said he was going to lay low to see if she ever comes out to tell him.. but he said he will back off to see what she does.. the two girls are getting together to talk somemore, and her friend tells me everything, so we will see..

and I told him about beating the shiznet out of her, go home and wait for her to call her for a date.. he laughed..

the good thing about it is, it opened doors between me and him, to be honest and talk things out, we use to get on each others nerves, but now we realize we are on the same team, we just have to win.. :)

Originally posted by Wedge4876
he said he was going to lay low to see if she ever comes out to tell him.. but he said he will back off to see what she does..

yep, waiting around. imo, a waste of time. Try for it, if it doesnt work, move on.

Originally posted by Wedge4876
my best friend is madly in love with this girl he has been chasing for months.. anyways, she is still in love with her ex that treated her very bad.. my friend is still hoping one day that she will leave him for good and go with him.. he doesn't know that she is still seeing him.. anyways.. I found out threw kaley about this.. b/c the girl and kaley are friends..

so my question is.. should I tell him.. b/c he goes around all happy b/c he thinks he is getting closer to her liking him.. I just don't want for him to get hurt..

and I swear.. this is my friend.. it's not me..
If you are any kind of friend you would tell him.

Originally posted by Criminal

If you are any kind of friend you would tell him.

your right.. I did tell him.. I guess he went threw the shock of not having her around this weekend.. and he was very depressed, which I have never seen him do before.. so anyways, I tried to be there for him.. but I think he understands that he isn't the only one that has been threw this, and it's something that deep down he can't help