ok i think i'm in love with this girl , she not the most pretty in the world but yeah she is ok looking (aiming low, good start), she's funny, she's cool and we're friends (problem )

now i just can't stop thinking about her and having these feelings for her

now my problem is, do i confess my feelings to her but if she rejects wreck the friendship fully or just keep quiet about it and not the risk the friendship which is also important to me

also she seems to be very popular and if i did take the risk and it was rejected, it could spread around which would be embarrassing to me

any advice?

If the friendship is ruined because you expressed your feelings to her, then tis' not a friendship worth having.
If she spreads it around, and belittles you, then tis' not a friendship worth having.

I suppose you could always plead the drunk defense... get yourself nice and buzzed, tell her your feelings... and if things go sour, just play it off that you were drunk and didn't know what you were talking about, and confused feelings of love, with those of a true friendship.

Take it from there, she may not say anything right on spot and may wait til the next day once you are of a sober state... if she brings the subject back up then she probably has at least some interest, if she never brings it back up... chances are you should leave it be.

-Æ (Kick back, Relax, show confidence, and always have an escape route)

I agree with the kitty on this one.

Live your life, don't be afraid to take a chance;) I believe if we keep saying "what if" all the time, we might just miss out on some really nice experiences.

Good luck!:)

Im just here to point and laugh....


Nah, actually I too, agree with Aesir.....manys a thing can be repaired by simply using the "I was drunk" line. I know its served me well ;)

good advice

thanks all

i was thinking along the lines of maybe the alcoholc reason would form an excuse if i get rejected

so there i went out last night and i was all ready to ask her out and what happens? she isn't out

really the lord is out to screw me

If I was her, and I stumbled across this board and saw that you insulted me and wanted me in the same thread I'd be pissed. How can you insult her and want her?

the not the most pretty girl comment your referring to?

yet again she wasn't out when i was out

Originally posted by IFF
ok i think i'm in love with this girl , she not the most pretty in the world but yeah she is ok looking (aiming low, good start), she's funny, she's cool and we're friends (problem )

now i just can't stop thinking about her and having these feelings for her

now my problem is, do i confess my feelings to her but if she rejects wreck the friendship fully or just keep quiet about it and not the risk the friendship which is also important to me

also she seems to be very popular and if i did take the risk and it was rejected, it could spread around which would be embarrassing to me

any advice?
Criminal's advice:

Tell her what you really think. If she is a true friend than she would not embarass you no matter how she feels about the matter.

That was good advice Aesir.

Originally posted by Lateralis
If I was her, and I stumbled across this board and saw that you insulted me and wanted me in the same thread I'd be pissed. How can you insult her and want her?
IFF, You dont suppose she reads this?

yeah i work on the theory that she doesn't know discussanything.com exists

thanks criminal for the advice

There's also more than one Irishman with love problems ;)

Anyway, if you need alcohol to tell her how you feel now...will you need alcohol to tell her how you feel later? Too many relationships I've seen rely on booze; ****, I have a friend who only liked his ex (before they brokew up) when he was drunk/high. Sober, he called her a skanky bitch, drunk he loved her...

Originally posted by JoeyNormal
There's also more than one Irishman with love problems ;)


if she did stumple accrosee here and looked through all the topic1s title , i think she would have a fair idea that it was me (iff aims high: dundalk it here i come) but then again i doubt she actually would stumple across here.

anyway she was deffinately going out lasst night, i know this, what happens, none of the people in my grou[p of friends are going to out. this is pissing me off. of the other group i sometimes ahng out with,they were going to a place in drogheda i think so that's useless
oi think faith is against me here :D

maybe next saturday if i'm going out then and if i have money. i deffoinately won't be going out in the town i live next friday as me and 2 friends are going to this club thingy in dublin which polays good music ironically enough

now when i reconsider it, she could see me on here when i'm on the computers in the library at college and decide to check it out, hopefully not.

anyway i think i'm going top have to make the move fast or else i think it';d be too late as someone will get there before me

i hate this, if i ever fancy anyone i will keep on delaying the move, until it's actually is too late, hopefgully not this time

i've personally never seen her with a boyfriend yet ,,,,,

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