i can't believe I'm purposely disposing of my support system when i need it the most... seriously...
they may not offer what i need in terms of friends, but the thought of not even having them... then what do i have? i think that makes me the girl with no friends.... okay-- yeah, i have lots of people from high school and camp across the globe, different states... different lives.. most of them i never see...yeah, so helpful... and in the valley... no one... except 20 something people who think i belong in their group and another 50 people who are alaso friends with them who i saw every so often...
problem.. i dont belong in their group...THis bites.

Im planning on having coffee with one of those friends on monday-- and somehow i need to bring this up.. well actually all that i need to tell her is that i plan to never leave my house and say im going somewhere else when i'm going to church or bible study ever again... which means i cant go to either at least till i dont live with the 'rents... i dont know if that will mean i wont see these people at all... maybe i'll hang out with them sometime still.. but .. i dont know....

UGH UGH UGH

I remember you posting some about this problem elsewhere in your journal a while back...

Tough spot, as I know what it's like to be without friends. Your only two real options though are to try and find a way to fit into each other's worlds or to move on & build a new one for yourself.

Loss sucks, but sometimes it's needed to make way for bigger & better things. Trick is to be able to figure out when that's the case & when you're just giving up w/o trying. Only you can answer that one.

Either way, I know you've got LOTS of friends here at DA who can help keep you from getting too bored & lonely.:) Hang in there, it'll all work out one way or another.

Originally posted by Prometheus
I remember you posting some about this problem elsewhere in your journal a while back...

Tough spot, as I know what it's like to be without friends. Your only two real options though are to try and find a way to fit into each other's worlds or to move on & build a new one for yourself.

Loss sucks, but sometimes it's needed to make way for bigger & better things. Trick is to be able to figure out when that's the case & when you're just giving up w/o trying. Only you can answer that one.

Either way, I know you've got LOTS of friends here at DA who can help keep you from getting too bored & lonely.:) Hang in there, it'll all work out one way or another.

well i tried really really hard to fit into their world...and.. i guess i could...but i wouldn't be being true to myself...and that really doesnt work for me. Me, the girl who people always comment on for being "real"...whatever that means...but i know a lot of fake people, and i have never been one... except for maybe a few time this past year... that is, involving the friends in question here.

i dunno... i mean, i guess i know what i have to do... but i guess when i have that conversation, or sometime after that, i'll be able to see if i'm gonna continue any kind of friendship with these people... tho i think it will be uncomfortable once they know how i feel...

SHeesh-- i just turned 20.. I should be worried about boyfriends and...split ends or something....(not that I'm not worried about those things...one of those in particular... and heres a hint.. it's not split ends...but that is another post entirely)

and i should really start going to sleep before 2 am...especially on days i have to wake up at 7:30....

ok..time for bed--
Thanks for the support and for reading about my drama :cool:

Don't feel bad about not being willing to compromise who and what you're about. I've got alot of respect for people who'll stay true that way instead of becoming fake or even a weasel.

Since like also attracts like when you're dealing with people, you may find that you do end up with a few less friends than other people. The good part is though, you'll be able to count on them to watch your back no matter what.:)

Sounds to me from your last post that you've tried to get along with them as much as you could. Your plan for trying to resolve things is reasonable too. If your friends are mature, they'll listen to you & try to work things out. If not, then you know you were right in feeling it's time to move on. Things like that stink, but they do happen.

Seems to me from your posts here that you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders. You're taking a balanced approach in trying to resolve things without compromising your principles. You didn't 'sell out' or just burn bridges when you saw something you didn't like. Keep your chin up & trust your instincts. They obviously serve you well.:) ;)