Every realationship I've been in every relationship my friends have been in have ended badly. It that no matter what I do, something goes wrong. Like most recently I was in a relationship for about a month, when during an IM conversation in which we were discusing our differances, that she was really shelter and I was well not, she got really angree with me and hasn't talked to me since, and this was like three weeks ago. No matter what I do to make things work either I pick the wrong girl or get my hear broken by the "right" one.

Realationships suck.

Yeah, relationships do suck. I recently had my heart broken by the "right" one. People will always give you that line, "if he was the right one you would be together" blah blah. There's no getting over the one you believe to be right. Unfortunetly there's nothing you can do to make them come back. I'm definately giving up on relationships for a long while.

Please don't take this to be condescending, but relationships when you're 17 years old are VERY different then the ones when you're even 20, let alone mid twenties (I imagine they'll continue to change but don't know from experience). There will always be relationship problems at any age, but to expect to have a perfect relationship while you're a teenager is pretty much wishful thinking.

that being said, relationships can certainly suck.

Well, IGO beat me to that one. When you are you're age, you're not supposed to have the perfect relationship. If you did, when you get to be an old fart, you can't be condescending to the ypung whipper snappers asking the same question you are. Actually, you need to experience the crap that "love" throws at you to decide what you really want later and to make you appreciate the 'Right" one when it does come along. Sorry.

Yeah, THEY SUCK!

I think most relationships during the teenage years are pretty much doomed just because of all the crap people go through during this timem in their life. It's very hard to have a relationship that lasts through highschool, college, and on into adulthood. I'm in one right now and very happy, so while I want it to last forever, I know the odds are not in that favor.

I have found that it's not so much the relationship that sucks, it's the ways in which our partners choose to end the relationships that sucks "big giant monkey balls" to use our phrase.

But you know my history, every time I say "f*** it, I'm going voluntarily celibate!" something (once literally) falls in my lap to screw that up. And think about this (I know I told you this over the Summer, but it's more for everybody else), when a person breaks up with their partner, what is the first thing they usually do? Go out and try to find a new partner.

So in closing to this much-confuzing post, which sucks more? The relationship, the end of it, or the singleness that comes afterwards? Pick the least of the evils and treat it like the plague.

--The Wise and All-Knowing Super Zach

Originally posted by CharPots
I think most relationships during the teenage years are pretty much doomed just because of all the crap people go through during this timem in their life. It's very hard to have a relationship that lasts through highschool, college, and on into adulthood. I'm in one right now and very happy, so while I want it to last forever, I know the odds are not in that favor.

I agree that is is way hard to be learning about another person while at the same time trying to learn about yourself. It gets a little easier as you get older, but then you have other things to contend with. (i met my boyfriend senior year in highschool, (4 1/2 years ago)and have been together all through college, but while we grew up lots on our own, and together, i find now that there is a part of me that wonders what it's like to do more growing up all on my own...)

Anyways, in highschool you have school giving you sh!t, and parents and siblings giving you sh!t, and even friends can be just ARRG, throwing a girl in, and expecting it to be more perfect than everything else in a teenage life, is just a lil too much. ;)

I am not real sure what the answer to this would be but I am sure it is all based on someone's past relationships. I know I would probably say yes mainly because after almost 25 years of marriage, my parents divorced. It's hard for me to think in a positive light about giving my heart to someone after that happening.

You know, its not like I didn't know that the chances of these relationships lasting were almost non existant, but its the way that they ended that piss me off. I know that I'm probubly know going to find "the one" when I'm 17, but its like, I really start to dig a girl, then something happens. Although I should modify my relationships suck statement, becuase anybody whos come to me after they're hard times has probubly herd this little bit of wisdom: Relationships sucks, but being single swallows.

Can I get a "Hell yeah!" ?

HELL YEAH!

Being single swallows, regurgitates, and swallows again!
To quote John Mayer, "I'm tired of being alone."

that kid went to my highschool, my brother says that our headmaster wouldnt let him run through the halls of the school for his music video.

(i think they say he's a grade ahead of me or something.)

Originally posted by turtle_o
that kid went to my highschool, my brother says that our headmaster wouldnt let him run through the halls of the school for his music video.

(i think they say he's a grade ahead of me or something.)

interesting randum fact...question, who's piercing is your avatar?

are relationships doomed to fail? yes, if you let them.

Originally posted by Miss Misery
are relationships doomed to fail? yes, if you let them.

That answers the question not at all. Its a relevent peice of wisdom and one I know all too well, but it doesn't answer the question.

i dont think relationships are doomed to fail. there are relationships out there that last forever, at least until death. so many tend to fail though because of life. things change, people change, relationships change and they often end. but not always.

What ever you say...... Eventhough I kinda agree with what you say, i'm not gonna 'splain why, cause i know you don't like reading long paragraphs...........

*Two wrongs don't make a right, but three rights make a left*
~Cat

Au contraire. I would quite enjoy reading a long post--if it was engaging enough, that is.

So by all means, post the long version.