Dating Etiquette Question

[Monster]

My friend is the manager of a restaurant, and informed me that I could visit when she's working and get a free meal.

Assuming it is a given that this is not going to be a first date, but rather a second or beyond, would you consider it poor form to take a date to a restaurant where you could get free/discounted service?

[Freedom&Liberty]

I'd do it.

[Baboon]

I've done it...my friend was a waiter though, not the owner/manager. And he offered. My date thought it was cool that I "knew someone." LOL

God, that chick was hot...hottest girl I've ever dated and way too attractive to be dating the likes of me. She relocated to Atlanta, thus ended the brief relationship.

[Sparkly Mary]

First I'd confirm with your friend that the offer is good for a companion as well.

I wouldn't have an issue with it, as a female, if it were a second or subsequent date. I'm all about discounts!

[Notalibtard]

If shes hot go ahead. If shes not take the meal and run.

[Lulu]

Hi, buzz kill here. I'd think it was cheap. I don't think you need to spend a ton of money on dates, but a freebie, no I wouldn't like that at all. I once had a guy take me to a Stars game where we were in the nose bleed section, only to find out he'd gotten the tickets comped from someone he knew. I wasn't impressed. Use the freebie meals when you aren't on a date. Keep in mind, I'm a little high maintenance but really most women are. ;)

[Baboon]

Hi, buzz kill here. I'd think it was cheap. I don't think you need to spend a ton of money on dates, but a freebie, no I wouldn't like that at all. I once had a guy take me to a Stars game where we were in the nose bleed section, only to find out he'd gotten the tickets comped from someone he knew. I wasn't impressed. Use the freebie meals when you aren't on a date. Keep in mind, I'm a little high maintenance but really most women are. ;)

Gold digger.

:D

[Lulu]

Gold digger.

:D
Oh I make my own money and don't expect to be taken care of... I just think courtship is important if you are really interested in someone. If you've been dating a while, a freebie meal is ok but not in the initial stages of dating. Just keeping it real.:p

[colonel]

First I'd confirm with your friend that the offer is good for a companion as well.



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Hi, buzz kill here. I'd think it was cheap. I don't think you need to spend a ton of money on dates, but a freebie, no I wouldn't like that at all. I once had a guy take me to a Stars game where we were in the nose bleed section, only to find out he'd gotten the tickets comped from someone he knew. I wasn't impressed. Use the freebie meals when you aren't on a date. Keep in mind, I'm a little high maintenance but really most women are. ;)

Also good solid advice.

[Baboon]

Oh I make my own money and don't expect to be taken care of... I just think courtship is important if you are really interested in someone. If you've been dating a while, a freebie meal is ok but not in the initial stages of dating. Just keeping it real.:p

In defense of the freebie in my particular case, I was 21 and she was 20. My waiter friend was happy to serve her drinks, which may help explain why she didn't mind the freebie. :D

[jwreck]

If her opinion of you is turned by how much money you spend she's not worth your time anyway.

[Monster]

Good point.

[optimus]

If her opinion of you is turned by how much money you spend she's not worth your time anyway.

Yes. Exactly. Although, you and I both know how the real world works.

[86Dùde]

I see, so she should just put out cheap? God I fucking hate men like you. You're a dime a dozen because you see women as cattle. Then again a lot of bitches see men as an easy way to make bank and do nothing except spread their legs.

[optimus]

I see, so she should just put out cheap? God I fucking hate men like you. You're a dime a dozen because you see women as cattle. Then again a lot of bitches see men as an easy way to make bank and do nothing except spread their legs.

Who is this post directed towards, me? If so, one - you're an idiot. Two - I'm saying me and jwreck know how the real world works BECAUSE women do generally go "where the money is." To deny that is to live in a world of delusion.

How you can twist and distort other people's words like that is beyond me. You better stop assuming things about people, because you're constantly wrong when you do it. Stop it and start THINKING before you write and go on your usual tirades.

[86Dùde]

I'm not disputing that many women are sluts who would do anything for free ride with some kind of sugar daddy but then again I don't live in an urban cesspool like you do so I'm a bit unfamiliar with that level of human depravity.

[Notalibtard]

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Who is this post directed towards, me? If so, one - you're an idiot. Two - I'm saying me and jwreck know how the real world works BECAUSE women do generally go "where the money is." To deny that is to live in a world of delusion.

How you can twist and distort other people's words like that is beyond me. You better stop assuming things about people, because you're constantly wrong when you do it. Stop it and start THINKING before you write and go on your usual tirades.

[Dreamy]

Not mentioning any names but I suspect some of the single dudes here should drop to their knees and be thankful for any chance they have at a date with a real woman. Don't screw it up. I'm with Lulu. Save your freebie happy meals for non dates.

[queenlillian1962]

i'm also with Lulu it may seem cheap to your date. If the two of you had been dating for a while then that would be different but not in the initial stages of getting to know each other. I aslo agree you should check with you friend to make sure the offer still stands,it will save embarassment.

[queenlillian1962]

If her opinion of you is turned by how much money you spend she's not worth your time anyway.

Woman tend to look at things differently from men. We look at the big picture from the begining. Are you husband/mate material. In a mate we want to know that a man has finished growing up and has his act together. We don't want bro before ho's,party all night,frat boys to settle down with. We want a man who can take care of our potential family on his own in a pinch. You guys tend to look at the short term of when will I get layed. If your failing to provide for an early date no matter how silly it sounds, it may send up a red flag with your date that either you are too cheap and don't think enough of her or that you can't pay the bill.

[Baboon]

Sometimes I wonder what dating life would be like if I were suddenly single again. That's my random thought for the day.

[Dreamy]

Woman tend to look at things differently from men. We look at the big picture from the begining. Are you husband/mate material. In a mate we want to know that a man has finished growing up and has his act together. We don't want bro before ho's,party all night,frat boys to settle down with. We want a man who can take care of our potential family on his own in a pinch. You guys tend to look at the short term of when will I get layed. If your failing to provide for an early date no matter how silly it sounds, it may send up a red flag with your date that either you are too cheap and don't think enough of her or that you can't pay the bill.

I wanted to add that some of us have always made our own money and never needed a man to get a meal. Geeesh really guys. Do you all think women are that hard up or is your experience with women that narrow? Back away from the ditz and bimbo pools and you might actually find a good looking woman with brains and money of her own.

To those of you dating in California then all I can say is move. :p

[Dreamy]

Sometimes I wonder what dating life would be like if I were suddenly single again. That's my random thought for the day.

The women would be older? Divorced and bitter? Baggage,emotional and otherwise? The few never marrieds I know are pretty cool and happy but very set in their ways.

[Sparkly Mary]

As someone who will be dating sometime in the hopefully not-too-far future, I am perfectly capable and willing to pick up my share of a meal. The gesture of the man paying is nice, but not required.

[jwreck]

Women are so funny. LOL

[Sparkly Mary]

Women are so funny. LOL

So are you men...

[Notalibtard]

So are you men...
Hi Mary, not on so much anymore. Why? and where the hell is Shand?

[Sparkly Mary]

Hi Mary, not on so much anymore. Why? and where the hell is Shand?

Because divorce sucks, and it's stressing me the hell out. I come here for a break and see behavior that I see from my 6 and 3-year old kids, only I expect it from them.

I've got a man who thinks he can bully/sweetly blackmail me into not pursuing child support so he won't try to evict us from our own home. There's a hearing on that very issue next week.

After 3 months and numerous excuses that have run out, he's finally starting to see our kids, but not for nearly the full time allotted, and of course he hasn't paid a dime towards their support these last almost 3 months, but I'm the bad person because I need and expect some financial help out of him. There's a hearing on this next week as well.

Oh, and he wants me to drop the criminal charges from when he assaulted my 16-year old daughter, which is what started all of this.

So do I have the desire to put up with the childish BS that goes on here? Not so much right now.

[Baboon]

Women are so funny. LOL

But they are fun to hump.

[queenlillian1962]

But they are fun to hump.

Men are too, that's why I keep one in the bed room. 100% man, except no subsitutes:nice:

[Notalibtard]

Because divorce sucks, and it's stressing me the hell out. I come here for a break and see behavior that I see from my 6 and 3-year old kids, only I expect it from them.

I've got a man who thinks he can bully/sweetly blackmail me into not pursuing child support so he won't try to evict us from our own home. There's a hearing on that very issue next week.

After 3 months and numerous excuses that have run out, he's finally starting to see our kids, but not for nearly the full time allotted, and of course he hasn't paid a dime towards their support these last almost 3 months, but I'm the bad person because I need and expect some financial help out of him. There's a hearing on this next week as well.

Oh, and he wants me to drop the criminal charges from when he assaulted my 16-year old daughter, which is what started all of this.

So do I have the desire to put up with the childish BS that goes on here? Not so much right now.
Sorry to about your troubles. Good luck with your hearing.

[92Notch]

My friend is the manager of a restaurant, and informed me that I could visit when she's working and get a free meal.

Assuming it is a given that this is not going to be a first date, but rather a second or beyond, would you consider it poor form to take a date to a restaurant where you could get free/discounted service?

I'd do it. if your "friend" that works there is a hottie, you may want to limit contact while the other chick is there .... no titty slapping the "friend" in front of the date .... just IMO.