Yikes is right... Well i seem to be having this problem, i could say its with my Bf but that would be wrong is with myself, no matter what i always feel like he is going to break up with me! Its awful. if he is not telling me he wont or if he is not with me im always completely sick over it. I dont know why i am this way and i really hate it. I can actualy sit there and tell myself to stop it nothing is the matter he really cares about u but then nope the feeling comes flying back, and i just end up calling him and asking him if everything is alright. I kinda feel these days like its driving him away from me. I know i shouldnt worry about it, if he wants to brake up with me there is nothing i can do about it right right?? WRONG! cuz i just wont let it be like that. He wont even answer my calls sometimes cuz he knows what im calling for, is it not stupid of me i know it is i just cant help it. He is so good to me, and treats me like Gold its like i cant understand why he is with me and i think thats why im always freaking out over it! I wish there was a way for me to just not be able to talk to him and not worry all the time... I just cant seem to find a way for it to be like that. i thought i was doing better for a while i let my gard down and then something happened between us nothing big or anything just somethign that gave me a lil scare and now im back to being completely crazy over it... I really really like him, and i wanna be with him but i just cant shake the feeling that he doesnt wanna be with me even when he is constantly telling me he does and constanly showing me he does... WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG ME WITH?????????????? GOD SOMEONE HELP ME! i think im crazy!

INSECURITY!!

Honestly, as hard as it is, you have to let nature take its course. I know its hard not to worry about someone leaving you when you care about them so much. Your worrying or constantly nagging him is not going to keep him, no matter how much you do it.

So cliche' I know..but " What's meant to be, Will be "

Trust me I really know what you are going through. I am going through something myself right now. I worry about it, knowing their is nothing I can do about it. I have 2 choices though: I can dwell on something, make myself sick over it, or I can go on with my life, take things one at a time, and just deal. You know what either way, Outcome remains the same. I can make it hard on myself, or a lil easier.

Things will be ok, enjoy the relationship. Don't drive him away, its hard for ppl to deal with significant others that are insecure.

you're insecure with yourself. if you continue down this path, YOU will wind up breaking up with HIM because you're scared he'll do it to you first.
so start dealing with your insecurities, then you can enjoy your relationship.

Are you doing anything that would make you break up with him if he were doing it? If you can honestly answer no, then don't worry about it, and get some good friends (NOT your boyfriend) to talk to in person about what you're going through. If you are... well, you've got bigger problems than I can give advice for.

Well no im not doing anything to him, that if he was doing it to me i would break up with him over.. Its just that i kept checking to see if soemthing is the matter, and if he isnt Being incredibale Happy i think something is wrong with him and when he wont tell me what then my mind gets thinking and i start worrying ... I know its cuz im insecure but i just cant help it something i can let it go other times i just have to be convinced he really likes me.....AHHH IT SUCKS TO BE ME!

Originally posted by roxy_princess
, that if he was doing it to me i would break up with him over..

Could you? Sounds like you are really attached. You need to have other things going on in your life. Perhaps you have too much idle time on your hands? It would help to talk about this with friends, get some reassurance from them, rather then him every 5 seconds.

How long have you been together?

Do you know him well enough to distinguish when something is wrong? Your probably are driving him rapid with all your questioning, making him nervous.

Just calm down, try to stay focused on the good points.

We have not been together all that long, and i am attatched not as attached as im making myself out to be by worrying like this but i have been like this since the first day we got together. My friends do tell me to stop worrying that if he does its ok they will be there and stuff, its just that with my very first BF who ever ment anything to me, he told me he wanted to go on a break with me, and then came back that night and told me he couldnt hurt me like that and him self like that and that he wanted to be with me, and the guy im with now is my only other Bf i ever really cared about and well we kinda went throw something a few weeks ago and i cant seem to relax since then, Its not cuz it happened with him, its cuz of what happened with my first bf, ever since him i always panic someone is gonna break up with me with out me knowing it! Thats the problem its like im scared he is gonna break up with me even when there is noting that he would break up with me over! i probable just confused the hell outta you all but i tried to exsplain something

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Hey, Roxy, I know we've never met, and I have no track record yet, but please believe me when I say that things will happen that you have no control over, and you just have to roll with it, especially in relationships. Lighten up, OK? You're gonna second-guess yourself into a nervous breakdown, and probably miss a lot of fun stuff along the way if you're always trying to analyse it. This "being with another person" stuff is, at best, supposed to be about fun, not life and death, isn't it? You could always ask your S.O. what they think...
If its no longer fun, or things get weird and stay painful, move on. Yes, it can be that simple. Obviously, kids or other dependants complicate the equation, but things will work out. Honest.