Reading a post in igofast's journal got me thinking, when you get engaged, do you think you need to tell any of your ex's?

Prior to getting married, I only had one long-term relationship. I spent three years with someone, two of which I spent living with her. I was really pissed when we broke up, so I did not even consider telling her when I got engaged to my now wife. I have dated a lot, and I told some of the girls I dated (I remained friends with some of them), but I never told the ex-girlfriend. I felt no obligation to her.

What do you think?

I wouldn't go out of my way to tell an ex that I got engaged. Only if I step kept in contact with them.

maybe my ex is just physco, but in a way i think she would want to get engaged just to rub it in my face.. whoop whoop

but honestly, i don't plan on telling anyone that i am not already talking to when i get engaged.. if they aren't a part of my life at the present time.. they can read about it in the newspaper

i think in a little way if you call your ex to tell them you got engaged and that's it, it shows your aren't truly over them.. maybe that's just me reading too far into this kind of thing..

Obligation? Absolutely not. The reason my ex told me is because we're still pretty close friends. (Something that bothers her now fiance and I'll admit I get a tiny bit of sadistic pleasure from that) If you are no longer friends with an ex, you have no obligation to them at all (unless it's a kid or financial or something of that nature).

Absolutely not. The reason my ex told me is because we're still pretty close friends.

That is exactly what I was going to say. If you're still friends or at least talk occasionally then I would tell an ex, but I'd feel no obligation to tell an ex.

If you don't talk often, and call out of the blue, it could seem kinda weird anyways...

Originally posted by Lateralis
I wouldn't go out of my way to tell an ex that I got engaged. Only if I step kept in contact with them.
Ditto.

I don't feeling that one is obligated to tell an ex, unless that ex is a friend or something.

Well, there is one I think I would feel obligated to tell. We are friends still, but dated for over 4 years.

I dunno I just would not want him to hear I was engaged from some Joe Blo of the streets.

We were very close, and he still loves me, and I care about him, I am just not in love with him.

Its complicated, but anyways, I think I would have to tell him, although it would be hard.

Our relationship ended on good terms, I just was not in love with him anymore and wanted to explore other possibilities.

-I dunno, I suppose I care to much what other ppl think.

Originally posted by Lateralis
I wouldn't go out of my way to tell an ex that I got engaged. Only if I step kept in contact with them.


Exactly.

But then, I can't see keeping in touch with an ex anyway.