So I'm talking to Jarrod last night, who knows I like him, and he starts telling me about this beautiful lifeguard he met, and how good she looked in a bikini, and how she kissed him, and how great of a kiss it was, and how they traded numbers, and how he has to call me back on a different phone in two minutes to keep on tellin' me?!?! Um...I left my phone off the hook. He didn't reach me. Back to square one. Guys are not romantically attracted to me. They find something better looking and scantilly clad and off they go.

Originally posted by DotCom
They find something better looking and scantilly clad and off they go.


...and thereby prove that they (the particular guy) are not worth your interest.

I'm in frogs camp on this one. He's done you a favor, and has proven without a doubt that you're better off for it. Eventually, you'll find a guy that will treat you right...he's out there, be patient.

Gotta agree. 100% with both above.. If he is only interested in how they look in a Bikini and how they kiss, its not worth it. Looks are only a bonus..

Brad

Originally posted by TheFrog

...and thereby prove that they (the particular guy) are not worth your interest.

Exactly.

Don't worry about it. Go with the flow. Many guys (especially young ones) are just looking for someone thats easy, dresses 'slutty' or whatever. Chances are, they are not a guy you'd wanna be involved with anyways, right?

Enjoy being friends with people, enjoy meeting people, and eventual somoene who is worthwhile will find their way to your door.

In an :topic: rant however...All through high school (I know you're graduated, but it seemed appropriate) I remember hearing the same thing from friends that are girls. Now, I don't mean to imply this is the case with you, as I don't know why you like(d) Jarrod, but girls are guilty of the same exact thing.
But, girls (usually younger ones), tend to go for the ahole guys, the guys that are 'hot' but not neccessarily have anything upstairs, the guys that are 'cool' versus the guys that are nice.

And again, sorry if this does NOT pretain to you, but it is a street that goes both ways, so I am saying that I feel your pain 100%, as I've been there before too.

Originally posted by TheFrog



...and thereby prove that they (the particular guy) are not worth your interest.

BINGO! It may not feel like it now, but that is the truth. I went through years of the same thing. All my friends are guys, I do guy things. I don't look manly or anything, I have long hair, some shape to me and all that, but I don't primp, I don't fret over my hair or makeup (I basically don't wear any), but I'm not the typical high-maintenance girl that all the guys drool at.

Sometimes I'd try to be what I thought caught their attention and failed miserably. It just wasn't me. I had boyfriends from time to time and eventually it'd not work out.

It's when I strengthened my resolve to do my own thing, be myself and to heck with the rest of the world that THE right guy showed up. We have the same morals, beliefs, hobbies, passions, interests, etc. I never have to worry about "looking good" for him because I always will. And he will always look good to me. He's perfect.

The right one will be the RIGHT one. No compromises.

Yeah well, I liked Jarrod because he was nice to me, he went to Church, he seemed to know his Bible, he was funny...

and it turns out he's a prick too. Great.

I know I'll find "Him" but man the search does get annoying. And depressing.

Originally posted by DotCom
Yeah well, I liked Jarrod because he was nice to me, he went to Church, he seemed to know his Bible, he was funny...

and it turns out he's a prick too. Great.

I know I'll find "Him" but man the search does get annoying. And depressing.

if i said it once.. i said it a thousand times..

stop looking.. all you are doing by looking is make yourself feel inadequite by not already having somebody, which turns guys off (generally) and thus repeats the cycle.. i know, i have been there

like said above, if the guy is only interested in what a girl looks like, i would be tickled to death that i didn't waste my time with an ahole like him and find this out months later when i caught them two fooling around..

another thing, i have said a thousand times.. your not ugly.. stop thinking that.. you don't have to walk around with your head help up high, just feel comfortable with yourself.. i am not the one to be giving out advice all the time, b/c God knows, i don't have this whole relationship thing figured out.. so i am just going to make a suggestion.. worry about yourself, make yourself feel better about being you, and watch the guys start coming..

i honestly believe when you finally stop looking, you will meet him.. after all, you believe in God don't you? does God make mistakes? no.. so that means your single for a reason.. having a bf or a gf is not the best thing in life.. i think we can all agree on that.. it's nice, but in my personal experience it wasn't worth the hastle..

i am going to stop now, before people stop reading my post

Many guys (especially young ones) are just looking for someone thats easy, dresses 'slutty' or whatever.
*DING DING DING* Give the man a cigar!

It's sad but true. If I were religious I'd say it was God's little irony for life. Guys peak sexually at 17-18 years old. Girls peak at.....35? WTF? Anyway, you're trying to keep your purity intact while trying to date a walking hormone. One of you has to give. This time it was you giving up the "love" you were looking for. Hopefully next time it will be him giving up thoughts of sex and accepting you.

The cold hard facts of life are that young men just want sex. Young women just want love. You're going to have a hard time finding it, especially when you hit college.

Jarrod's 20.

He was done with the "peak of hormones" 2 years ago.

In my experience, the mental peak isn't until much later. Heck some guys I know in thier 40's are still no brighter than a 14 year old when it comes to relationships with women.


Hang in there, kid. Quit worrying about it and enjoy fun stuff already in your life.

What a jerk. Hang in there, Dot...and just so you know, it's not true about the "peak" thing:D

*why must I be a creature of habit?*

So hard...not to call him last night...but I didn't. And IF I see him @ Church tonight, I'm not speaking to him.Dangit. I have stated my mission. So there. Dangit.

Dot-

The Frog is right, he is not worth your time. Been there, Done that.. Now I see guys that I use to have crushes on and etc, and I am like 'Thank you Above, for getting me away from him'

Give it time, I am in a slump too right now..

I am going to be a bridesmaid for the 5th time in September...

3X a bridesmaid, Never a bride, So that makes me .. UM!! ??

Originally posted by Princess


3X a bridesmaid, Never a bride, So that makes me .. UM!! ??


Buggs Bunny?

Originally posted by TheFrog
In my experience, the mental peak isn't until much later. Heck some guys I know in thier 40's are still no brighter than a 14 year old when it comes to relationships with women.

Ummm.... that would be me...LOL But seriously :topic: what guy ever will understand the female mind?

Sweetie, us guys, whether most will admit it are after the goods... if we can't have them, and we KNOW we can't have them, then you become somewhat of a genderless person to us... not quite one of the guys, but not one of the girls, either...


Plus, needy females tend to bother most guys. We want to be your defender/protector... but on OUR terms. Agirl who's LOOKING for a guy will often find that there are none to be had... the girl who is unattainable is the one we want...LOL Talk about convoluted reasoning.

Relax... there are years upon years to worry about that stuff.

Originally posted by DotCom
And IF I see him @ Church tonight, I'm not speaking to him.Dangit. I have stated my mission. So there. Dangit.

this is why i am not too up on dating girls from the same church now (if i had a church)... either you have to leave the church or he does after you break up.. or this crap about seeing him there isn't going to go away.. if i were you i would run.. run far away

I am going far away. Far far away. It's called College. Praise God Almighty.

On a slightly happier note, I did eye contact flirting with a driver of a white honda sporty car today. He was fun stuff.

It's a step further away from Jarrod.

a ricer? i hardly call that a step.. :p

At least College will get you away from him right? And into the land of other guys!! WOO HOO!!!

All boys are pricks at some point in their lives....heck, some forever even! Thats why you need a man ;)

My friend Brandi and I went on the local "Drag" last night. By the end of the night two guys were interested in me and one has my phone number. (Her fault....) Anyway. THey weren't that cute. But oh well. I'm moving in 30 days. Atleast it's an official Jarrod decoy until I'm far far away from him.

He asked me and Brandi to join him and his friends @ Braums (ice cream store) after church. And we did. And he flirted with Brandi right in front of me, and this girl Courtney was trying to bust a mack too, and I just sat there, thinkin' "What is he doing??!!"

It was awfully rude.

*plays sappy "back in the day" music*

i remember when i was a good little church boy, and when i would visit a new church i could have all the girls, and i pretty much only went to church for the girls, and life was just great, b/c church girls always love the new guy.. it's basically competition..

oh what glorious days, how fake they were :)

We don't all flock around Jarrod. Brandi didn't want him. Actually the only girl there out of all 20 of us who did try to hook up with him last night was Courtney. And she's just like that. She climbed on top of the youth minister in public once and he told her she was being stupid and practically pushed her off. It was HILARIOUS.

Jarrod asked me out last night

So which reply did you offer?

1) No, thank you

2) And ignore the fact that your a jerk? No way, bub

3) I'd rather date Ted Kennedy

4) Thanks, but since you've already shown that you're into cheap/easy-looking girls, I no longer think it's a good idea

5) Sorry, pal, but I'm not your 'Couldn't find another date' fall-back

6) Go give yourself a swirley- the bathroom's first door on the left

None of those

First off, the guy is a jerk - I think we're all in agreement here.
Secondly, I'll agree with Wedge - STOP LOOOKING!!!!
Third and most important - MEN NEVER OUT GROW THEIR HORMONES!!!!!

Believe it or not - you find the best guys when you're not lookin, they just kinda sneak up on ya. Looks are a bonus, but it's what's inside that matters.

Originally posted by DotCom
None of those

Then how exactly did you tell him to get lost?

3) I'd rather date Ted Kennedy

LOL :D

you take this dating stuff way too seriously.

Originally posted by DotCom He asked me and Brandi to join him and his friends @ Braums (ice cream store) after church. And we did. And he flirted with Brandi right in front of me, and this girl Courtney was trying to bust a mack too, and I just sat there, thinkin' "What is he doing??!!"

It was awfully rude.
I must be getting old...What does it mean to
BUST A MACK

Bust a mack: flirt, get your freak on, hook up with somebody....


Yeah

Well when he asked me out I didn't realize he wanted a "date". He asked me to study the Bible with him. I said yeah. Now he calls it a date.


HELP. HELP ME PLEASE. I NEED OUT OF THIS SITUATION. AND AS OF TOMORROW I'LL BE IN A CAR WITH HIM FOR 16 HOURS. THEN I HAVE TO SPEND A WEEK WITH HIM IN COLORADO FOR CAMP. I AM SCREWED.

You could quite coolly tell him you dont believe studying the Bible is a "date" and for it to be a date, you require at least $100 spent on you...and he has to buy you a nice new dress.

I thought mack meant to flirt. Get your freak on and hooking up is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay after, isn't it? Hell, maybe I'm gettin' old. :)

Or maybe they all mean the same thing to virgins?

i used to flirt when i was a virgin, .... but flirting is just a game, it doesnt ensure that 'hooking up' will occur. ;)
so yeah, of course they arent the same.

i can't remember how to flirt