My first real girlfriend I ever had got engaged today. Wow, crazy. I still love her, not as I would a gf, but as a friend. I'm not jelous at all, but it's weird to think about, especially since she once thought we would probably marry. Ugh, this sucks, my friends gettin married, havin kids....

Yes, Yes it does. I know the feeling!

It's strange how when it's love, real live kickyouintheass love, it doesn't go away. After awhile you accept the impossibility of a relationship, and that love changes just a little, like putting on a new skin, and becomes friendship. Yeah, Guitarophile Gets Mushy, track 1.

Originally posted by Guitarophile
It's strange how when it's love, real live kickyouintheass love, it doesn't go away. After awhile you accept the impossibility of a relationship, and that love changes just a little, like putting on a new skin, and becomes friendship. Yeah, Guitarophile Gets Mushy, track 1.

lol, i never expected from you.. but i could not of said what i wanted to say any better..

I know exactly how you feel! Ok, well maybe I don't know exactly how you feel -- but I've also been in this situation my friend! My highschool sweetheart is married and has two kids, and the guy who I thought was the love of my life just recently moved to Austin, Texas with his live-in girlfriend.

It kinda throws you for a loop. It's not that I begrudge anyone love or family...it's just that sometimes I start to worry that I'm going to be the single-girl forever. And it doesn't help that every time I call home, my dad tells me that he wants grandchildren and my mom asks when she can finally meet Cody. Or they tell me about someone else that I knew in highschool who is married and moving back to King City... Part of me wants to fall into society's little mold -- you know get married, have kids, buy a house with a picket fence -- but a big part of me is proud of the way I'm rebelling against that. With my old-fashioned upbringing, it's kinda amazing that I don't have a full house by now.

Jed, clearly we're not folks who are meant to settle down anytime soon. Usually I'm okay with that -- that means there are lots and lots of adventures in store for us. I mean, if I had a husband and kids, I couldn't be quitting my job a year from now to go to Italy. I guess the real reason I have that initial flinch when I hear about people getting married is that it starts making me feel old -- like time is running out or something. But it's not. We've got all the time in the world baby.

Silly girl, the last thing you want to do is get married and move back to king city!! :P

It doesn't bother me because it makes me realize I'm not with anyone, it bothers me because I'm getting freakin old! I've pretty much accepted that I will probably never marry and therefore perhaps be lonely much of my life, that I can handle, it's the gettin old part that irks me.

I'm not really surprised they're engaged, she came out to visit about a month ago and I could just see in her eyes this guy was serious the way she talked about him. She had that look, the glimmer.....

You don't have to tell me twice not to get married and move back to King City! :D

Seriously though, we're not that old Jed. Five years from now when we start turning 30 -- maybe we'll be old then. Ha ha. But I refuse to be old now!

And I also don't see you as the kind of person who will be alone his entire life. I'm pretty sure you'll find someone.

Well, best I can say is, I'm currently engaged myself, and my ex for no apparent reason has been emailing me. I went to see a play with my current fiancee, and my ex worked at the ticket stands, and I think he got my email from the mailing list where I ordered my tickets. My ex and I were together for 2 1/2 years, lived together, but he eventually cheated on me and we broke up. We fought a lot, and I was pretty unhappy towards the end. Now, with my current fiancee, I am extremely happy, we have been friends for 10 years, and everything is healthy and I am enjoying the relationship. However, my ex trying to contact me is a little unsettling, as I have no desire to be friends with him. So, I suppose it depends on the circumstances, but I know for a fact my fiancee does not approve of me being friends with my ex, and I'm sure the majority of engaged couples would not want their S.O. talking or "being friends" with an ex-lover. There seems to be no point in that. I say, let bygones be bygones, and do not ruin the relationship that you currently have trying to bond again with an ex.

Holy old thread, batman! She's now married and in Australia. She emailed me yesterday.

Holy old thread, batman! She's now married and in Australia. She emailed me yesterday.

Thats because Awwsttrraaaayyyla kicks the ass.

That's funny...my ex lives in Australia too. :|

That's funny...my ex lives in Australia too. :|
My future ex, Dee, lives in Australia. :|

Good GAWD....are you guys meeting your dates at the Qantas Airline area of the airport?

Its hard when an ex gets engaged..... I moved back to New England from chicago for my ex - and he left me for someone else and got married to her. It was tough...

I'm getting married 2 mos. from today though, so its all good...

You need a crab apple tree.

Good GAWD....are you guys meeting your dates at the Qantas Airline area of the airport?
We went to college together.

My future ex, Dee, lives in Australia. :|

We break up because Jed loves his music more than me. But the future sex is great.