How many of you have a roomate of the opposite sex and it hasn't lead to sex? Drunk on consentual? I mean what has happened? I am need advice about this.

What advice do you want? How to get in her drawers?

Originally posted by QtrHrsmn
What advice do you want? How to get in her drawers?
LOL, actually no. My g/f has a guy moving into her apartment, 3 girls and one guy. I am worried she may um do something she shouldn't. She is 90 miles away so I don't get to see her as often as I want and every nite she tends to go out. Everything has been cool with her and I for quite a while, but there was an incident back alittle ways when she got drunk and went home with some guy and well...ya know. Yeah I was quite pissed, but right now I trust her again, as much as I can, but I don't like this idea. She is a drinker on the weekends and Now the temptation is gonna be there in her own home. Any ideas? I guess I am just having trust issues again, yeah great sign of a heathly realtionship.

John

Once a Cheater...

I wouldn't trust her. However there is also nothing you can do about the situation. If you try and bring it up with her, she'll just get pissed cause your not trusting her.

-AE (I dunno man. I'm no help.)

I'm not really qualified to answer, but I can remember a recent instance of 2 roomates of opposite sex. Friends of mine. They were both horny buggers and not exactly known for fidelity. But they could barely tollerate each other so sex was never a problem for them (well, with each other anyway). It's hard to have sex from opposite ends of a room, which is where they often were.

Ok, I'll stop wasting your time now. :D

Maybe the guy that is moving in is gay? Or atleast that is what he will tell Mr Roper so he can move in

Originally posted by ISUPonyBoy

LOL, actually no. My g/f has a guy moving into her apartment, 3 girls and one guy. I am worried she may um do something she shouldn't. She is 90 miles away so I don't get to see her as often as I want and every nite she tends to go out. Everything has been cool with her and I for quite a while, but there was an incident back alittle ways when she got drunk and went home with some guy and well...ya know. Yeah I was quite pissed, but right now I trust her again, as much as I can, but I don't like this idea. She is a drinker on the weekends and Now the temptation is gonna be there in her own home. Any ideas? I guess I am just having trust issues again, yeah great sign of a heathly realtionship.

John

It isnt about the temptation in her house, if she wants to cheat she'll find a way to, she goes out all the time, she's always in contact with people.... having the guy in the house wont make a difference is what i mean. So if you can trust her to go out on weekends and be faithful, this really shouldnt be any difference.

I have friends who are roommates, girls and boys, and nothing ever came of it, they are just good friends. If my boyfriend was in a house full of girls... these few specific girls that i know, that are his friends, I wouldnt mind.
-Now my friend Ryan is rooming with 3 girls this summer, sharing a room with a girl too, and he was saying how he'd love to get something started, but it's just not happening.

It can get so awkward to be living with the person you sleep with, that i think most young ppl tend to stay away from it.

I used to live in a house with two guys. No problems. I had a boyfriend and didn't even consider my roommates as options. It's not a big deal with male roommates. I just get along better with males and preferred to live with them as opposed to females.

Wow, she gets plowed and screws some other guy and you essentially just shrug it off? Must be a very serious relationship. She sounds like a real winner.


You already know this isn't the healthiest nor most worthwhile relationship. Why do you stay in it?

No I didn't shrug it off, it still hurts but we worked on it and talked and things got better, slowly! No all the fears are coming back again. This damn voice in the back of my head is starting to whisper again. I dunno, I really don;t trust the dude she cheated on me with, but they are still 'freinds' much to my pain and this new roomate is straight and wants to be a model. Yeah it sounds like a soap opera, but I haven't actually seen him yet, just talked to him over the phone about a month ago when he was there for a weekend to drop stuff off and all 4 of them got drunk. Yeah.:mad: Still no idea why or what or anything. Ah well maybe I am just stupid, but I do love her. And like John Lennon said "All ya need is love." I guess we'll see.

John

she is still hanging around with the guy she cheated on you with?

I would think that cutting all ties with the guy she banged would have been a prerequisite for any forgiveness, at least as far as staying together is concerned.
If she isnt willing to do that It's time to leave.
It's just a matter of time dude, before they screw again, if they arent already.

Dude. Move on.



RWZ

Dude...

It's time for a new girlfriend.... if the trust issues are still there, it'll never get better....

A girlfriend at one time lived with 2 chicks and one dude. The dude was a college ex-roommate of mine who I introduced my girlfriend to and they became friends. He ended up getting it on one with one of the other chicks regularly and I would stay over on the weekends occasionally. I didn't think anything of it. If anything there was opportunity to get it on with the chick my college buddy was dating.

I remember going over one time and the chick my friend was dating was the only one at the house they were renting. I said, "Hi, is Joan around?"

She said, "No. It is so hot outside today isn't it? I just want to take everything off, don't you?"

I said,"Oh yeah, it is very hot."

She said,"I am getting even hotter as we speak. Did you you ride your bicycle here? You must be hot too. Your cycling shorts are so tight."

I gulped and grabbed my bicycle as she said, "Going so soon. Joan won't be back for a little while."

:D :D

...and then Snouter woke up. :p Really, you should direct porno.

boy. I sure said "dude" an awful lot there, didnt I?

dude, thats wierd dude.

just dump her dude and find someone else. Dude you live near me. Dude dump the girl and lets go drink beer sometime dude.

later dude.

Originally posted by ISUPonyBoy
How many of you have a roomate of the opposite sex and it hasn't lead to sex? Drunk on consentual? I mean what has happened? I am need advice about this.

Yes. I have had a roommate of the opposite sex.

No, did not lead to sex (for a couple of reasons).

She was not a very hygenic girl... I woke up one moring and had to take a whiz and I hadn't put my glasses on, when I felt something by my toe (I am a -7.75 BTW-- SAEsir knows what that means), I go to pick it up and bring it close enough to wear I can see it (Again, Aesir knows how close something has to be with eyesight this bad)... and then I realise... it's her used tampon!!!!:eek: :eek:

ARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!

I dropped it and screamed like a 12 year old school girl!!! See, the trash hadn't been emptied and she just *casually* threw this tampon on top of the full trash can and I guess it rolled off onto the floor-- where she left it.

I thought women were suppossed to be discreet about that sort of thing!! She also smoked in her room when I told her that wasn't allowed.

Alos, she had these two long haired cats that scratched my black leather couches all to hell... I definitely didn't make and $$$ on having her here.

Also, I had just gotten done taking a shower (again, I have VERY bad eyesight!) when something "squished" between my toes... apparrently one of the kitties wasn't feeling too good and decided to **** right outside of the shower... believe me, there's nothing worse than stepping oput of a nice, clean, refreshing shower only to have a bunch of diaherria cat crap get squished in between your toes.

That b!tch didn't even wash the rug they pooped on either-- she hung it on the railing of my balcony instead.:mad:

LOL sorry I just can't help but laugh. I got some bad horror stories too, but that's another thread. :)

I had a roomate of the opposite sex who did not sleep with me. She was my ex wife!

Self Esteem - The Offspring

When she says, oh, that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she says, oh, that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can stand

Well I guess, I should speak up for myself
But I really think it's better this way:
The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care--
Right??
Yeah-ha-ha

(Verse 3:)
While I relate this little bit,
(It) Happens more than I like to admit
Late at night, she knocks on my door
She's drunk again and lookin' to score

I-I know, I should say no, but
It's kinda hard when she's ready to go
I may be dumb; I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self esteem

"boy. I sure said "dude" an awful lot there, didnt I?"

As long as you dont talk about the deals at dell...you will be ok.

I would so live with chicks (yeah, i know you didnt' ask me, but i am telling you ok?), but like it was ever a doubt right?

no but honestly, i get along with girls better as friends then i usually do guys.. or i would say, my closer friends are females, b/c i feel like i open up to them more..

You should be more concerned that she "is a drinker" on the weekends and that her and the fling are "friends", then you should about the new roomy. At least for now. Like someone said, "Once a cheater, always a cheater".

The fact that you are even questioning the relationship, in a forum no less, should give you a good idea.