25 but MR right never came into my life so i am on my 30's :( and yet not married..


I hope this year as i am already taken and we are planning! :)
by the way, I am just here for discussion and learning...learning of anything about people in all areas of the world.... :)

28-30 probably.

16 really but im not supposed to say that

You should get married when you feel you are ready to do so. I don't think there's a magic number.

I got married when I was 29. I think that was a good age.

When I was 22, my ex-girlfriend was pushing hard to get married. I wasn't ready, and she was already planning for kids. Thank god we broke up.

Never and a half.

By my current timeline, I'll be married by the time I'm 75.

There is no ideal time for marriage. There is only ideal time to have kids (for women, bio-clock "tick-tock"). If you don't want to have kids out of wedlock, you might be associating the two, thus your question.

A lot of people in Canada live common law. Weddings are disgustingly expensive, and more and more couples choose to "do their thing" without the ceremony.

Common law partners can still claim spousal support.:) If that means anything.

Never and a half.

:nice:

TLG is correct.

15 minutes after you meet the person you can spend the rest of your life with.

There is no set number. I got married at 19 and couldn't be happier. There are others whom I could NEVER see getting married so yanno...:|

Willingness to compromise seems to be the biggest indicator about how ready you are to be married. If you can't compromise, don't even think about it. marriage is one giant compromise.

Whenever you've gotten all your "ya-ya's" out and are finally ready to settle down and commit to a relationship. It can be at any age, and it's often uncanny how that special someone will come into your life at just that point in time.

It's also uncanny how that special someone will turn out to be your worst nightmare because you got married at an age when you weren't mature enough to know what you should have been looking for and what you should have been avoiding.

It's also uncanny how that special someone will turn out to be your worst nightmare because you got married at an age when you weren't mature enough to know what you should have been looking for and what you should have been avoiding.

Well, that's the experience you should be getting when you get your ya-ya's out in the first place.

Well, that's the experience you should be getting when you get your ya-ya's out in the first place.

:yeahthat:

I started early and learned very quickly, the hard way what I DIDN'T want, that's for darn sure.:|

Or I just got damn lucky and met Mr. Right very quickly. But it's only been 13 years. I'll keep ya posted.:D

Thanks for the post replies guys... I am happy that there are a lot of here shares their own opinion about ideal age of marrying... :)

Ideal age for divorce - 1 day.

Ideal age for divorce - 1 day.

That's the spirit! :nice: Go into marriage expecting failure and you won't be disappointed.

Well why some others having that concept then?? :(

I don't think there's an ideal time to get married either. People are so different that you can't pinpoint a blanket age for everybody. I'm 28 and not married and not planning on getting married any time soon either, certainly not before I hit my early 30's. For some people that may seem "old" to be settling into the marriage frame of mind, for others that may still seem young. It all just depends on the individual.

Tally's right. It all depends on the person.
My first was a big mistake, not really because of my age, but because I was in the military. Getting married while you're in the military is generally a bad idea regardless of age. A few make it work, but not many.

Tally's right. It all depends on the person.
My first was a big mistake, not really because of my age, but because I was in the military. Getting married while you're in the military is generally a bad idea regardless of age. A few make it work, but not many.

I heard it's something like 80% of military marriages fail.

I lived on base, and there's all sorts of stuff going on, from your run-of-the-mill affairs to married company commanders having gay sex with their cadets. Yeah...not the kind of stuff that keeps families together. :not:

Well, I am in my early 40's now and I have met the love of my life and hopefully plan to marry towards end of this year!

When my best friend's father married his step-mother, I gave him a toast to say: "May your lawyers never meet."

:P

I heard it's something like 80% of military marriages fail.

I lived on base, and there's all sorts of stuff going on, from your run-of-the-mill affairs to married company commanders having gay sex with their cadets. Yeah...not the kind of stuff that keeps families together. :not:

There are two problems. The first one is that the couple has to figure out how to stay married when they never see each other during a deployment. The second is to figure out how to live with someone when you are accustomed to living alone during the times that you are actually together for long stretches. Sometimes I think we should just provide base housing for concubines instead of encouraging marriage.

everybody is being mundane and serious and noone is saying anything insane...
this threads cries out for something really antisocial


fkn Elmo where the heck are you?

There are two problems. The first one is that the couple has to figure out how to stay married when they never see each other during a deployment. The second is to figure out how to live with someone when you are accustomed to living alone during the times that you are actually together for long stretches. Sometimes I think we should just provide base housing for concubines instead of encouraging marriage.

That's the thing. The military encourages marriage, at least most of the time. A lot of time you're rewarded in certain ways if you're married with kids. Then the marriages fall apart. It's so backward.

In my opinion, wait as long as you can. Late 30's is best.

That's the thing. The military encourages marriage, at least most of the time. A lot of time you're rewarded in certain ways if you're married with kids. Then the marriages fall apart. It's so backward.

It wasn't intended that way. It became apparent that spouses and families endured unusual hardships during a deployment. So they made all of these stipends to try to encourage people to stay in the military after their single days were over, and to make it easier on families. But, of course, that just meant that a couple who might have lived together for a time or something less life-altering was strongly financially encouraged to get married.

It wasn't intended that way. It became apparent that spouses and families endured unusual hardships during a deployment. So they made all of these stipends to try to encourage people to stay in the military after their single days were over, and to make it easier on families. But, of course, that just meant that a couple who might have lived together for a time or something less life-altering was strongly financially encouraged to get married.

Ah yes. Well, good intentions, I s'pose. :shrug:

Ah yes. Well, good intentions, I s'pose. :shrug:

Yes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Marriage is a perfect example.

Ah yes. Well, good intentions, I s'pose. :shrug:

You know they take a bunch of teenagers with a reasonable moral compass and through very specific personality deconstruction and training make them into people who will kill another human being simply because they are told to, and often with a sense of accomplishment. Is it really surprising after all of that combined with a regimented lifestyle and extended deployments that we often turn out to be difficult long-term mates?

I agree with those who acknowledge that marriage is kinda obsolete. It is all part of the system to enslave the individual.

I agree with those who acknowledge that marriage is kinda obsolete. It is all part of the system to enslave the individual.

Ah that's only because you haven't met the right woman. You only feel enslaved when you don't want to be there. I still believe in the institution of marriage no matter whatever age. I have bypassed my first marriage and divorce by not getting married yet.

Marriage isn't necessary - from that perspective, it appears it should only be performed when life experience has solidly shown that the couple makes a great team, and want to add this symbolic gesture to an already stunning relationship.
Kind of like placing the final decoration on the top of the Christmas tree...

M

Yes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Marriage is a perfect example.

Good point.

You know they take a bunch of teenagers with a reasonable moral compass and through very specific personality deconstruction and training make them into people who will kill another human being simply because they are told to, and often with a sense of accomplishment. Is it really surprising after all of that combined with a regimented lifestyle and extended deployments that we often turn out to be difficult long-term mates?

No, actually, I'm not surprised at all.

Well, I am in my early 40's now and I have met the love of my life and hopefully plan to marry towards end of this year!




That love of your life so lucky as you are going to marry her end of this year... but hey, before you have to marry her, let's shall do first dance the lambada..

I hope she won't mind?? :blush: winks..

I agree with those who acknowledge that marriage is kinda obsolete. It is all part of the system to enslave the individual.

A system to provide a home for innocent children-and its faltering and the children are suffering-read more Pappy and me,Snout

For me I dont think there is an ideal age so long as you are with a person that you are compatible with and there is a certain chemistry!

I have bypassed my first marriage and divorce by not getting married yet.

That's a great quote! :nice:

hmm, idk 26-32 maybe?

I"m about to turn 30 and my younger siblings either are married or are gonna be in a couple months. I sure wish I was, but Im not even in a relationship. :(

That love of your life so lucky as you are going to marry her end of this year... but hey, before you have to marry her, let's shall do first dance the lambada..

I hope she won't mind?? :blush: winks..


Don't forget the coffee! LOL!:D

What's the ideal age for a second marriage?

What's the ideal age for a second marriage?


Personally speaking I dont think that there is an ideal age but rather when you are emotionally ready!

Personally speaking I dont think that there is an ideal age but rather when you are emotionally ready!

what does "emotionally ready" mean?

prepared to take someone else's crap?

get ready to share the living space with someone who uses your stuff, eats your food, spends your money, in turn for a 5 minute lay after which they turn over and slobber all over the pillow while they keep you awake with their loud snoring.:nice:

http://www.haboob.net/blogimg/Homer-Sleep.jpg


that's what I thought....:cool:

what does "emotionally ready" mean?

prepared to take someone else's crap?

get ready to share the living space with someone who uses your stuff, eats your food, spends your money, in turn for a 5 minute lay after which they turn over and slobber all over the pillow while they keep you awake with their loud snoring.:nice:

http://www.haboob.net/blogimg/Homer-Sleep.jpg


that's what I thought....:cool:




why marry then if you do not want to hear snore or u don't want spending your money to other people? Well guys, better stay single if you think marriage a miserable thing to you... :(

Don't forget the coffee! LOL!:D




Sure... you be the one to bring muffins and cheese cakes! :)

what does "emotionally ready" mean?

prepared to take someone else's crap?

get ready to share the living space with someone who uses your stuff, eats your food, spends your money, in turn for a 5 minute lay after which they turn over and slobber all over the pillow while they keep you awake with their loud snoring.:nice:


that's what I thought....:cool:

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

shes had a rough time is all...we cant all be lucky in love,Hombre...

why marry then if you do not want to hear snore or u don't want spending your money to other people? Well guys, better stay single if you think marriage a miserable thing to you... :(

Agreed, all relationships involve a little give and take, if you are not prepared to accept that reality then it is probably better to stay single and you dont have to hear anybody snore LOL!:D

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

That is a very good point as its not fair to always blame the other person in your relationships, sure they had their faults but to say that you had absolutely no faults is a little unfair dont you think?:)

Pointing fingers after the relationship became sour... sigh... :nonono:

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

Wow... thanks Grim. I'll take that into consideration.

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...


I actually (no lie) have this poster hanging in my living room:

http://images.despair.com/products/demotivators/dysfunction.jpg

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

Ouch.

Ouch.

No worries mate. I found that when ppl are bold enough to insult, it is because they are frustrated themselves.

what does "emotionally ready" mean?

prepared to take someone else's crap?

get ready to share the living space with someone who uses your stuff, eats your food, spends your money, in turn for a 5 minute lay after which they turn over and slobber all over the pillow while they keep you awake with their loud snoring.:nice:

that's what I thought....:cool:

You say that like it's a bad thing.

I actually (no lie) have this poster hanging in my living room:

http://images.despair.com/products/demotivators/dysfunction.jpg

I had a Despair calendar on my cubicle wall one year. That thing was awesome. I need to get another.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

I thought the picture might have indicated that I was exaggerating, as in, trying to make a joke.

The one common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you...

I don't see this as an insult.

I had a Despair calendar on my cubicle wall one year. That thing was awesome. I need to get another.

I made a screen saver out of them at work. It's quite the hit. :nice:

I want one of the coffee mugs, too.

I don't see this as an insult.

No? ok, what do you call it?

An observation.

Admittedly a barbed one.

But you have to admit that it is true as "You" are the common denominator and it shouldn't be looked upon as an insult! An observation yes, constructive criticism perhaps but insult? Not!

No? ok, what do you call it?

It was not an insult at all. It is something I remind myself of when one of my relationships isn't going well. And it is kind of ironic that you call me bitter and frustrated. You should walk back through this thread and read every post you've made and every one that I've made. We play a role in our relationships, whether they succeed or not. It takes two people to make them work and it takes two people to make them destructive. Even if one person's role is simply to keep making bad character judgments, they are still obviously looking for the wrong things if they keep picking the wrong people. Either they don't know what they want or they don't know how to find it. But if we can't take some personal responsibility and laugh at ourselves for our mistakes and past debacles we're going to keep blaming others while doing the exact same things that helped create the bad relationships we had in the past. That's not an insult, it is an observation. And it applies to me as much if not more than it does to anyone else.

No? ok, what do you call it?

Call it pragmatism. Either there is something about you that is causing these relationships to fail, or you are habitually drawn towards the wrong kind of people (which, again, comes back to you). Alternatively, some unseen force (God, gypsy curse, etc.) could be systematically sabotaging your life.

As grim said, the common factor is you, and that's probably the first place you should be looking to improve the situation. I don't think it is an insult, but something to keep in mind.

Call it pragmatism. Either there is something about you that is causing these relationships to fail, or you are habitually drawn towards the wrong kind of people (which, again, comes back to you). Alternatively, some unseen force (God, gypsy curse, etc.) could be systematically sabotaging your life.

As grim said, the common factor is you, and that's probably the first place you should be looking to improve the situation.


I agree and maybee this is where the term bum magnet comes from as if you keep choosing wrong maybee instead of blaming the other party you should look within yourself and find out what is drawing you to these sort of people in the first place

It was not an insult at all. It is something I remind myself of when one of my relationships isn't going well. And it is kind of ironic that you call me bitter and frustrated. You should walk back through this thread and read every post you've made and every one that I've made. We play a role in our relationships, whether they succeed or not. It takes two people to make them work and it takes two people to make them destructive. Even if one person's role is simply to keep making bad character judgments, they are still obviously looking for the wrong things if they keep picking the wrong people. Either they don't know what they want or they don't know how to find it. But if we can't take some personal responsibility and laugh at ourselves for our mistakes and past debacles we're going to keep blaming others while doing the exact same things that helped create the bad relationships we had in the past. That's not an insult, it is an observation. And it applies to me as much if not more than it does to anyone else.

Oh common... Picking the wrong ppl... You know, the truth is, we pick the ones that pick us back. Yeah, I'd love to be with Brad Pitt, but in reality...:) You get what you can, MOST OF THE TIME. Ain't that right?

And when I said insult, I was refering to POINTING fingers at me for what, for saying marriage is not all that? You think it is, I think it's not. It should end there, not at you pointing fingers at me saying I am this and I am that, whatever. The thread is about marriage or ideal age for marriage, not ME. I wonder how is it that I express an opinion, and ppl just start throwing rocks at me, wow, I must be annoying. Tell me, do my opinions annoy you?

I agree and maybee this is where the term bum magnet comes from as if you keep choosing wrong maybee instead of blaming the other party you should look within yourself and find out what is drawing you to these sort of people in the first place

Yeah, I blame all my problems on Homer Simpson.:D

Oh common... Picking the wrong ppl... You know, the truth is, we pick the ones that pick us back. Yeah, I'd love to be with Brad Pitt, but in reality...:) You get what you can, MOST OF THE TIME. Ain't that right?

And when I said insult, I was refering to POINTING fingers at me for what, for saying marriage is not all that? You think it is, I think it's not. It should end there, not at you pointing fingers at me saying I am this and I am that, whatever. The thread is about marriage or ideal age for marriage, not ME. I wonder how is it that I express an opinion, and ppl just start throwing rocks at me, wow, I must be annoying. Tell me, do my opinions annoy you?

In case you missed it, grimrebuke pointed out that his observation applies to everyone, himself included. Seems like the only person in this thread obsessing over you is you.

In case you missed it, grimrebuke pointed out that his observation applies to everyone, himself included. Seems like the only person in this thread obsessing over you is you.

is this not pointing fingers?:rolleyes:

YOU

YOU

YOU

forget it...

First "we" are the only common denominator, then it takes two...Well which one is it Grim?

It takes two people to make them work and it takes two people to make them destructive. .

find out what is drawing you to these sort of people in the first place


Their D*CK:cool:

OK?



You asked, and I'm a very honest person.:|

Call it pragmatism. Either there is something about you that is causing these relationships to fail, or you are habitually drawn towards the wrong kind of people (which, again, comes back to you). Alternatively, some unseen force (God, gypsy curse, etc.) could be systematically sabotaging your life.

As grim said, the common factor is you, and that's probably the first place you should be looking to improve the situation. I don't think it is an insult, but something to keep in mind.


Mr. E, you don't practice what you preach, so why bother?:eek3:

Their D*CK:cool:

OK?




Sometimes that is all we have to offer. But sometimes that is enough. When I ask my wife why she first hooked up with me, her answer is "You were there."

Mr. E, you don't practice what you preach, so why bother?:eek3:

What don't I practice?

What don't I practice?

I thought you were anti-social.

I thought you don't do relationships.

I thought you were anti-social.

I thought you don't do relationships.

I guess I'd have a good idea of where the problem is if I was having a string of failed relationships.

I guess I'd have a good idea of where the problem is if I was having a string of failed relationships.


How does having no relationships give you a good idea?

How does having no relationships give you a good idea?

Read my post again, and pay close attention to the word IF.

You don't appear to be very introspective, which I suspect is why you take insult at the notion that you have a role to play in your failed relationships.

Read my post again, and pay close attention to the word IF.

You don't appear to be very introspective, which I suspect is why you take insult at the notion that you have a role to play in your failed relationships.

Are you introspective? If so, why hasn't that helped you solve your own problem with relating to society?

And if we were all introscpective, we wouldn't need shrinks. There's a sh*t load of them out there.:D

Are you introspective? If so, why hasn't that helped you solve your own problem with relating to society?

Who said it was a problem?

And if we were all introscpective, we wouldn't need shrinks.

Only if everyone could identify their problems and come up with a solution. Most people don't even think they have a problem.

Who said it was a problem?


:D

okie dokie, end of story.

Oh common... Picking the wrong ppl... You know, the truth is, we pick the ones that pick us back. Yeah, I'd love to be with Brad Pitt, but in reality...:) You get what you can, MOST OF THE TIME. Ain't that right?

And when I said insult, I was refering to POINTING fingers at me for what, for saying marriage is not all that? You think it is, I think it's not. It should end there, not at you pointing fingers at me saying I am this and I am that, whatever. The thread is about marriage or ideal age for marriage, not ME. I wonder how is it that I express an opinion, and ppl just start throwing rocks at me, wow, I must be annoying. Tell me, do my opinions annoy you?

Holy cow! Who knew the power of one amusing quote to rile up the masses?

We pick the ones we pick, we get to actually spend time with the ones that pick us back. What makes you think Brad Pitt would be a good companion? He's wealthy, famous, and good looking. So he has probably never had to put any effort at all into being an attentive Lover and you have posted a few times that you have a jealous streak. And this is exactly what I'm talking about, the things that you complain about regarding men are the things you are most likely to find in specific groups with specific traits. Pitt has been through a parade of women just in his visible life. And the one common denominator in all his failed relationships.......
Your opinions don't annoy me or I suspect anyone else here. And I am sorry that mine have hurt your feelings, that was not my objective. I don't think marriage is all that, I think it is whatever you make of it.

I am interested in your ideas and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

:D

okie dokie, end of story.

A problem is only a problem if it causes you problems.

This marriage thing has been a hot topic here create a little flame with the posters because of some disagreements about marrying...



In reality, we all people would want to have a partner, get settled and have a happy home... It's hypocrisy when we say we just need a lover forever.. Every woman in fact would want a man to bring her in the altar vice versa.. :)


Maybe some had gone into failure relationships because of chosing the wrong ones... Or perhaps they chose the right ones but didin't even know the outcome of the marriage..

Well, it us who make choices.. It is us who make the marriage perfect and not the marriage that make itself perfect! :D

Their D*CK:cool:

OK?



You asked, and I'm a very honest person.:|


Well......at least nobody can call you a liar LOL!:D

I had passed my ideal age of marrying but well all i can say is that...It is worth waiting for on my part as i think my sweetheart is perfect enough than any other guy i'm with in the past..:)


And i really thank god for this.. :)

For me the ideal age is basically when I have found my ideal person and age really has nothing to do with it!

For me the ideal age is basically when I have found my ideal person and age really has nothing to do with it!




hmmn, so your current age now i guess is your ideal age as you'd found your ideal person in life... :D