so for me, I get close to people pretty much as quickly as one can... I mean, I know of people who need to know you for months to years to feel like you are really friends.. me: I get attached quickly.. I'm pretty much an open book-- I don't bs..I mean, I let people in (if they knock) :) --as many of you have witnessed... I dont hold back info.. if you ask.. I'll tell, and sometimes you dont even need to ask...

so anyways.. question.. or comment or something...

this has come to the surface for me because i just came out of this incredible experience... i was away for a week and became really close with a lot of people (most of whom I'd just met) then I remembered how things have been down here...

I have this group of friends that I've been friends with for over a year... there have been a lot of obstacles.. so there were some months where I saw them all very little and some where I saw them pretty much regularly... I totally love this group of people-- I get along with them... we have fun together... I mean.. it seems like such a great deal...

i have other friends in my life-- and the other ones get the extra label-- like "high school friends" "improv group friends" like my friends who i am talking about are the real "friend friends"

but I've been thinking about how as much as I feel a part of the group... there is some kind of...distance... I dont think i've ever had that problem before... like I had this really long conversation with one friend today-- and i feel like i kind of had to force myself to do it...

am i making sense here? has anyone ever felt anything like this?
it really is...weird.. and Im not exactly sure where I am going from here.:confused:

Yeah, I get that way too. I can't explain it though. :(

Perhaps you are just drifting away from them? That can happen. I've got a group of about a dozen "college friends." We all graduated about six years ago, and we have slowly drifted apart. I see them maybe three times a year now, when I used to see them every day. Lives change, and people change. They all have kids now and focus their lives on family. My wife and I are career-oriented and just want to have fun....travel, biking, buying toys...basically spending money freely and just acting like grown up kids. I have less and less in common with my old college friends.