Do you?

Do most people?

I never went after what I can't have. I don't go after people who are taken.

My latest misfortune made me realize that what I want and can't have is basically - love. I suppose I must come to grips with the reality that love is just an idea, practically unattainable.

Do you? not always, but sometimes.

Do most people? I think so.

if you have something you dont WANT it-you have a different relationship with it after you have it..

Not always, but sometimes sure.

if you have something you dont WANT it-you have a different relationship with it after you have it..

This is true. As soon as you get the thing that "you can't have," you stop wanting it. Then you go, "This is no big deal, why the hell did I want it so badly?"

No.

I can't have a nuclear bomb and I'm pretty sure I don't want one.

I mean in terms of relationships.

Have you ever purposefully paid less attention to a girl (or guy) than you really wanted to, just so they would want you more?

I never went after what I can't have. I don't go after people who are taken.

My latest misfortune made me realize that what I want and can't have is basically - love. I suppose I must come to grips with the reality that love is just an idea, practically unattainable.

That's not true. We just each have a different idea of the kind of Love that we are willing to accept and the specific people or types of people we want it from. Try letting go of some of the prerequisites that you don't really care about and it will be easier to get the ones you do.

At least, that is what I keep telling myself.

I mean in terms of relationships.

Have you ever purposefully paid less attention to a girl (or guy) than you really wanted to, just so they would want you more?

Oh, heck no... I smother them 'till they can't stand me. I've always sucked at this game.

I mean in terms of relationships.

Have you ever purposefully paid less attention to a girl (or guy) than you really wanted to, just so they would want you more?

Yes. Sometimes I do it unintentionally. It's not very effective.

Do you?

Do most people?


I guess I simply don't believe in wasting my effort like that. Why "want" something or someone that you have no chance of succeeding at getting? What's the point? If I decide to put myself out there and expend my energy, I had better be sure of why I want whatever it/who it is in the first place. I'm not much of a dog that just chases after cars at all.
I have no idea whatsoever about how "most" other people feel, I only know my own small circle of close family and friends.

Kind of I had a crush on someone for a long time but then I found out our relationship couldn't work. I knew it was true but I still miss them and wish there had been someway it could've worked. But I'm reasonably content in my current relationship.

Sure I sometimes want what I can't have....but it's not because I can't have it that I want it.

Sure I sometimes want what I can't have....but it's not because I can't have it that I want it.

Tally, I want you because I can't have you. :(

just because you can't have me? If I took the short trip to Philly and showed up at your doorstep begging you to take me then and there would you no longer want me? :p

just because you can't have me?

No. It's because you're so hott. And now that you've proven me wrong, I want you even more because you're so smart. :(

In relationships and in other areas, I tend to pursue what I'm not sure I can have. On the one hand, something that is clearly or even probably unattainable is a waste of my time. On the other, something that is clearly attainable is just as clearly not the best possible. Instead of settling, I try to push that boundary a little bit and see what I can make happen.