First I will state that I am NO prude, my dh and I have a very healthy sex life.... but what's it all about that as soon as you put your hand on their knee,or hug them, they want to have sex and have sex NOW??!:eek:

Seriously, I know men and women are just wired different and we probably sense touch different, but I can honestly say that I've never wanted to jump my hubby's bones b/c he touched me on my arm, leg,etc. There is a distinct touch when you know the other is in the mood, I just think men and women misinterpret those moods oft. There have been times I wanted to just be cuddly, but have refrained, b/c I wasn't in the mood at that particular time, and I knew it would make him, IN the mood.

Anyone know what I'm talking about:confused:

i do-but you know a guy can start just wanting to cuddle and having a cute affectionate girl in his arms can change his views on the matter..

Someone has to take responsibility for waking "mr. happy." Might as well be you. :|

:p

hmm.. well, they're just wired differently. I dunno, sometimes my guy just wants to cuddle, but he's rare. And then there are the times that I just look at him and .. well, you get the idea.
It's just how they are.

i miss cuddling most of all though :(

Guys are basically just ready to go pretty much any time, and skin-to-skin caressing is a serious trigger. They don't need to have that pesky "emotion" stuff lined up to get turned on :p

Cuddling comes after sex, otherwise the whole time I'm thinking about sex.

First I will state that I am NO prude, my dh and I have a very healthy sex life.... but what's it all about that as soon as you put your hand on their knee,or hug them, they want to have sex and have sex NOW??!:eek:

Seriously, I know men and women are just wired different and we probably sense touch different, but I can honestly say that I've never wanted to jump my hubby's bones b/c he touched me on my arm, leg,etc. There is a distinct touch when you know the other is in the mood, I just think men and women misinterpret those moods oft. There have been times I wanted to just be cuddly, but have refrained, b/c I wasn't in the mood at that particular time, and I knew it would make him, IN the mood.

Anyone know what I'm talking about:confused:

Sorry but what does DH mean? Never heard of it and googled and never found anything interesting. I agree some people majorly misinterpret the simplest of touches and leave you definitely saying WTF?! Luckily for me im not particulary touchy my parents always had some pretty strict touching rules and told us NEVER EVER touch unless we HAVE to so im not very touchy.

DH= dear husband.. or damn husband depending on the day! ;)

Cuddling comes after sex, otherwise the whole time I'm thinking about sex.

I second that.

DH= dear husband.. or damn husband depending on the day! ;)

I always thought it was Designated Hitter :scratch:

I always thought it was Designated Hitter :scratch:

Only on those days when she doesn't listen ;)

Shado! LOL

I love cuddling. I can't sleep unless hubby and I are "spooning". As for it leading to sex, well sometimes it does, and sometimes it doesn't. Men are men and god bless them they can't help who they are and what they do. Personally I kinda like men (and women too) so I'll take them with all their strange attributes....

Men are men and god bless them they can't help who they are and what they do. Personally I kinda like men (and women too) so I'll take them with all their strange attributes....

"Strange"? You think it's strange that your husband likes to bang you? :scratch:

"Strange"? You think it's strange that your husband likes to bang you? :scratch:

No of course I don't. But this thread is about guys getting turned on just because we like to touch/cuddle.

You aren't touching enough. And you are reinforcing this behavior by trying to only do it when you are in the mood. Think of us guys as big, dumb animals (this should be easy). We get programmed to stimuli. If you put on a silk robe before having sex with us a few times, we start to tie the two together and then you get jumped when all you wanted was to lie on the couch in silk and relax.
So, to fix this, you need to get him desensitized to touching. I recommend making physical contact progressively more often at times and during situations where sex is obviously not possible and make an effort to not be suggestive (you don't want him misinterpreting this as you suddenly having an urge to do it in public places). As you become more frequently physically affectionate he'll get used to it not equaling sex and the chemical trigger to mate will stop firing when you hold hands in front of the TV.

You aren't touching enough. And you are reinforcing this behavior by trying to only do it when you are in the mood. Think of us guys as big, dumb animals (this should be easy). We get programmed to stimuli. If you put on a silk robe before having sex with us a few times, we start to tie the two together and then you get jumped when all you wanted was to lie on the couch in silk and relax.
So, to fix this, you need to get him desensitized to touching. I recommend making physical contact progressively more often at times and during situations where sex is obviously not possible and make an effort to not be suggestive (you don't want him misinterpreting this as you suddenly having an urge to do it in public places). As you become more frequently physically affectionate he'll get used to it not equaling sex and the chemical trigger to mate will stop firing when you hold hands in front of the TV.

Wow! I never thought of it like that. You're a genius!

He's taking a dump right now. I'm gonna gor rub on him:nice:

He's taking a dump right now. I'm gonna gor rub on him:nice:

there's no greater love than a wife that will give her husband a blumpkin. :D

there's no greater love than a wife that will give her husband a blumpkin. :D

Never heard of that one before. No need to explain it tho;) Seriously, the guy makes sense...

I don't want anybody else
When I think about you
I touch myself

I don't want anybody else
When I think about you
I touch myself

awww that's so sweet. I'm glad that you think of me that way. really. I'm flattered. :blush:

No of course I don't. But this thread is about guys getting turned on just because we like to touch/cuddle.

Yeah, it's mind-boggling. Physical contact turns men on. Who'da thunk it? Next thing you know, we'll be discovering that men like boobs!

Wow! I never thought of it like that. You're a genius!

He's taking a dump right now. I'm gonna gor rub on him:nice:

Wow... now THAT's intimacy... in an "I sure hope I can drink that image completely out of my memory this weekend" sort of way :).

And I'm not a genius, I just fail at relationships often enough to have a good catalog of things I should have figured out sooner.

awww that's so sweet. I'm glad that you think of me that way. really. I'm flattered. :blush:

Welcome ;)

I love cuddling. I can't sleep unless hubby and I are "spooning". As for it leading to sex, well sometimes it does, and sometimes it doesn't. Men are men and god bless them they can't help who they are and what they do. Personally I kinda like men (and women too) so I'll take them with all their strange attributes....

I second that.

And maybe it's just me, but I LIKE it! I wouldn't want to desensitize my guy to my touch for the world!

Women. :rolleyes:

They complain when we want to bang them. They complain when we don't want to bang them and watch sports instead. We simply cannot win.

We can cuddle and watch football at the same time.

Come to think of it, we can have sex and watch football at the same time, too. :|

Now that's called compromise!

We can cuddle and watch football at the same time.

Come to think of it, we can have sex and watch football at the same time, too. :|

I'm all for both of those! Works for me! ;)

"they complain.."
The secret to women is this: we don't know what the hell we want! ;)

I just love my man.. end of story, but then again, I love sports AND sex too.. I guess I'm like a guy in that respect. hmm..

mmm touch.. touch me! Mrow!