Yo what up i'm pretty new here and I need some help on getting the "good-girl"

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

Well, not only the top paragraph, but pretty much your whole post makes you sound like a total cocky ass douchbag. Except maybe minus the cocky part.

The way I see it, you have a couple of choices:

A) Stop being such a douchebag. And not just in front of her, but overall

or

B) Keep dating those quality chicks that like to hang out with douchebags.

You get out of life what you put into it.

Yo what up i'm pretty new here and I need some help on getting the "good-girl"

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

Well, despite what you've recounted here, and some minor spelling errors, you seem to have a pretty accurate knack for self-assessment.
One question: Is this girl just a "challenge" for you to knock off the proverbial "straight and narrow", or are you yourself actually feeling a need to become a little more mature in your outlook on what you want from a relationship and in your own future?
Only you know the answer to this.
Despite the "bad boy" image you seem to have intentionally cultivated for yourself, you appear to have more innate sense to draw upon than most, because you're already asking yourself some hard questions.
You can figure this one out by simply listening to yourself.
Good Luck.

I'd say don't bother. You seem pretty happy living your current lifestyle. Attempting to change for this girl, even if it works, will only be a front. Eventually you'll come to resent her because you'll feel like you're missing out on all the good stuff you gave up to win her over. Then you'll revert to old ways and do something hurtful and that will be the end of it.

The better question is to re-examine your post from the perspective that you're living a life that doesn't have a whole lot of direction. Parties are fun, but if that's all you do, then you yourself become really shallow. And the whole hooking up with girls then ignoring them is a tremendously poor display of character. If you want to change things, you should examine your behavior, and decide if the popularity is worth it. Bearing in mind of course, that as soon as you graduate, the opinions of your classmates will be pretty worthless, and if you're lucky enough to get into college, you'll have a whole new set of people to impress. Best to be good with yourself first and stop looking externally for validation.

Welcome, by the way. And good luck.

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

Do you think about yourself when you masturbate?

Clean yourself up before you end up living in a trailer park, working at McDonalds to make child support payments for a dozen kids, who all have different mothers, and you're not even sure if any of them are yours.

I just hope this girl has enough sense not to hook up with you.

BTW :welcome: to DA :nice:

I agree with Feenix. I'd hate to see this girl take a chance on you and then be sorely disappointed. That's not to say you can't change, but you need to change for the right reasons. It's very hard to change a lifestyle and to not fall back into old habits. You will have to WANT it and constantly work at it, and eventually find a good balance in life. It's good to go out and have fun and even drink if you want, but life is all about balance, and I can't stress that enough. This douchebag lifestyle you're living makes you popular now and makes you have all this self-confidence, but when you grow up and everyone around you has a career and has matured, you're going to lose that popularity fast and be the one always reminiscing about how awesome you were "back then."

Good luck, and I mean that.

Try being yourself. By that I mean stop living your life to impress other people and try to impress yourself.

If it doesn't work you never stood a chance anyway.

...be the one always reminiscing about how awesome you were "back then."

Oh man, we coulda taken State! :|

Oh man, we coulda taken State! :|

Precisely.

Now go home b/c you're ruining everyone's life!


:|

Precisely.

Now go home b/c you're ruining everyone's life!


:|

...and eating all their steak. :|

...and eating all their steak. :|

btw- i'm wearing napoleondynamite-looking boots today with my pretty skirt. haha.

And i'm derailing this thread. Back to the bush. :| Or the douchebag wanting the good girl. Wrong thread.

btw- i'm wearing napoleondynamite-looking boots today with my pretty skirt. haha.

And i'm derailing this thread. Back to the bush. :| Or the douchebag wanting the good girl. Wrong thread.

my brewery boots were very much in the napoleon dynamite style. Uber hot over the blue jeans. :nice:

Well, not only the top paragraph, but pretty much your whole post makes you sound like a total cocky ass douchbag. Except maybe minus the cocky part.

The way I see it, you have a couple of choices:

A) Stop being such a douchebag. And not just in front of her, but overall

or

B) Keep dating those quality chicks that like to hang out with douchebags.

You get out of life what you put into it.

Point taken


Well, despite what you've recounted here, and some minor spelling errors, you seem to have a pretty accurate knack for self-assessment.
One question: Is this girl just a "challenge" for you to knock off the proverbial "straight and narrow", or are you yourself actually feeling a need to become a little more mature in your outlook on what you want from a relationship and in your own future?
Only you know the answer to this.
Despite the "bad boy" image you seem to have intentionally cultivated for yourself, you appear to have more innate sense to draw upon than most, because you're already asking yourself some hard questions.
You can figure this one out by simply listening to yourself.
Good Luck.


Shes not just a challange or a trophy. I truly just love almost everything about her.


I agree with Feenix. I'd hate to see this girl take a chance on you and then be sorely disappointed. That's not to say you can't change, but you need to change for the right reasons. It's very hard to change a lifestyle and to not fall back into old habits. You will have to WANT it and constantly work at it, and eventually find a good balance in life. It's good to go out and have fun and even drink if you want, but life is all about balance, and I can't stress that enough. This douchebag lifestyle you're living makes you popular now and makes you have all this self-confidence, but when you grow up and everyone around you has a career and has matured, you're going to lose that popularity fast and be the one always reminiscing about how awesome you were "back then."

Good luck, and I mean that.

heh I know that which is whyt i actually try really hard in school. I wasent blessed with an exceptional IQ but due to hard work i still have a 3.3 and got a 27 on my act so im not a total ****up

This guy is my hero. God damn I wish I wuz you.

srsly.

This guy is my hero. God damn I wish I wuz you.

srsly.Me too. I'm still a virgin.

Try being yourself. By that I mean stop living your life to impress other people and try to impress yourself.

If it doesn't work you never stood a chance anyway.


Bingo. Sounds like his whole life is an act. Perhaps ypu like her because she is everything you want to be?

How old are you btw? Please don't say you're in your thirties:D

Yo what up i'm pretty new here and I need some help on getting the "good-girl"

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

Hey,

I can sort of relate. Sort of.
I never broke anyone's nose to get attention from the girls, but I have been in the position of my HS rep spoiling things with one girl I had sincere feelings for.

I'm not sure what to tell you, but yeah: honesty should do it. So, honestly? She was probably right to steer away from me. Now, 15 years later, I would know how to treat her right but back then, no matter how much I felt for her - I simply don't think I would have given her what she deserved.
On the flip side, this girl will always be someone I will have regrets about because she really WAS special.

So yeah. The best advice I think I can give you is forget about your 'lifestyle', and if this girl lets you, do the best you possibly can to be good to her.

Its not like she's your only shot at happiness: plenty of fish in the sea and all that crap. But living with the knowledge that you missed the boat with someone you could have made an awesome duo with is something to avoid if you can. If you give it your best shot and still make a mess of it, at least you'll know you really tried.

M

Mansouri, why do you hook up with girls and then not talk to them the next day? I'm trying not to be a dick here. I think you really need to sit down and think about why you do that.

Me too. I'm still a virgin.

Then maybe you shouldn't look up to him too much ( me = :rolleyes:epsecially when Im deviating werdz) Anyway what being a virgin has to do with it? Well, this take might just warp your views of what it is that makes a decent relationship or at least the first steps to one. Even if you plan to never see her again, you can still not be an ******* about it.Try all the attitude after you've gotten yours and then see how far it will get you. If you mess up your first time due to a shitty outlook on how to treat a woman or what to look for in a woman your first time will not only be a fumbling fiasco of ****ing but likely a blueprint that will be so deeply imbedded that you too will be lamenting your life and the kind of chix you end up with.

I just noticed that even one cup of joe will have you hitting the john three times within the hour..but thats at least one other thread.

A good woman can change a man for the better, but the man has to WANT to change.

Ask yourself deep deep down? Do you REALLY want to change?

If the answer is yes, then go for it. You will likely never regret it.

But if you still have too much of a fondness for your current lifestyle, then please walk away. Destroying her to prove something to yourself would just be so very wrong and likely destroy her trust in the male species for many years to come.

I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention. Don't quit smoking or drinking for her. Do it for yourself. If you can't do it for yourself, it will come between you again further down the line.

You have a mind: a truly magical thing the clarity of which is a magnificent jewel. I used to pollute that clarity myself on a regular basis, and please believe me when I say the only way forward is to come to appreciate your own lucidity: befriend it, make it your greatest asset.
From that point of balance, you can have fun now and then while knowing in a real sense that you still prefer sobriety as a state of mind.
If you don't, you'll just resent the other person you think you are quitting for.

Drinking and smoking systematically in order to socialize is weakness, not strength. Once you really believe this, you will have all it takes to overcome it for yourself and by yourself.

G luck man.

M

...all of my former girlfreinds have been either...or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action.

...she knows that i
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after

I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

The problem is that you've perfected cocky *******dom with zero prospects. "If it looks like a duck, and walks like a duck, and sounds like a duck..."--you've heard that one.

Maybe you're the male version of the hot chick with no personality. Some of this shit works both ways.

I'm guessing that the challenge of the "good girl" is appealing after all those easy pieces. And/or you've burned your bridges with the easy ones by treating them like crap. We call that karma.

Seriously, you're gonna stop drinking and smoking for her? What, you need a mommy? Figure out who the hell you really are, and start acting the part. And if that still isn't good enough for her, don't worry about it. Water seeks its own level, and so do people. But no fairy princess is going to partner with a bilge rat.

I just noticed that even one cup of joe will have you hitting the john three times within the hour.

Forty minutes from intake to output.

Three times in an hour?! Man, at my age, that would be reason to see a urologist! This is why guys my age call guys your age "little squirts".

Didn't this dude say elsewhere he'd only been with 2 girls?

Yo what up i'm pretty new here and I need some help on getting the "good-girl"

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.
If she thinks you're hot the way you are you'll mess it up if you start behaving for her sake. She'll lose interest. She probably wants a "bad boy" to step into her life and give her a taste of stuff she wouldn't do on her own. If things work out you can tone it down later and pretend she has managed to "tame" you a little. Don't get her pregnant, don't give her any diseases, don't get her into any drugs she doesn't already do, but let her be around you up close while you do all the wild shit. She'll like that. It'll entertain the hell out of her.
If you go to her with a "I want to reform for you" attitude, I think she'll be dissapointed.

Didn't this dude say elsewhere he'd only been with 2 girls?

I've only had sex with two girls but hoocked up (Aka oral, making out shit like that) with around 10-12.

Yo what up i'm pretty new here and I need some help on getting the "good-girl"

To start off all of my former girlfreinds have been either party girls who got wasted or blazed with me almsot every weekend, or the hot girls with little personality. As much as I hate to admit it, i dated the majority of these girls just to get some action. You see i am one of those cocky jock type guys in highschool that almost everyone loves to hate. I am naturally athletic and have always been one of the more musucular kids, funny in real life (although it unfortunatly isnt translated into LOLZ on the internet) , in a kinda jackass way that gets me a lot of attention, and it's safe to say my repuation as a "bad kid" kinda speaks for itself in a couple ways ( I've beena rrested for M.I.P.s, broken kid's noses and fights ect). As we've all been through HS you probably know that this will continue to make me popular for about the last day of senior year, and than this behavior will be unaccatable, and belive me i know that, the majority of it is just an act to get ass. However I still do it just to get girls.


While the above paragraph probably makes me seem like a complete and total cocky ass douchebag, I'm really not, only the one girl i like can't see it.

To start with her shes a good girl, who has never drank, never smoked, never had sex, and never even had a boyfreind. Despite all this, (or because of it) I am immesnsly attracted to her, and she has shown interest to, as I always compliment her speciafaclly, and she's addmitted to her freinds that she thinks im hot.

All that sounds great right? Well the only problem is that she knows that i *smoke weed
*Drinks at partys
*Hooks up with girls and than ignores them the day after
*Gets into fights

In fact i got breathalized and escorted out of a hs hockey game right in front of her ( not the best first impression).

Basically to sum it all up i have a huge dilemma,

Should I risk my current lifestyle and popularity to show her that i'm really a nice guy? I'm probably gonna quit drinking and smoking for her, but what else can I do to prove to her that im not just some cocky ******* who will go nowhere later in life.

If she's already admitted to her friend that she thinks you're hot, then she's obviously aware you do all those other things. It's also probably one of the reasons why she thinks you're hot. Including hooking up with other girls and ignoring them after.

I've only had sex with two girls but hoocked up (Aka oral, making out shit like that) with around 10-12.

Jesus Christ. And I thought that neo-slang "hooking up" meant flucking. :p

I still call making out, "making out" which means what it always meant, everything but penetration. I used to try to keep track of chicks I made out with at UConn but lost count. :(