i have a total crush on a beautiful blond who is significantly younger than me. she has breathed new life into me. i feel greatly invigorated. of course, i feel like a total freakin perve too. not that she's illegal or anything, she's 21, i'm 34. its certainly amazing the effect a woman can have on you. of course, i'm sure she's ****ing crazy like the rest of them. probably more so due to her age. so i'll just keep gawking and feeling like a perve. damn she's hot though... :nonono:

this is a blog? this is really you? im 50 and if a 20 something year old chick were to make romantic overtures id have problems saying no

this is a blog? this is really you? im 50 and if a 20 something year old chick were to make romantic overtures id have problems saying nono romantic overtures have been made. i just drool in class. i my make some overtures of my own soon, but i still have mixed feelings about it. i'm mostly just blown away by how much she's affected me.

ask her out and let her decide about the age difference. :slap:

no romantic overtures have been made. i just drool in class. i my make some overtures of my own soon, but i still have mixed feelings about it. i'm mostly just blown away by how much she's affected me.

13 years is nothing-20 year old guys are silly-you have a decent shot...

ask her out and let her decide about the age difference. :slap:its not up to her. well, not yet anyway. i do think i have good reason to be very leary of younger women...

13 years is nothing-20 year old guys are silly-you have a decent shot...you missed the point. its not about having a shot or not. its about feeling like i might actually have a desire to get back into the game. she's the first girl since my divorce who might actually motivate me to take a risk. its a pretty big might though...

so i turn 24 in... 3 days.
i'm dating a few fellows who are as follows:

32,34,38

why?

because the fellows i've had relationships with that are: 20,23,25 even 28
can't seem to give me a straight answer. they are immature, they can't handle an open relationship much less handle one in which the girl actually treats them as adults. and i'm in the same boat you are.. you know, where you're kind of afraid of trying things again for serious. but there's no set law here, you go at your own pace. what have you got to lose!?

it's taken me a long time to realize how frickin' amazing i am regardless of whats going on in my life, and while i still have my issues, i have found that guys in this particular age group (i.e. you) know what they want, they dont compromise themselves or try to hide anything (there are always anomalies in the system but we're not talking about those) and actually treat me well, will take me out and buy my drinks or dinner or whatever despite the fact that i protest... you know? it takes a guy a while to fully mature and treat a lady with respect.

if she's smart, funny, doesnt sound like a complete idiot when words come out of her mouth and you're attracted to her, then ask her out! if she has problems with the age difference, then that's her problem. if you treat her like an adult and not like someone who's X years younger than her you're liable to have a better time together.

Hump her leg,
if she pushes you away, you don't stand a chance,
if she laughs, don't give up,

and if she reciprocates, well...:hiya:

I thought you might be Lester Burnham

PIITB :D

Go out, have fun, just don't do anything stupid like get married. You'll be fine. You aren't that old, and I would bet that she's no pure little virgin either.



Put it in the right perspective. It's no one else's business really. The only one seeing the problem is you. Change your way of thinking and the problem will vanish. Just make sure that this is what you really want, because if it isn't, and you get it, you may not want it.

i realize that the op was poorly worded. this is actually the relevant part of the post. hence the movie reference. :cool: i have a total crush on a beautiful blond who is significantly younger than me. she has breathed new life into me. i feel greatly invigorated.

PIITB :D
I second that.

http://img.snlarc.jt.org/arc/char/TiMe-Leon%20Phelps.jpg
It's not your fault, it's the fault of the wang.

i realize that the op was poorly worded. this is actually the relevant part of the post. hence the movie reference. :cool:

You changed your title. I got the idea as soon as I read that.

Also, make sure she knows to respect the cack.

But seriously, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to a 21 year old, so don't feel like a perv. It's actually completely normal from a biological perspective, as men are actually wired to be the most attracted to 20 year old women no matter how old the man is, for reproductive reasons. It's hard wired into men. Women tend to decline in looks and reproductive ability pretty steadily every year afterwards, whereas men tend to get better looking and more attractive as they get older with zero effect on reproductive abilities.

It's purely cultural conditioning that tells you that you should feel like a "perv" for it. And remember, cultural conditioning is almost always wrong in viturally everything related to courtship. Women are also almost universally attracted to older men for other reasons as well.

Having said that, seriously though, make sure she respects the cack. :|

she will respect my authori...i mean, cack. :cool:

Well, so since Halloween things have been a bit ambiguous to say the least. Hung out today. Gonna hang out tomorrow. Same class again next semester...yet she still brings up th bf at least once a day. Sometimes I hate my conscience. :nonono:

she's still working through some stuff-you dont have anything to feel guilty about-youve been on both sides of that mess yourself..