(BIG SIGH)
i SO need to vent right now-- another problem with having mostly new friendships- there are certain conversations you cant have unless you have some kinda history with someone... of course, on here i throw that all out the window and spill everything... but im just funny like that...

so i went to see a pretty God-awful production tonight, because i had friends in it... and it exceeded my expectations of God-awfulness... is that a word? oh well, it is now...

so yeah, enough of that, I got home and it took my parents all of 30 seconds to say something to me that I am going to have to fight to make not ruin my whole week.. or more..

i was telling my mom about the friends i saw from high school, and she said, "oh yeah, we went out to dinner and saw some people you'd want to see too, because you were so in love with their son..."

Now she said this in a way that I thought she meant it-- so i thought to myself, oh, what guy did i have a crush on (whose parents knew mine)

and then she says, yeah, well actually you werent in love with him it was your little friend that tried to rape you." hmm...nice choice of words, mom.

now, why, I ask you... if anyone knows why-- seriously clue me in, I just dont understand her giving me this piece of news this way....

:confused: i mean, at least they arent calling him the boy who pinched my butt anymore-- actually it was my dad who said it that way... which pissed me off...

so my mom says "yeah, the boy who tried to rape you..." so, i was in the other room, Im glad i wasnt looking at her when she said it...it was uncomfortable enough as it was

anyways, I wanted to say ...something. Like, honestly, I dont know what i wanted to say to them, just like i really dont know how i want them to react to it

this was years ago... and we havent had a conversation about this in years, but when it does come up... they always seem to react in the worst possible way..and its not something i can just..forget about...im not built like that

so this time, I try laughing it off.. from the next room i ask "did you say hi to his parents"

and my mom says no.. and she brings up something about him and how he turned out... and i tell them what I found out a two summers ago-- that after what happened with me (and some others.. ) he was caught in his high schools bathroom... ummm..pleasuring himself.. and was suspended... and my mom was kinda shocked for a second -- and she said, who knows if he is still sick, or has raped a girl or something, and i said, well, he is 21 now.. or almost 22 i think..(which is pretty scary, I think.. especially after the update on his little high school bathroom thing...) and then she says a few more things -- and i think i brought up that this was the second time since everything happened that she ran into his parents in a restaurant... and we drop the conversation...

ughhh.. fine, i mean, i know this is never going to be a comfortable thing... not something i will ever want to discuss with my parents... but the way they bring it up.. it just really upsets me... and i dont even think there is anything i can do about that...

*Thanx for letting me vent those of you who read this far... okay, you can stop squirming, i promise , no more taboo-ness in this post...*

Well, rape is a serious issue and it sucks that your parents can't seem to keep thier mouths shut about the whole thing. I mean, the least they can do is not say anything when they see him or his parents etc. You should just tell them that you are still uncomfy with the situation and that you would prefere that they not bring it up anylonger.

Originally posted by PissyPrincess
Well, rape is a serious issue and it sucks that your parents can't seem to keep thier mouths shut about the whole thing. I mean, the least they can do is not say anything when they see him or his parents etc. You should just tell them that you are still uncomfy with the situation and that you would prefer that they not bring it up any longer.

rape is definitely serious-- it didnt get that far-- which Im thankful for, but at least if it had, people wouldnt take it so lightly..
yeah--it pretty much does suck .. my thoughts exactly... in the beginning it was a more frequent thing (them bringing it up) and now (more than 6 years later) it still manages to come up every few months... --and it IS uncomfy, but it isnt just that.. because honestly, I'm pretty much as "comfy" as I'm gonna get-- in some respects...

I mean, I don't have a problem talking about it (when it comes up.. and it really does come up every know and then) like I'll be talking a friend.. it has come up with guy friends, but not really... it is mostly girls.... something will be said where i know I have to step in and share some stuff for the sake of different things... *the person I am talking to may really need to hear that it isnt just them who's dealt with that sorta thing... or another thing of that sort...

and I'm writing about it (which in a way is the book I needed to read when i was 13-- I actually read a few that helped a lot.. they didnt even need to be happy endings, it was just hearing that it wasnt just me in that situation--remember Sleepers? the movie wasnt brilliant, but the book somehow put me at ease...)

but yeah, back to my point... I've really pretty much come to terms with it (in most ways...) but when my parents are added into the equation, it changes...

its all about their reactions I think... and then the fact that i went through similar things with two more guys, and didnt even tell them, because i didnt want to have that talk again...

i dont know... i mean I havent thought a lot about how they have reacted to this --- except for fleeing the room whenever stuff about the catholic church scandal comes on... but its like now-- im not gonna bring it up, because now that they've said what they said last night, its pretty safe to say they wont say anything for another few months...

..im probably just being a baby about it, and should just deal with the fact that they are going to make comments like that every six months for the rest of my life... *shudders*

you are going to do what you are going to do but I would talk to them about it