So, the saga continues..but it seems to be getting really good!!...I think Scott is coming around..he stops by my work (starbucks..second job) and visits with me & my coworkers..he has never done that before, we hang out almost daily..adn it is he that is asking to hang out, and it's not all about sex,...we don't even do it every time..it's good though when we do...so, he is taking me to Colorado to meet his brother & sister in law in like less than 2 weeks..he bought me snowboard mittens (nice ones)..so, is it a big deal when a guy introduces a girl to a member of the fam? ...I haven't brought up any "so, what are we" conversations...oh yeah, the only thing that is still bothersome is that he is still on match.com...I check to see if he logs in, and he averages once a week or so (used to be daily..I know this because I have 20% stalker in my blood)...so, what's your advice? play it cool?? If I dont get any "talk" during the trip, then what?

Play it cool sounds like a good approach, I wouldnt bother to bring up the match.com thing just yet.

I won't....I think that would probably not work in my favor if I did..I wonder is he is checking to see if I had logged on?? hmmmm

lol so couldnt you just sign up to match.com again under another name and check his online activity. Provided match.com works like hi5, you know sign up again add yourself as a friend so your new match.com account would have access to all your contacts from your first account.

Dang..didn't think about that..although, maybe ..if he IS looking to see if I have been on, he will be wondering why..?..I know he looks at the comments guys leave on my myspace & asks me about them..almost a lil bit of jealousy--I think that's good!, right?

Jealousy is not good. It means that he doesn't trust you.

Wouldn't it mean that he doesn't want me to be with any other guys?

Wouldn't it mean that he doesn't want me to be with any other guys?

It means he sees you as his possession.

Yeah but I strongly agree with ponycar because im like that.

If you ask me these online things are just additional stress factors.

Nobody wants their old lady to be with other guys (except swingers). He's jealous because he believes there's still a chance you'll run off not because he doesn't want you to.

I hope he makes up his mind about me after or during this trip....we'll be together for 11 days..that's a good long time :) .... It's hard for me not to mention anything.. sigh

11 days isn't near enough time to make up one's mind about a person...I spent longer than that picking paint for my house.

we'll be together for 11 days..that's a good long time :) ....

Comments like this (in addition to profiles, etc) make me wonder if the person posting is real or a made up internet persona.

(that does happen here a lot, some people must have boring lives)


No offense, val, if you are sincere! :o

val, are you seeing anyone else? do you want to see anyone else? have you asked him if he's seeing anyone else?

A good way to start the conversation is: "So, I'm not seeing anyone else..."

I am sincere!! 11 days is a long time, I think ..

and I am not seeing anyone else..I think I will bring that up :)

Thanks guys