Did anyone else have a couple freak outs? Like 'holy ****, what am I doing?' 'I'll never be single again' 'I'll never have my own room again' 'What if I need to be by myself for awhile' 'this is a legal transaction without which there is no (at least not a non-taboo) escape'? (Keep in mind divorce is not in the cards for me.)

Look on the bright side. If it doesn't work out and he divorces you, the courts almost always favor the wife.

Absolutely. I don't think you're taking it serious enough if you don't freak out a little bit. *shrug*

Look on the bright side. If it doesn't work out and he divorces you, the courts almost always favor the wife.

How is possible divorce a bright side? Divorce freaks me out!

suffering cold feet is part of the deal.

concentrate on the honeymoon.

I hating dating, so I was very excited the closer the wedding day got. I never got cold feet or had second thoughts.

Did anyone else have a couple freak outs? Like 'holy ****, what am I doing?' 'I'll never be single again' 'I'll never have my own room again' 'What if I need to be by myself for awhile' 'this is a legal transaction without which there is no (at least not a non-taboo) escape'? (Keep in mind divorce is not in the cards for me.)

so why not make your own room... I always felt that when i lived with someone i'd want a room thats mine; like the guest bedroom. Just a place where I could watch my soap operas, keep my projects, have some space to do some yoga, probably keep my computer there, cuz I'd want my own computer, I think.

Then again, watch me move in with a guy, and half this room and then end up not using it.. actually that wouldnt matter, just knowing it was there would probably be enough for me.

and when you need to be alone now, dont you just tell him? It shouldnt be any different later on.

When I dated pat, I freaked out on our 3rd anniversary, cuz we had been together longer than anyone else we knew and we were only 20 years old. Pat freaked out when we had our 5th anniversary, cuz that was a long time. I would think that I'd freak out right before getting married, cuz I tend to overanalyze things sometimes.... but I wouldnt be too surprised if I was just really calm about it like baboon said.

Then again, I'd rather elope, a spur of the moment decision, and then come home and have a party. So I'd actually be freaking out AFTER the wedding! :p

I never had second thoughts, but I knew the woman I was marrying would give me what I needed in our relationship and I would give her what she needed. If I need to be alone for a weekend or not go to an event or something then she would always allow me those things.

Look at this way, your income doubles.

How is possible divorce a bright side? Divorce freaks me out!

Not a fan of roses in the manure, huh?

I hating dating, so I was very excited the closer the wedding day got. I never got cold feet or had second thoughts.


i can only hope i get that lucky. i hate the "dating game" as well.

Did anyone else have a couple freak outs? Like 'holy ****, what am I doing?' 'I'll never be single again' 'I'll never have my own room again' 'What if I need to be by myself for awhile' 'this is a legal transaction without which there is no (at least not a non-taboo) escape'? (Keep in mind divorce is not in the cards for me.)

Never say never. You could be single again. And why can't you have "your own room"? Just get a bigger house with a few rooms, and then each one claims their territorry. Hahah..:D

I can predict which one of you will get the plasma tv.

Good luck to you, don't worry so much, domestic bliss is the good life.

K let's have a quick talk about 'Military Housing' shall we? Teeny basic boxy houses. We'll have a bedroom, living room, kitchen, and the computer room we'll have to share because I'm anal and don't want a computer in the bedroom or living room. Yes, I am insane, thankyouverymuch.

It's not so much about the room though...this is a big commitment! I have to wear my big girl panties! And stuff...or something.

I dunno...I'm freakin out. Excited, but still freakin out.

K let's have a quick talk about 'Military Housing' shall we? Teeny basic boxy houses. We'll have a bedroom, living room, kitchen, and the computer room we'll have to share because I'm anal and don't want a computer in the bedroom or living room. Yes, I am insane, thankyouverymuch.

It's not so much about the room though...this is a big commitment! I have to wear my big girl panties! And stuff...or something.

I dunno...I'm freakin out. Excited, but still freakin out.

:eek7:

Hey, you said "yes", he must have done somethin' right. The rightest thing being - marrying you.:)

Be happy Dottie, relax, redocorate, experiment in the kitchen... I find the idea of being enclosed in a small house with a goodlookin soldier very appealing...

Will you quit wining and start living your happy life already?:) Young ppl, never satisfied....:nonono:

:D

Did anyone else have a couple freak outs? Like 'holy ****, what am I doing?' 'I'll never be single again' 'I'll never have my own room again' 'What if I need to be by myself for awhile' 'this is a legal transaction without which there is no (at least not a non-taboo) escape'? (Keep in mind divorce is not in the cards for me.)

A loving and understanding spouse will give you space when you need it. And a little apprehension is normal. This close to the wedding things become too hectic & anxious to do much clear thinking. You'll have to trust the decision you made when you were thinking rationally. :)
Eventually you'll get so accustomed to each other you won't worry about having alone time. He could sit next to you & you'll be able to tune him out like he's not even there. ;)

Not yet.

Nope. Never freaked out. But, I lived with my ex before we married...even had a child years before we married...in hinesight [sp?] I think I married him because I figured that I 'made my bed, may aswell lie in it' ...I was young and stupid and I thought that alot of things that bothered me would bug me less along the way or get better over time...and I was quite wrong.

This time. Nope again. Once again, I am living with him before...4 years...and I have gone through a lot and grown a lot...and I am really ready for this. I ENJOY life with this one...and I can see us growing together and we have gone through a lot together- more than most, and we are stronger together than ever...we are a team.

I vote for living with him first...and if things are still great, then marry.